They would be a individual person/circumstantial decisionBecause just living with parents isn't such an issue... There could be many legit reasons for that.. To judge someone just by the fact they live with their parents without knowing the person or their story/reasons is closeminded... What if they're their parent's caregiver.. What if they're helping their parents financially? And even if it helps "them" financially, bad things happen to good people.. I still have my home of 18 years, but it's been a struggle after a sick hubby for 13 years and then his death... So if I lost my home and moved in with someone, that means I'm a degenerate? I get to know a person before I make assumptions about them or their character or circumstances...
I think people judge this too much. NOW... this all depends.
Scenario 1:
If a man is living at home with his parents, doesn't work, has no aspirations or goals and doesn't have any bills... then you SHOULD NOT date that man.
Scenario 2:
If a man is living at home, has a career, goals and aspirations and is working towards moving out... you SHOULD date that man.
Personally... I am scenario 2. I lived with my parents until I was 28 years old. You might be asking... WHY? Because my vision was bigger than those around me. Let me explain. When I finished college, I had $60,000 in student loan debt. I used my time with my parents to:
1. Pay off all my student loan debt.
2. Invest money for the future.
3. Create side businesses for more income.
4. Buy 2 cars (I purchased 2 cars and they are paid for). The logic for this is because when I was younger... my 1st car used to break down once a week... so I told myself I would have 2 cars in case 1 ever broke down, I wouldn't have to rely on anyone else for a ride.
5. Buy a house and save a year's worth of mortgage.
At age 28, I accomplished all my goals, because I lived at home with my parents. Yes, I got clowned for it. Yes, women didn't want to date me. Yes, people kept asking me when I was going to move out.
However, due to my decision to stay at home that long, I am the only person out of all my friends who has their student loans fully paid, a house, 2 cars and businesses. Especially the house thing... since all my friends live in apartments.
It would depend on why. I dated a woman who moved back in with her parents after a breakup. I also dated a 19 year old who still lived at home. I also had my parents living with me for a while. Lease was in my name, I paid the majority of the bills which were all in my name, but my mother and her 4th husband lived there. From the outside it looked like I lived with my parents though. Especially as they had the master bedroom because I wamted to have the basement bedrooms (I worked nights and wanted the dark and quiet). So I certainly looked like I was a 30 something loser who lived in momys basement but I worked two jobs and rode a motorcycle to save cash.
There are a lot of cultures where moving out of your home if you are not yet married is considered strange. There are a lot of parents from many cultures in the world who would take offense to their unmarried children moving out and paying someone else rent when they can at least give their parents some money to support the house. I come from such a culture so no I would not turn down somebody just because they live with their parents.
My ex-husband, when he wasn't commuting back and forth between London and Paris as an options trader, lived with his parents. When he got married he left his home country and we lived in my mom's house because her idea I was like why pay someone else rental you could give me money. She lives elsewhere withher S/O and we lived in my childhood home.
Now we live in a completely different country and we pay rent it and our own respective places because we now are divorced.
Previously, we didn't have the means to do so and that's what's so wonderful about cultures that don't have this North American mentality of when you're 18 you better get out of my house because we had that support early on so that we could build a really strong foundation to be independent.
Now a deadbeat is a deadbeat whether they live in their own drinky-drink apartment and are always late on their rent or what is there a deadbeat with their parents. It really just depends on the person's character, their drive and ambition; not necessarily that they live at home.
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It’s not our place to judge others because there’s no telling what their situation is. If they drive, work, go to school or doing something with their life period, then we can build together. I accept people however they are because if tables were turned on me I would want them to accept me to while they live with their parents. I am married going on 11 years now. I came from a very abusive background and home. I was batting identity theft and much more a few years ago. I got my very first truck on my own just last year. It will take years to build my life back up. I’m currently about to move into our new home until our house gets done being built. I’m currently in two college at the moment. I’m saying all of this to say there’s no telling what hard times a person can fall on if they are living with their parents. many people in their 20’s moved back home because of the pandemic and other stressors. I’m currently 27 and life don’t really get started until you get 30 lol you just getting your shit together in your 20’s and you will be straight in your 30’s lol
i guess it depends on their age and circumstances. i still live with my parents and am 22, but because university is not a cheap ride even with the "generous" scholarships they offer. i don't really see the point of wasting money on a shabby apartment you rent just to be "independent" when you can move out of your parents' home at 30 once you've settled into a good career, started a nice pension for yourself, AND have some additional savings put aside to start a family, have babies, etc. i would save my money to buy a house, not a shabby one-bedroom apartment. if a man is ambitious, has a decent paying job, treats me well and does not have the personality of cardboard, i don't see an issue if he lives with his parents. maybe he is saving for a beautiful house, future family, etc. so long as i know the reasons. now, if he is lazy and has 0 ambition, goals or hopes for the future, that is entirely different. i am stubborn and driven. no matter how hard i find something, i will continue it until i succeed (and only if i care about an am passionate about that particular thing). i need a man to also have passion and drive (for a few things in his life, at minimum). if his plan is to live on mommy's couch till he is 50, that won't do. i think once a person is 40 and they still don't have their own place, that becomes concerning.
