Would you date someone who still lives with their parents?

Question

Assume you have your own place and they're not taking care of a sick family member.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would hope so! Lol. Living with my parents gives me the opportunity to raise my credit easier without the worry of paying all the bills and it allows me to save up. I don't plan on ever getting an apartment, my first place is going to be a house, one fit for a family. I strive to be prepared for a wife and children.

Living by yourself make it hard to save up for a sizeable down payment, of which I think I will try to save up around 10-15 thousand for.

Sevenpointfive · Accepted Answer

i feel like guys only move out to sleep with people. girls only move into guys apts. to move out.

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on why. I live with my dad for safety reasons. And because at the point that I was ready to move back into my own space, my mom died and I couldn’t leave my dad.
There are reasons for everything.

Gottabsavagee · Accepted Answer

Depends on their age. If they are 35 and still at their parents that wouldn’t be a good sign

coachTanthony · Answer

LOL women won't date men who live with their parents but they have no problem dating men that are married.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

At my age, most ladies do not have parents who are still alive.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong with it. If the guy lives with his parents because they pay his bills and treat him like a kid then no. Bye. But if he lives with his parents because he has to take care of them or it's hard to get his own house then it's fine... as long as he is hard-working and has morals. Not someone who mooches off his parents hard earned money. I have a brother who does that to my parents and I'm like hellll, I'm glad you don't got no girl liking you!!! Would be so damn embarrassing if he had a girlfriend. He would put the whole family to shame. Fool never had a real job for 20 years, lives off for free, parents pay his car insurance and for gas. Don't know wtf he's doing, don't know why he doesn't get a job. He's the 3% lazy ass people in my state who doesn't have a job because they simply don't want to have one. He basically lives for free, making my parents work. My parents are in their 58-68s... why the fuck do they need to work another 20 years for his ass? I hate boys and girls who are old enough to take care of themselves but have their parents pay everything for them!!! You won't get a girlfriend or boyfriend living like that. P. s. my brother is 34 years old. Yup. Don't live like that ladies and gentlemen, please don't lol.

AlienParasite · Answer

Depends on the age and what you do. If you are in your 20s and studying it's normal to live with your parents. If you are in your 20s and have just started to work so you can't yet afford the rent of a good house or to buy a house, it's ok too. If you are in your 30s (specially nearest to 40s than to 20s) and keep studying but have never worked before and keep living with your parents, it starts to get a bit weird... like that person doesn't have enaugh energy to face life or avoid adult responsibilities so it's taking him too much time to achieve what other achieve in their 20s, and that would look extremely unattractive, cause that would seem like he's childish, dependent, lazy or not very smart.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m currently living with my parents because of some financial issues but now I’m moving out at the end of the month. The only reasons why I would move back in with my parents is when I’m in one sort of financial crisis or have some sort of life problem in which I will not be ready for a relationship when I’m going through that. I usually assume when I guy lives with his parents at my age he’s either there for similar reasons as me or just has no life so I wouldn’t date a guy who still lives with his parents.

lumos · Answer

Nah. It would have to be under some pretty reasonable circumstances, but so far I can't think of any except for money reasons. But I'm not entirely sure I'd want to get into a relationship with someone who's struggling so much with money that they still have to live with their parents. I have my own place and I make my own money, so I kinda expect the same from my partner. I also like eating out and traveling, and I'm assuming he wouldn't be able to afford those things. I'm not saying he would have to pay for me, just for himself. Our lifestyles would probably be a bit too different. So I'm not really sure, but I'm leaning more towards no.

Cammy137 · Answer

Depends on their reasoning, although I lived with my parents when I met my girlfriend so I guess I can't really judge.
If the person lived with their parents because they spent their money on stupid shit instead of towards their own place, then no. If they lived with their parentd because they were in or had just finished university then it wouldn't be an issue.
Basically, it boils down to this: if they'd become comfortable living with their parents and had no immediate plans to move out, then I wouldn't date then. If they were staying there as a sort of stop-off point, then I would.

Alice2398 · Answer

Yes, I don't see anything wrong if it as long as they are paying their way and helping out around the house theirs lots of different reasons why someone might be living with their parents.

I for one still live with my parents because I can't afford a house in Britain right now because its so expensive and I don't like the idea of renting like a lot of others around my age still live with their family for the same reason in Britain its not uncommon.

