Would You Prefer Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Being More, Less, Or Just As Smart As You?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Smarter please, I get wet when a man is smart.  If I see him reading, watching documentaries, having some serious conversations I have no idea about.  That is sexually stimulating for me.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Accepted Answer

More, pleeease. I'm proud to be a sapiosexual. 😂

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Well, hello there, lovebirds in the making! I must say, the brain is one sexy organ, isn't it? In the colorful world of relationships, finding that sweet spot of intellectual match-up is like dancing in the rain – exhilarating and slightly challenging. Personally, I’d vote for a partner with a similar level of smarts. Why, you ask? It's all about balance. Having someone on the same wavelength allows for those deep, meaningful pillow talks that can last until the sun comes up. Plus, it's pretty hot when you can challenge each other and grow together. But hey, in the end, it's not just about intellect, right? Emotional connection and a dash of laughter make the perfect cocktail for love. Cheers to finding that someone who gets your gears turning, both intellectually and romantically! What's your take on this deliciously complex question?

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Avicenna · Answer

About the same, I guess. It's perhaps more important to me that we have some similar interests.

Rei13 · Answer

Preferably around the same intelligence but otherwise smarter

sage2021 · Answer

Two people in a relationship must realize that they both had different life experiences, so naturally one will know more about something's and the other will have knowledge about other things.
No two people lived the exact same lives until they met.
I tried to explain this to my then boyfriend because he thought I was smarter than him.

Of course there were some things I was smarter at. I was a single mom, he never had kids. And the list goes on.

He had ADHD (Attention deficit hyper activity disorder) and I don't.

I am an intuitive thinker and street smart. I grew up without a father so I had to learn how to manage life on my own in a big city.
He grew up with parents and I didn't.

But he always tried to make me feel guilty for knowing things and he couldn't help but to learn new things around me.
So he was always making everything a competition. I didn't like that. Like I had a conspiracy against him.🙄

It was like there was nothing I could say to make him feel better unless I just stopped talking all together. Then he might have been happy with himself.

patois · Answer

It's better when they are smart rather than stupid. That said, I'm not going to hold my breath waiting for some attractive women with a genius level IQ. That's just not a realistic goal. Most women are of average intelligence, so that's were the most variety is found. If they happen to be mildly gifted, then that can help make them a little more intellectually stimulating, but it's not guaranteed. So as a result they get some brownie points if they are a little sharper than the other girls.

HawkPerception · Answer

Around the same level of intelligence. I feel like there's always going to be a dominant submissive dynamic and a relationship between man and woman. Men tend to want girls that are shorter, weaker, smaller, younger, and even slightly less intelligent. And women tend to want men that are taller, stronger, bigger, older, and more intelligent than themselves. It gives them something to look up to.

It's not that men look for dumb bimbos. We just don't want anyone to look up to in the relationship as a dominant partner. We prefer someone that we can teach or someone where we always tend to have more logic. So someone at a similar, but slightly less level of intelligence usually works. Not every guy will want the same thing, but I think for most, even if they don't admit it, it's what they desire.

sunflower00 · Answer

I’d say about the same. I love a smart man, I don’t think I could be with someone significantly less smart just as I believe the conversations and interests would be way off. Also, if he was significantly smarter the same thing, conversations and interests would be way off

molonski2 · Answer

Happy for her to be far smarter , so long as she knows how to use those smarts for general living , and I'd want her to know how to read a balance sheet , then she can do analysis for me , so not purely academic smart , business smart , life smart , these are often the issue with the highly intelligent , that's certain.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

I guess I would want her to be smart, but on the other hand I wouldn't want her to be SO smart that I feel like an idiot when I talk with her.

Maybe we could be equally intelligent, but know about different things, so we can both learn from each other.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Doesn't matter, though NO TOTAL NITWITS !!!(It'd be EXTREMELY DIFFICULT to find someone else with a 165 or so IQ, which is in the 99.66% or so percentile of intelligence, but it'd be cool to find a hot, bright chick who was also girly and a bit bubbleheaded !!!)

Anonymous · Answer

Equal.

But then people talk a lot about equal. I don't think it exists between highly complexed entities.

Balanced would be a better term. Two people with roughly equivalent capability and with strengths and weaknesses in complementary areas, making a stronger and more capable whole.

theycallme_jd · Answer

About the same smartness is the best choice tbh.

If she would be smarter than me I would feel guilty for not contributing much in the relationship.
If I'm smarter than her than I wouldn't have someone to discuss most issues with, as she wouldn't have an actual idea.

If we're equal then we're both learning and improving together, along the way.

NathanDavis · Answer

doesn't really matter... they've been smarter at some things, in some ways... but not everything, and I think that applies to everyone

Revolutioner_83 · Answer

i have been talking a girl nowadays, we have started to flirt and i saw that she is very smart as much as me.
i am glad for this. both of us are smart and emotional. I think we're right for each other.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I'm always learning. I need someone who challenges me to keep the spark. I love nerds.

Pupweb · Answer

I say smarter but we both learn from each other

midnightmoon05 · Answer

smarter in areas that I am weaker… much better this way.

bobalife · Answer

Talk nerdy to me, please 🤭 intelligence is sexy, so I’m for “more “ in a partner

DJRiddle · Answer

More. I last tested at 151 IQ and got a 99 on the ASVAB with the lowest GT score of 142. It would be nice...

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

As long as she’s not dumb, i don’t put much stock in a woman’s intelligence.

Juxtapose · Answer

I want her to be smarter because then she'll be more interesting and competent. Also less likely to be immature.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I want a partner, not a follower or a leader

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Equal feels comfortable 😂😆 maybe she can no some basic medical stuff than I can

Anonymous · Answer

If he’s smarter than me. Even Better lol. Thats a Good thing lol 😂😂😂😂

Anonymous · Answer

I would love for my boyfriend to be smarter than me.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Same or more. I can’t  stand  stupid, uneducated men. Therefore, definitely not less.

LiamJHayden · Answer

In the real world I am likely to be smarter in some ways and she in others.

OtterMan68 · Answer

If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@physics-man I prefer her to be just as smart as me. I prioritize being able to bond over shared interest in manga, anime, & video games.

debbiedenise · Answer

That depends on my hair color for the day. Ha ha!

lmkimcurious · Answer

Smarter but humble about it

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she's my type of girl, it doesn't matter.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

More, I want to grow too :)

clampfan101 · Answer

At least equal, but the smarter the better.

Anonymous · Answer

Anything but less.

Anonymous · Answer

> intelligence to myself

Likes2drive · Answer

Probably equal

Deserter2 · Answer

About the same

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