I’ve heard some men often need to lose something to understand how great it was in the first place.
Is that the same with relationships / situationships?
We had an amazing time together (around 6 months) in which we saw eachother all the time. Went away together, opened up etc.
It’s ended because I brought up progressing our relationship and he’s scared and says I’m too good for him. He has low self-worth and doesn’t feel he is worthy or unlovable. He has trauma from past relationships and he also thinks he’s behind in life due to finding his career path a bit later in life.
This all came about when I asked for more and said he doesn’t feel capable of a relationship and is undeserving and focusing on work.
He apologised over and over and said how awful he felt because I was a great girl. I cried and he cuddled me all night and has checked in since.
He always said he really enjoyed hanging out, said I was awesome (saying things like beautiful, kind, funny, caring, best sex etc.) We always had a good time together and he said this often.
Is he confused and this a situation where ‘you don’t know what you have until it’s gone’ and he’ll realise this and come back?
Is is self sabotage due to his low self-esteem and believing he’s unworthy or unlovable?
Or does he just plainly not want me? If he wanted me would the above matter?
I’m driving myself crazy and heartbreak is rough.
Is that the same with relationships / situationships?
We had an amazing time together (around 6 months) in which we saw eachother all the time. Went away together, opened up etc.
It’s ended because I brought up progressing our relationship and he’s scared and says I’m too good for him. He has low self-worth and doesn’t feel he is worthy or unlovable. He has trauma from past relationships and he also thinks he’s behind in life due to finding his career path a bit later in life.
This all came about when I asked for more and said he doesn’t feel capable of a relationship and is undeserving and focusing on work.
He apologised over and over and said how awful he felt because I was a great girl. I cried and he cuddled me all night and has checked in since.
He always said he really enjoyed hanging out, said I was awesome (saying things like beautiful, kind, funny, caring, best sex etc.) We always had a good time together and he said this often.
Is he confused and this a situation where ‘you don’t know what you have until it’s gone’ and he’ll realise this and come back?
Is is self sabotage due to his low self-esteem and believing he’s unworthy or unlovable?
Or does he just plainly not want me? If he wanted me would the above matter?
I’m driving myself crazy and heartbreak is rough.
