Why do some cheaters want to stay with the person they cheated on?

[Liliesxoxo]

After reading the post of what love cheaters experience, I got my own spinoff question.

It's not about why some people take back and stay with the cheaters. That can be explained by low self-esteem. I'm switching the question... why does the cheater wants to stay with the person they don't love nor respect. What are they exactly gaining from getting taken back? Why can't they happily go with their AP (affair partner)?

They planned the cheating and were probably neglecting their partner in the progress. When caught, some beg for a 2nd chance. Why do they (the cheater) want to stay with the cheatee?

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Even if the cheater really reforms and never does it again, why would they want to stay in a dysfuctional relationship with someone that will never trust them, that will have triggers, that will be hurt for so long?
They can just easily let the cheatee go, free them from such torture and misery. The cheater at some point will get tired of their outburst, their distrust, the argument. The cheater isn't gaining anything in that relationship either.

[sheenagwapa]

i can't relate because i wasn't really technically cheated i was just lied on. i am not an option and people don't respect that but i was beinh put an option without my knowinh, i was peeped on. i did everything in the name of love because i thought i just have to heal before consider the possibility of datinh (to anyone who has ocd please pray that you just die treatment can get extremely harsh) i learned makeup, dress to look nice despite having no money and if you're getting bigger and bigger due to high level of anxiety and stress it is extremely hard to look decent but i did it all because of that LIE by the way what i mentioned is just the tip of the ice berg of what i did


anyway so after everything i've done i just learned that the guy who lied to me is monitorinh other girlS including my own cousin


i'm an emotional person but i'm also actually highly reasonable. his camp keep insinuating that it's just because i'm arrogant and bitter and insecure when the main cause of my anger is not jealousy but the injustice and cruelty i experienced

[Anonymous]

They thinks it's still love. They really have no understanding of how toxic they really are.

[Liliesxoxo]

I think what they're just in love with the idea of love, which just means infatuation or lusting over the partner. That's not the same as mature love, where you would never place your needs on top of the relationship.

[Liliesxoxo]

I don't know they can have feelings but it's distorted I guess. It's not a healthy part of love. It's more like an impusive kid liking chocolates for the sake of liking it.

[Opinion Owner]

And that's fine if it was ONLY affecting them. But it's not. Cheating is selfish, plain and simple. If you want to pursue something with someone else, fine. But end it with your current partner. To do otherwise show you don't really care about your partner.
And a lot of people who cheat try to rationalize it. Women will say thier partner drove them to it it's thier fault. Men will use the b. s. excuse that it's in a man's nature. But what both are saying is I just don't want to own up to my actions.

[genericname85]

i guess cause it's not them who lost their trust cause they've been cheated xD

[eagle1951]

they still love the one they are with.

[Liliesxoxo]

I guess but they're not gaining anything. They are going to be stuck in a dead-end, killed relationship full of drama with someone that distrusts them, will have triggers and things are never the same.

[gag6474]

i woudnt

[Liliesxoxo]

I know but sometimes I wonder about it. I know why some take back cheater but I'm now also wondering why does the cheater want to be someone they treat like garbage, with someone they don't truly love?