I'm a 28 year old woman. My last relationship ended more than a month ago. I haven't been lucky in love. I've been beaten in previous relationships, I've been lied to, or been treated like shit. All my previous 3 relationships have hurt me in a way where I've almost given up on relationships. My family, cousin's, brother... etc. everyone that's close to me tells me I'm a woman and should get married and have kids. I mean don't get me wrong I wish I met a man who I wanted to spend my life with. But I don't want to get stuck in a marriage just for the sake of being married. And if I never get a chance to be a mom I guess that's not meant to be. But the pressure is too much. I'm not getting any younger but I still don't want to be miserable all my life but I don't want to end up alone either. I'm just so stressed. I just needed an outlet to let my frustrations out. I'm scared
1- of ending up alone or
2- ending up with someone for the sake of it and regretting it for life.
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Well first of all I have to disagree w the girl who said 99% of men are not marriage material. There’s a lot of good men out there who would make good husbands, providers. The problem is a lot of them don’t meet the requirements of many women. Especially looks so they will never get that chance. Too many women hold their standards way too high even if they don’t deserve it. You shouldn’t get married because of pure pressure. Most likely won’t work. Not that you need to explain it to your family but have you tried. Do they know about your previous relationships? How you were treated. So I will say this, which you may not like. I’m not trying to blame you, but there may be something about you that attracts these type of men.
Well I can assure you that you are better off alone than doing it just to be with someone, but dont overthink too hard, you'll find someone, it's usually when you least expect it and look in your friend zone, usually the right guy is under your nose and you don't even realize it.
99% of men are not marriage material.