Also they might be living with them out of care is they have elderly or sick family members they might need a lot of support and help around the house and prefer it to be family rather than a payed carer or nurse

yth0818 · Answer

Major cultural difference here 😅 In my culture everyone stays with their parents until they get married (unless they need to live in another place for work). With that basis, if the guy has a stable/good income but isn't contributing to the household - like not paying the mortgage or utility bills - it would be unacceptable. If he can't take care of his parents then he probably can't take good care of me or would even be dependent on me. (Not a gender thing but a capability thing.)

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on why they're still living with their parents. I guess a better way to put it is are they living in the same house as their parents but the relationship is that of tenants living together or are they dependent on their parents? Looking at the tenants one, even if they are living in the house their parents own and they don't pay rent, if they are still in school while working and are just living with their parents because it's financially the best choice for them then that'd be okay. I just wouldn't be able to date a girl who lives with her parents and the relationship is still that of parents and a young teenage child just entering high school.

gingerrockmomma · Answer

With the economy like is is today, I can understand living with parents to alleviate the costs of living, for the parent and adult child. But if the person isn't taking care of themselves and still relies on their parents' to clean, cook and pay all the bills, I'll pass

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

Most women say they prefer a man who is independent on his own, without considering "maybe the economic condition" or other ideas.
Men at least don't care about that situation for women as much, if not at all.

Add on these current conditions for young people just getting started, and all these men under 40 today aren't "middle-class" like their parents were, a lot of them are now unemployed or couldn't afford a house. So they remain single, and perhaps women remain single too sometimes.

The whole system is dysfunctional for both sexes in many ways.

UncleRayRay · Answer

Yes. I don't understand the stigma in the west of having to move out after 18. I live with my parents but pay them several hundred dollars a month in rent, but it is still maybe 1/3 the price of if I lived in my own apartment.

Literally saved 10's of thousands of dollars over the years living with them. It's great, they get money and someone to watch the house when they go out on the weekends & I get to save boatloads of money.

GoodManDave · Answer

Depends what they're doing, and what their potential is. There are other reasons why someone might live at home.

If she's somehow at home due to a divorce, getting cheated, somehow stolen identity, etc, I would be more open than if the woman was lazy and played video games all day, smoked pot, and or had maxed out credit cards on junk...

pumaOH24 · Answer

It depends on how old they are.
It depends on I f they are going to college or not if they are in their 20s.
If they are older (30s and 40s ) and doing it for a short time to get back on their feet or til they find a place then that’s fine.
I hate to say it but I got out of my parents house as soon as I could and never went back... unless it was to visit.

Hurlyburly · Answer

My boyfriend still lived with his parents as we started our relationship (he was 27 at this point). It didn't bother me at the slightest but I was living with my parents aswell at that point therefore my opinion might be biased.
I do not think that living on my own would have change my opinion about him though but I can only assume.

Chaz269 · Answer

"Still" as in never left home? Not a western woman, for sure. But there are cultures that still live 3-4 generations in the same home, quite happily and healthily. There's significant research showing it's better for children than absentee parents, or even daycare or nannies in many cases.
"Still" as in moved back home due to hardships? I wouldn't rule that out, but it's not exactly an attractive behavior if they're not caring for someone.

Factshurt90 · Answer

Yes, this economy is so fucked up I find nothing shocking about saving money at home.

Ellie-V · Answer

If they are in their early 20’s, with a job (somehow contributing to their parents’ bills) then I have absolutely no problem dating them if they’re still living with their folks.

skateranon123 · Answer

In my case my current girlfriend lives with her parrents and it's a none issue. I just moved State side from. Puerto Rico so I'm currently living with my family untill I get back on my feet in this new place but after that I'm out I've been independent since I was 16-17

Decentguy · Answer

Sure, i still live with my parents and im never going to leave them alone, in my country, a lot of people live with their parents, because we dont throw our parents in old age home when they get old, we take care of them and keep them in our own home and take complete care of them

Anonymous · Answer

Guys wouldn't care any less they would happily live in their mom's roof with sweatpants lmao it's usually girls that make men get a house and money to take care of their girlfriend/wife. I think girls feel more comfortable in a house together compared to guys. Guys would live with their mom and girlfriend or wife if the girlfriend didn't want a house.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm really surprised at the answers. Almost all guys said they don't mind if the girl still lives with her parents yet half of the girls expect the guy to live on its own
Hail patriarchy 😂😂

But yea it's none of his business if I live with my parents or friends or have a dog
If you have a problem with it hit the road

moonpie89 · Answer

I live at home with my parents so it's much easier when the guy doesn't either. Most guys my age have their own place so it hasn't been an issue yet. They don't mind that I still live at home.

