Am I an unlovable man?

[LonelyAndBig]

There has been something weighing on my shoulders for a very long time.

I am 28, white, from the US, and I never had a real girlfriend. I am not the best looking guy in the world, probably average at best, and I am very short at 5 feet 6 inches. I am usually the shortest guy in the room by a big margin.

I have had a lot of setbacks and shortcomings over the years. I never really went to college that long, but I have companies interested in me wanting to offer me a 6 figure salary. I am a software engineer. Self taught.

As I said, I never had a real girlfriend. Most high school kids have more experience with relationships and intimacy than me. I haven't so much touched a woman in almost 8 years.

I am seeking a woman where we can be each other's first real relationship. I seek a woman that has never had a boyfriend or first love. That is a deal breaker.

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[Aerissa_Jade]

Not necessarily unlovable but your requirement where a woman has never had a relationship or first love, eliminate 99.9% of your potential dating pool. Almost every woman has had a relationship or first love, as you pointed out in high school.

Those that didn't then, did later.

Technically your not unlovable but you self limited your options.

Everyone has a "potential dating pool" at some point paths cross, but both sides have requirements and limit their pool.

It is possible though, you could find that one person in all the billions on the planet, but better start looking long and hard and be prepared for even those that like you when you find out they've had relationship before not being happy with you when you don't want them.

Best of luck to you 🍀.

[Anonymous]

"I seek a woman that has never had a boyfriend or first love. That is a deal breaker."

This is why you will remain single forever. You need a reality check.

[LonelyAndBig]

Why are you so determined I can't find that?

[KrakenAttackin]

We are all unlovable bruh. Women don't want men for a man's idea of love, we are units of status and production to them. A woman's love is much more mercenary than a man's love.

[LonelyAndBig]

I feel women are Pickler than men