When I met my current partner he still lived with this parents and so did I (With my mom), mind you we where both at around 24 years old, also because in our town appartments are very expensive... Once our relationship got into a good and stable point we immediately rented an appartment and we're still living here.
So my point is, I don't think it's an issue living with parents, the real issue would be if he refuses to MOVE OUT !!! Because that's when I would defentily draw a line and tell him NOPE, we gotta live our own life or I will move on.
I respect my partners parents and all, but I wouldn't join them in their house and have a happily ever after... NOPE NO
Not everyone who lives with their parents mooches off of them. Did you know in other cultures this is normal? I still live with my parents but with the way I treat them and speak to them you would think I was the one taking care of them. I don't know why America is so anti parents to be honest. I pay them rent, pay my own bills, pay for the groceries every now and then, and I don't see anything wrong with that. If a woman doesn't want me because of that then good riddance. I can help weave out all the fake and unwanted people away from my life even easier.
Being someone who still lives with parents, I would hope people would consider seriously dating me. I am saving up for my own place and I do pay them rent. Living with parents doesn't change a person's personality, its just their living situation at the moment. For me I just can't afford to move out by myself at the moment.
I still live with my parents, but I definitely don't want to continue living with them for much longer. I've wanted out of this bird nest for a while, but I would rather not move out with a job where I barely make a living. I am trying to figure my shit out in life.
As for a girl, I have never cared whether they live with their parents ot not. I would expect them to desire to move out with me eventually if things became really serious, but overall when there's a will to make things work, there's a way. If you truly love the person, living with their parents temporarily should never be an issue.
There is 'still living with parents'. And then there is where the roles flipped and the son or daughter has become the caretaker. I don't think most women are able to make that distinction though. What are you supposed to do, put your parent in a home? Fuck that. Your parents deserve better than that. Old people get weaker and sicker as they age and they get to a point where they cannot be completely independent.
I hate how so many people throw their parents away when they get old. The people who sacrificed everything for the kid and the kids now grown, shove them out of sight and out of mind. When the parent now needs help to function, they outsource the duty to a 'home'.
I have seen it too often, it makes me sad. Sometimes parents are too sick and need constant care, well then there is no choice. But many people are quick to put a parent in a home rather than just let them live with them.
It's sad how we treat older people these days.
Why not? Living with your parents no longer has the stigma associated with it, in fact it's regarded as smart. My brother and his now wife lived at home until they were 30 and 28 respectively and it allowed them to purchase a nice house in 2016 that they are still living in. My dumbass moved out when I was 24, spent 11 years pissing my money away on rent and tried for years to buy a house and I was barely able to afford a shitty townhouse that I bought 2 years ago that is still falling apart to this day.
It would depend if it's because the parent is elder & it's to take of them that's understandable.
If it's for any other reason no.
It totally depends on the circumstances. If they just basically permanently lived there, didn't work, didn't contribute... no absolutely not.
If they had come on some hard times and moved back in while they got on their feet (and were actually working on it), in school, or generally helping their parents? Sure. I have no issue with that.
Just as long as they're not SO close they'd try and move me in with them and their parents. Because that would be too weird for me.
Yeah why not? As long as they’re not financially depending on their parents.
If he’s trying to get his life together and just needs a place to crash until he’s got investment money, I’m down for it. If he’s literally just living and mama bear is doing everything else, boy bye.
Would and have, with cost of living around here it’s pretty normal for people to still be at home in the mid 20s
But it’s definitely a bonus to be dating a girl that is on her own
Depends where you are in life really. If you’re still in college or freshly out of college I see no shame in saving up money by living with your parents. I actually think it’s pretty smart. The only reason why I wouldn’t get involved with that person is if they were still extremely dependent on their parents and have trouble making important life choices on their own.
If he were brought up in a culture where that’s common then maybe but if they are a Westerner like me where it’s not so common then no. In Western culture living with your parents usually means you’re too lazy to have your own life or you’re stuck financially and probably not ready for a relationship.
Nope. Parents complicate things and have unrealistic expectations for me and my partner. Them living in the same household as them just makes those concerns more frequent and immediate. I don’t want to have dinner with them all and get questions about marriage or kids, and explain why that won’t be happening. Not a fun conversation to have.
Nope, since I do not look at young girls as serious relationship material. The only woman I would have a serious relationship with is someone my age or up to 5 years older. If they are not financially secure at that point in their lives then they are not relationship material.
Depends on what stage of life we are both at and the reasons why he's living with them. If he is their caregiver or something like that then I'd understand, but if its a matter of him being super attached to his parents then probably not. If its a cultural thing then that depends on if he would be able to move out after marriage or not cause personally i wouldn't wanna stay with my in laws.
Yes. Maybe she doesn’t have enough money saved up to move out and she doesn’t want to be homeless so she is living with her parents, there can be other reasons why like she could have enough money but can’t find a great home 🤷♂️ I wanted to move out and get my own place but I don’t have the money for it so yeah
Only if they’re in school or working. I’m in College, work on the family ranch, and help take care of my grandparents. I’m not a NEET (Not in Education, Employment, or Training), and I don’t wanna be with one either. I have a friend who goes to the same college as me but she hasn’t even chosen a major and has no idea what she wants to do in life, and I don’t understand it.
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