Would you like your husband or partner to be smarter than you or dumber than you?

[TenderFantasy]

Can't chose equal. You gotta choose one only.

Smarter

Less smart

[NathanDavis]

all my partners have been smart and intelligent in more than way... for example, intellectually and emotionally, and others...

so, in some ways they're been smarter than me about some things... and, as long as they are smart in the first place, I do not care for more or less

[Anonymous]

I really don't worry about it. Because I tend to be attracted to people around the same intelligence as me.

[DaveJord]

In my experience I do better with smarter women, because if she is smarter then me then she will realize how smart I am and how lucky she really is.

When comes to less smarter women, they eventually get intimidated by the people they perceive to be better than they are... because eventually the stupid comes out and then they feel that you are making them feel less than. Which is not true, because honestly its always more about their own insecurities then anything to do with you.

Smarter women know what it is they want and are looking for and what they are getting into before you even start dating.

[bamesjond0069]

Doesn't really matter. Intelligence is not an important factor for a serious relationship.

However I've found moderate intelligent women often have a flaw for relationships. Dumb women say "wow you're smart, I trust you to make the right decision for me." Smart women say "it's psychologically in both our best interest for me to follow your lead and appropriately offer input." Moderate intelligent women say "I'm really smart and I know what's best and I know better than you" basically know it alls that don't actually know shit.

Tbh all my serious relationships were with half very low iq women and half very high iq women. Never got very serious with an average iq woman before, never found one I got on well with.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Not a fair question. My wife is a much smarter person when it comes to book learning and remembering things whereas I’m more intuitive mechanically and better at visually learning. We compliment each other in our strengths and therefore a perfect match.

[Berethor]

I would choose less smart for my male pride, but it does not matter as much as strength.

https://qz.com/441905/men-are-both-dumber-and-smarter-than-women

[RavVid]

I'm reasonably up there so I'm not going to make it a priority in a girlfriend and narrow my options even more. There are a lot more valuable traits I want for from a girl one of which is emotional intelligence and a love of family.

[lucasnabizada]

I'm not sure how you even categorize that... Smart or dumb... Do we mean more diplomas or who has more emotional intelligence. Having been to school doesn't necessarily make you smarter or dumber it's merely career education.

I would think in both instances I would want somebody on par with me, someone more intelligent is also alright i guess as long as she doesn't treat me as inferior or something...

[UmbrusNightshade]

Smarter. As an INFJ male I have a high degree of instinct and emotion so having a woman who is similar in instinct but higher in logic, I think would balance out the relationship. Plus, I am a sucker for brilliant women.

[TheVigilantFox]

That’s hard because I don’t like people smarter than me as I feel dumb, and I don’t like stupid people as they get on my nerves , but I guess I’m having an idiot. 🤣 oh lord help me.

[FreyaRed]

At least equal. Dumb fucks good but is tiresome after few hours outside bedroom.

[TenderFantasy]

I said no equal answers.

[OfMiceandMen]

If she's smarter, I don't have to think anymore then! LOL I am kidding. I would like her to be smart, so we can converse on a similar level.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Smarter.

It'd be nice to be able to learn things off of them.

[TenderFantasy]

So you're gonna use them for their "intelligence"? lol.

[Sevenpointfive]

i need a smart girl because i can't be with an idiot. i can't babysit

[TenderFantasy]

My question, like I said, did not state that you had to be with someone STUPID, just someone either smarter than you or dumber than you somewhat. It doesn't have to be idiot level... unless you are saying you are also.. I hope you get what I mean lol. Not trying to insult.

[Sevenpointfive]

if they are dumber than they are an idiot

[exitseven]

She is a lot smarter than I am and so far so good.

[TenderFantasy]

Smart enough to where she cheats on you and you don't know about it? Smart enough to steal money from you as well without you knowing? Smart enough to MANIPULATE you into doing what you aren't comfortable doing? I don't think I would like that, not at all.

[exitseven]

@TenderFantasy Not everyone is untrustworthy.

[SnowedIn]

Smarter than me, please. I need all the help I can get!

[Anonymous]

My wife is less smart than me. Very foolish in a lot of ways but has a good heart, is loyal and has a big set of tits.

[TenderFantasy]

Lol that last part wasn't necessary lol.

[Pleebody21]

doesn't matter. I've been in the high end most of my life but love debates about real things.
Intelligent people talk about ideas, Smart people talk about things and the rest talk about games

[Makeushiver]

Honestly believe the most important erogenous zone is between a woman's ears, not just between her legs. I think smart is very sexy

[soe11]

I like my girlfriend should be smarter, sexy, slim and liberal view and no religion, but honest and trustworthy.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ll put it this way. I just don’t wanna date a girl that’s stupid

[TenderFantasy]

Nothing in my question indicated that you had to be with someone stupid, unless you're stupid yourself! Lol.

[TenderFantasy]

I didn't mean that as an insult.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve been with a girl that was smart but made really stupid decisions

[Blackcupcake]

he can be smarter than me in certain ways… and I can be smarter in other ways

[Blackcupcake]

well thank you

[Blackcupcake]

what?

[Blackcupcake]

nope