Does flirting with someone in a relationship make you a homewrecker?

Question

If you're flirting with someone knowing they're in a relationship, are you a homewrecker, or is their relationship their problem to protect?

DragonDan444 · Accepted Answer

If you’re intentionally flirting with someone in a relationship then even entertaining the idea is wrong there is only a few ways it can end and none are good. Number one flirting with someone whose loyal will at best be very awkward they may pretend to not notice it, avoid you, become uncomfortable, and even tell their partner.

For someone disloyal be honest if you’re entertaining the idea of something like that chances are in the right place at the right time you would absolutely jump at the opportunity.

However, home wrecking is tearing a family apart and is extremely evil. Many times when people intentionally go after people in relationships they inside are extremely envious of someone else’s relationship as well as want to prove something to themselves that love isn’t real after all they cheated with me. It’s a power thing…. Some people may also develop feelings for someone in a relationship but someone with morals will know it’s wrong and will reject the idea of doing that.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I think home wrecking starts when there’s an explicit suggestion to sneak around into an illicit relationship.

Harmless flirting is harmless.

That being said I would expect the person in the relationship not to engage with it or flirt back.

Because ultimately the burden of loyalty falls on the partner in a relationship and not the outsider.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Talking -- like asking about the weather or reviewing a question etc -- is ok. FLIRTING -- the drawn out "HEEEY" with the coy smile and anything that would follow that -- is not ok.

HawkPerception · Answer

Definitely is. If you're engaging with someone with the intention of drawing their attention to yourself and making them feel desired while knowing they're in a relationship, you're definitely crossing a line. If they take the extra step and take the bait, that's crossing it further.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How would you feel if some other chick flirted with your dude , knowing he and you were in a relationship?

Finchie40 · Answer

No, it takes 2 to tango , so it ‘s up to them to make that decision

texasgirl012 · Answer

No. Cheating with someone doesn't make you a homewrecker. It's their promise, not mine. Besides, if a man has what I really need most, there is no way I'm going to be able to resist it anyway. Just because a man does something with a girl doesn't mean he doesn't love his girlfriend or wife. Men aren't wired to be able to give up the chance at a girl they find really hot, any more than girls who love size are able to say no to attractive men who have it. That's just not how it works. We shouldn't be so judgmental of people for acting on how they were born. The real problem is the possessiveness that says those who have special gifts are the property of just one person they are in a relationship with. But neither gender is wired that way.

been_burned_b4 · Answer

I really think that innocent flirting is harmless and fun (for the most part.) Of course, things can ultimately go too far. One thing I would like to know … is the question directed to the flirter or to the recipient of flirtation? The flirter might have an ulterior motive for a multitude of reasons. The recipient would have to evaluate his/her circumstance. Is the flirter looking for a new relationship or maybe just a one-nighter? There are so many variables, each situation unique to each person therefore, there is much to consider on both sides of the equation.

Anonymous · Answer

You know it’s getting hard to imagine a woman ever showing me that kind of attention in that photo. Dressing nice and sexy, flaunting her figure. Wanting to be seen. It’s a complete foreign concept to me, how it must feel to be on the receiving end of that.

I also feel on the flip side very few women have the tact, class, and confidence to even pull this kind of thing off in an appealing way in the first place, if they even do at all. They all seem too proud (or insecure) to love or receive love from a man.

I don’t mean to stray from the topic, this was just the first thing that came to mind when I saw this photo and thought it was a worthwhile point, and maybe it’s not, but again, first instinct.

Anonymous · Answer

i've done this before but usually its cause the girl has a job that puts her in a position to have to meet guys like myself such as bartender or server at restaurant. so i know that she has a boyfriend but go there anyways and talk to her and such

some of these boyfriend are idiots anyways so i don't really care much what they think , one got all upset because his girlfriend ( who knows me through her work ) said hi to be at a street festival , thats it , all she did was say hi to me and he basically throw a hissing fit and such. over basically nothing ad obviously i knew she had a boyfriend so not like i had any expectations that we'd like do anything this summer

OneViewpoint · Answer

You're not a homewrecker, you're an asshole. But yes, you wouldn't be able to flirt unless there was someone willing to flirt back. I get a LOT of married women flirting with me, and even asking for my number. Am I an asshole? Maybe. I mostly shut it down or laugh it off. But I can also understand that there are people trapped in relationships they don't want to be in looking for a little relief in flirting and affairs. It's not my place to judge them.

Karrimurray · Answer

Honestly, I think it depends on whether you know they’re in a relationship. If you knowingly flirt with someone who’s committed, especially if you’re trying to get them to cross a line, then yes, I think you’re partly responsible. But at the end of the day, the person in the relationship is the one who made the commitment. You can’t ‘steal’ someone who is determined to stay loyal.

NathanDavis · Answer

it would not so simple as to just "flirt"

it would depend on so many other circumstances and context but... generally speaking

flirting alone would not destroy "a home" and it does... then that wasn't a home, that was already in shambles...

ManOnFire · Answer

Doesn't make you a homewrecker, but definitely not respectful. I've been guilty of flirting with women in relationships before, and others have done it with me without me ever starting it. Even if it feels good, it's something we should try not to do.

JHNS98 · Answer

Funny question this. I remember being flirty with a friend who was in a relationship back in high school, but the knowledge of their relationship thanks to them having it official on Facebook really wrecked me. Took a long time to heal from that:

But this is also relevant here.

loveslongnails · Answer

Whatever the definition of flirting is here, if that's all it takes to wreck someone's relationship, they didn't have one to begin with. It doesn't matter if she just says "Well aren't you a nice man" or " I'm way better than your girlfriend, and besides, she's fucking my brother so you should be with me", if that breaks up your home, you don't belong there.

A woman who tries those tactics is a neon sign. No sensible man would want her anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Most decent people know someone in a relationship is "persona non-nookie". A person who flirts with someone in a relationship already is demonstrating that they are trash. And anyone with half a brain KNOWS that that is a clear red flag to stay away from that person.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

👀 in that example photo, clearly there's some staring flirting going on and I find it concerning. Because clearly they're both dressed to impress and are only thinking about themselves becoming cheaters / individual infidelity 🫣🫣🫣 terrible

AnnaJuist · Answer

It depends on what type of "Flirting" and to what degree.
I sometimes tend Bar... Men usually flirt. I give as much as I receive. (To a point)
Like the saying goes..."You get more Bees with Honey, than with Vinegar" (Most Americans say "Flies" instead of Bees... But I think Flies are gross... lol)
I get bigger tips when I flirt back... And most men enjoy it. Even some women do as well.

RavVid · Answer

It has been researched and found that flirting makes people less happy with their spouse.

Even though you do no more than mild innuendo, you are still sowing seeds of discontent and being disruptive in that relationship.

choco-latte · Answer

Not necessarily a “home-wrecker” if you haven’t started a relationship or sleeping with someone that’s taken, but it does make you super shady.

Nikki1989 · Answer

90% of the time, no. Some of us are natural flirts; we do it without realizing we are doing it.

ericJackson · Answer

​Whether intentionally flirting with someone in a committed relationship makes you a homewrecker or simply disrespectful depends on intent, context, and how far things go.

Anonymous · Answer

Married Men flirting with single women okay most of the time.
Married women flirting flirting with anymen just a no no.
Because most men are living a life without they are rejected everyday by friends, family and they don't have any support around them, that one meaning less thing give them most dangerous things.
Meaningless hope.

RedScarlet1990 · Answer

Flirting when you knew they are in a relationship? Sorry, this goes against girl code

Chayce · Answer

If you're flirting with someone married or if someone was flirting with my "wife", it shows she could be swiped. And the relationship would be promptly over

Sunshinelips · Answer

The word homewrecker is only used when betrayed wives are hurt that their husband’s cheated on them because he wanted someone better or younger.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s certainly. It a good thing. But at the same time he’s the one who committed to marriage, not you. So he needs to put a stop to that. Most likely he’d confront you, tell you that’s inappropriate, that we cannot be friends if you’re going to act this way. But ultimately he needs to end is asap unless that’s what he wants.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Would you do that if his girlfriend/wife is present?

Anonymous · Answer

Flirting with someone who is in a relationship does not inherently make you a "homewrecker," as a single person cannot single-handedly dismantle a relationship without the active participation of the partnered individual.

chechememe95 · Answer

My guy says, “just because you’re on a diet, doesn’t mean you can’t look at the dessert cart.” I tend to disagree though. If we didn’t get along so well and have so much else in common, I’d hit the highway.

jshm2 · Answer

LOL, no. Nothing wrong with a flirt now and then. It's taking things further that leads to issues

lilBigPotato · Answer

Not saying it's a good thing to do, but it takes 2 people for it to become a problem.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Homewrecker, they can destroy their relationship but it's not going to be me the reason... I respect relationships plus i never date or misbehave with a taken woman...

FreyaRed · Answer

It's not a home that can be wracked with a flirt

Iron_Man · Answer

I wouldn’t know that she was married most that I have flirted with have been people that just walked into my life real quick passing through like at a restaurant or walking by

Anonymous · Answer

We are in a relationship and we both get flirted with all the time. It hasn't changed anything between us.

MrChinaski · Answer

No, talking to someone of the opposite sex is normal.

Maria1986z · Answer

Getting with them might though possibly involve Loring them to you.

Bricealan · Answer

@rachyrach The pic you show is stupidity personified., for both of them. Who does that in real life?

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Every woman cheats. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM. Alls it takes is the right guy. Don't matter who comes on and replies no never would I ever... BULL SHIT!!! All u woman do.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

It takes two to flirt. One to flirt, and one to flirt back.

theskyrider · Answer

If the girl is flirting with an intention of getting into relationship with the man then she is a Homewrecker. High quality women don't do that

blackeagle007 · Answer

Why would anyone do that? If someone flirted with my companion, knowingly they are taken, I’d be pissed.

Smegskull · Answer

I don't think flirting is a problem in and of itself. The intent is where the problems arise.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No your not a homewrecker if you flirt with someone in a relationship thats harmless

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

You can look but don't touch!

kinks1951 · Answer

Flirting will not wreck a home, there must already be some problems

_Jenny_ · Answer

@rachyrach probably doesn’t help

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Only if her tits look like the photo lol

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yes I think it also shows someone character

EveryDayIsPretzelDay · Answer

Both can be true at the same time.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. You’re just as bad as he is.

Anonymous · Answer

That home isn't yours. Why do you care

Staximus · Answer

A little bit of both

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

Seems like something you shouldn't do

dudeinohio · Answer

Definitely inappropriate behavior.

Kelly6 · Answer

@rachyrach its their problem.

Adogdog · Answer

That's a tough one LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Makes you a slut.

Acidbee · Answer

When she usimg her tits thst way why nit

MasterKS · Answer

It depnds upon a person.

Anonymous · Answer

It's their business to control themselves.

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