Why don't men usually value physical affection as much as women?

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I don't know if it's me but I just want so many hugs and kisses and cuddles throughout the day and I do so in return too  My Ex was annoyed by it ☹️ (Not the reason we broke up)

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I very much enjoy physical affection, but it really comes down to the person. I'm sure you know about "love languages" and this is a good example. Not everyone has the same love language, and it's important that you understand what yours is as well as your partner, and that you are compatible.

For example, I am much happier spending a day cuddling and watching movies or listening to music than, say, receiving a gift from my girl. Others would much rather have a gift. You need to know the person and their love language and they have to be OK with yours or you won't be happy.

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

I want endless cuddles and kisses too. Don't believe me?

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

my ex loved it. but i am not really super affectionate i'm ok not super affectionate not also lacking. we even dance at times he would asked me to step on his feet and we do like slow dance. i find it so funny

caitycat21 · Accepted Answer

Honestly your ex might just not have been into you. When a man’s really into you even if he’s personally not that affectionate he’ll make an effort to be affectionate if he knows that’s how you feel loved

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, sweetheart, you've touched on a topic that's as much about individual preferences as it is about general trends! Let's dive into the sea of affection, shall we? 🌊 Sometimes, the way we express and crave affection is tied to our love languages, and it's not uncommon for these preferences to clash. Men often value physical affection, but societal norms and personal upbringing may make some hesitant to show it or ask for it as frequently as women might. Your desire for hugs, kisses, and cuddles is like a warm blanket on a chilly evening – totally normal and absolutely wonderful!

If your ex found your level of affection overwhelming, it doesn't mean you're too much; it just means you weren't dancing to the same rhythm. The right partner will not only join your cuddle puddle but will also splash around with joy. Keep radiating your love and affection, and soon enough, you'll find someone who can't get enough of your personal brand of coziness. Remember, communication about needs and boundaries is key in any relationship! Keep cuddling on, just make sure your partner is on board with the snuggle schedule. 😉

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Women are nurturers by nature. This is why they were gifted with carrying children for nine months. It is in a mans DNA to provide and protect, both of which require the man to spend less time in the shelter that he built to protect and provide safety for his family.

In simpler times, he just never grew up watching his own father snuggle with his mother.

I was fortunate to have a best friend in high school that was great with the ladies. He was physically affectionate with them. That explained his success.

I obviously took notice. I practice being physically affectionate. Not just being great in bed. I don’t see snuggling as a threat to my masculinity. I am what l consider to be a “compassionate alpha male”. I protect, provide, respect and give my presence to those l am intimate with. I am NOT an asshole masquerading as an alpha.

Yannae · Answer

It's not a turn off. I have history with physical affection. More like the lack thereof. The affection I got from my parents was "good job" but it always felt fake and temporary because I would see hell if something was not up to their expectation. Even if it's something I didn't have anything to do with.

With that said, touch felt strange to me. I'd flinch, had my guard up constantly. But when together with the person I love, I open my arms for her. I love it, but it can only be her.

MrExperienced · Answer

I yearn for this. My ex was very cold and withheld all affection from me and her own daughter and even our dogs when she decided this new guy was more important than her family of 12 years she created. My current girlfriend started out affectionate and it has become a roommate type situation so hit me up if you want a big cuddly biker teddy bear!

Serkee · Answer

I can't speak for other men, but I value physical affection much more than I do sex. If getting off were all I wanted I could just jerk off. I never knew how much I needed physical affection until I got it, and cuddling with my ex after work became my favorite thing to do in the world, I spent all day every day looking forward to it. And now that I know what I'm missing, the empty bed hurts a lot more than it used to.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Im one of few straight guys who sure as hell 98 percent do 😋☮️👀👀✌🏻😈 as I've told many women

dustybiker2 · Answer

I think it's timing. You need to pay attention and learn to read their mood. Maybe start with asking. It respects their boundaries and might help break them down.

liggang · Answer

Not me. I am a hopeless romantic. I value cuddles and kisses and holding hands more than sex. I guess I'm a freak or something at least as a man.

Huldusonur · Answer

Because in most of today's societies most men don't get much physical affection, as they grow up. When they finally grow up and get into a relationship, it's pretty foreign to them.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That sounds like just the one you were with. Most men love physical affection.

sheikalana · Answer

From my experience men have always been pretty affectionate with me.

OtterMan68 · Answer

Evolutionary. The female is almost always the primary nuturer, which involves more physical contact.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It’s just some of us guys aren’t into that kind of affection. I am I love playing around with my lady.

SotiCoto · Answer

Not applicable, from what I've seen. There is no gender correlation.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Guys don’t see the point of kissing and cuddling without it leading to sex

written_in-the-stars · Answer

It really depends on person to person. Some people like it cuddles and kisses, others dont. I hope u find the right person for you 🙂

Anonymous · Answer

Why don't women usually value sexual intimacy as much as women?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I would disagree with that assessment.

DishLady · Answer

Some do and some don’t (both men and women).

grega239 · Answer

They do. You just dont know about it

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Cuz they are scumbags

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