Okay, this is a long story but I'll keep it as concise as possible. Basically I was in a committed relationship with this guy for about a year. I was deeply in love with him, he said he was with me, and we were so happy. But 6 months in he cheated on me once, I forgave him, but he continued to flirt with other girls constantly. I'd catch him every time, and guess what, forgive him. I used to try to leave all the time but he would beg me to stay. Let's just call it a bit dysfunctional. So by the end of the relationship I was a mental wreck, super insecure, and paranoid. I'd always be questioning everything and he would always get super defensive, and this was a clear indication to me that my suspicions were correct. The last straw was when I caught him through text messages. He was trying to sleep with one of our mutual friends, which I had accused him of before and he denied. I told him to end the friendship or I'd leave, and he said he wouldn't end it so I broke up with him finally. The months that followed that were hell for me. I was so depressed and lonely and insecure, I felt inadequate. He started dating that girl, who is now his current girlfriend. The thing is that ever since we broke up, he hasn't left me alone. It has been almost 8 months now, and no matter how long I don't answer he will call, text, email, etc. saying that he loves me and that the biggest mistake of his life was letting me go. At first I believed him and gave him a chance, he said he'd leave her and come back. Big surprise, he backed out and say he wasn't going to leave her. This happened multiple times. Now he is back saying the same old thing he's been telling me for the last 8 months and frankly, I am sick of it. I feel like I have moved on, but his constant communication is dragging me backwards. I am admittedly still very bitter about the relationship, and what I want to do is lash out and hurt him. How do I get past this?! Why does he keep telling me he wants me, but then refuses to end his other relationship? Why does he expect me to believe a word he says? How do I get it through his thick skull that I really think my love has turned into hatred? I think he has some kind of psychological problem. Or maybe he's just a man :p In any case, I want out of this situation so I can heal myself from the inside out and be able to approach new relationships with optimism rather than the cynicism I have now. Can you guys help me out?
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