SongBird3 · Answer

I mean my family believes in moving out when your married so Im not gonna judge a guy that follows that. Hey he saves money.

princessfromjupiter · Answer

It’s a pretty common thing for university students in Amsterdam if they are originally from here. Although not my preference (for obvious reasons) I wouldn’t reject someone over something that petty 😂

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Yeah I don’t judge them. Not everyone is giving equal opportunities and chances so I won’t really have a problem with it. They’re more welcome to come over to my place whenever they want

halfbowsey · Answer

I would and I have. Guys lean towards yes while girls lean towards no. I wonder why

-sunflowersss- · Answer

Hell yeah I live with parents and my SO does too. It's a culture thing though like in my culture you stay home with parents till you get married.

wankiam · Answer

the girl before my most recent ex was younger and still lived with her parents... saved me paying her bills lol

LadyMeow · Answer

No! They should jump at the opportunity to feed a (probably well off) stranger their money every month 😂 As long as he treats me right and wants to be useful, who cares?

JulieXO · Answer

I am currently dating someone who lives with their parents. It’s no big deal at my age.

Balcazaurus · Answer

Probably yes. I got my own place so we can always just chill there  However, if I'm lucky, his/her family would be big on family dinners and cook-outs. To which I would happily attend.

yasii · Answer

At my age, I'd say it depends on his reasoning. Maybe he id still in college and can't efford to move out yet.

AynonOMouse · Answer

Sure as long as she is willing to move out once we are ready to live together. It would actually make it easier than if she already was buying her own place, or had a rental contract she still had to fulfill.

totallygeneric · Answer

Well, I mean, that's kind of my only option at the moment lmao.

Figen · Answer

Only if they planned on moving out of their parents and made their own money or else I don't see a future there lol.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

It would be hypocritical of me to say no when im still at home with my parents. Plus my boyfriend is still at home as well so my answer is yes.

Introvert94 · Answer

I would. I see nothing wrong with it. It's a chance to save money and pay off debt if you have any. I think people rush out the house to quickly anyways because we have a culture of be independent.

JackJPershing · Answer

It really depends. Housing costs are astronomical where I live so if it's a situation where they are sharing costs it might not matter, and in fact tells me that the family thinks logically to solve problems.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Its pretty much the standard here. Unless you date foreign guys.

newPython · Answer

That's not going to affect whether I am going to date them or not. You can always find a private place to fuck.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I prefer girls who live with their family. It means they get along with their family and that they probably dont have 20 guys having sleepovers every other night.

markjohn9696 · Answer

in Egypt we r all stay with oyr parents due to high prices of apartments and even renting

SjE78 · Answer

yeah I have done, my last ex was living with her family  nothing wrong with it tbf

Frankenstein99 · Answer

Most likely, depends what her story is. If she was a complete trainwreck it'd probably give me pause though.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Have done. It can make things more awkward. I have my own place so just invite them there. Not the biggest deal

Aynsof · Answer

Well me being 40 and such I tend to go for my own age group it is up at a point where it would be weird... I would not say no exclusively on that but I would hope there to be a really good reason

Anonymous · Answer

If they are temporarily living there (for eg job hunting post redundancy). Not if they are living there out of choice / convenience and are over 26.

_hottchocolatee · Answer

I’m only 17 so most kids my age still do live with their parents

DakotaNorth · Answer

Yes but at my age I wonder why. My daughter is 18 and lives with me. I don't want to discourage her from dating.

Redstang88 · Answer

It’s a bonus if she doesn’t, but it’s not unusual for girls around my age to still live at home. Not the end of the world if she does.

LuckyDog1701 · Answer

Yes. Most societies had generational houses. The culture here is throw away and don't value tradition, so get away from family as fast as you can. How sad.

hammeronfire · Answer

assuming i have my own place, their parents would have to be cool enough for me to have them over for the night. if not, then no. since i dont, its my only option

Anonymous · Answer

as long as we hooking up constantly and having all sorts of fun and kinky sex then i wouldn't mind giggity giggity lol

Quidthonian · Answer

Yes. Trying to get "physical" with them might pose a logistical challenge, but if she ticks all my boxes, then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Who tf cares. I like people for their personality and not for what they own or how they live

NoPoliticsPlease · Answer

Sure why not as long as one of you has your own place and even if not there are always hotel rooms lol

arigirl · Answer

Living on your own is always better. Although living with parents isn't a bad idea. when we are all grown up they are getting old so they need us and our love for them. so i wouldn't mind dating a boy who lives with his family coz that shows that he cares about his loved ones and will do the same with me.

stf75013 · Answer

I can make them live their families, if it's make them leave ther families, I love their eye colors

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