Caught cheating does he stay?

[Anonymous]

If a married man is caught cheating several times and didn’t give up the one he is cheating on for over a year and half - kept seeing her and hiding it the best he could from the wife and wife tells him to end it for the second time after getting caught again and he does end it because she told him to - will he regret it? How long would that marriage last if she made him end the relationship vs him ending it? Would he eventually go back to the one he was cheating with?

[DoctorSex]

The problem here is the fact that he hid it from you. That sounds pretty obvious but there's something he is not communicating to you. Men cheat for a variety of reasons, Some being purely sexual (I'm no fan of cheating by the way, I find it very disrespectful)
But the most common reason I have found for why men cheat is because he finds the woman he is with unmanageable. In the ideal situation, a woman loves her husband and he is her Shepard. That's how it tends to work 90% of the time in a successful relationship.
However if the man finds that his woman does not listen, does not follow and there's a contention for leadership.
Then a man will express that need to Shepard elsewhere.

So the question is not whether he'll go back to her, the question is what is she giving him, that he isn't getting in his current relationship. Because whether she is there or not, the issue of his feelings of inadequacy/powerlessness as a leader still remain.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex