My ex boyfriend ruined my life....what should I do?

[JapanTomboy]

So I dated this guy for over a year. He was abusive, cheating and doing drugs and no matter what I did I couldn't get out of it. My current boyfriend helped me leave him and we thought it was the end of it. But ever since he came back to school (he was expelled but they overturned the ruling), he's made my life complete Hell. He got a new girlfriend who is only 13 or 14 years old (he's 18) and is my EXACT replica; because she entered the picture all my friends ditched me! They don't invite me to parties or "Girls Night" anymore, they're always uninterested in what I have to say, when we DO hang out they talk nonstop about her and him...and he spread a rumor that I was cheating on him with the school flirt/my boyfriend's friend as well as other guys so kids at school are calling me a slut, a bitch and everything in between. It won't stop! We tried talking to teachers/staff and even the police once but they all claimed I was lying out of anger of "him dumping me", What should I do? Can I do anything to him in legal terms?

[think_of_the_bubble]

Something like that happened to me as well. A guy hacked into my hotmail account, impersonated me and sent offensive e-mails to everybody on my contact list. My friends believed me when my first e-mail account was hacked into, but when he kept hacking into my other e-mail accounts (he got my new address by hacking into my friend's e-mail accounts) they stopped believing me.

You need to establish a rapport with others by showing them that you have something to offer and that you are a person of value. If you have a couple of loyal friends to stick by your side after they see how smart and wonderful you are, they will defend your reputation, and eventually all these bad voices and gossip will be neutralized. You cannot fully control others, but you can make sure that no matter how bad things get, you have a circle of supporters who won't listen to the lies that are being said about you. Also if you carry yourself in a certain way, you can convince others that you are beyond reproach.

For example: If a girl had 90 - 98% female friends, do you think anybody would believe that she is a slut? Study different ways that you can secure and create an image / reputation for yourself that others can't refute and above all... don't let him get to you.

[Anonymous]

You should move on with your life instead of dwelling on this guy that doesn't deserve your attenteion or energy

[gummybear888]

you need to get new friends and he should grow up.

this guy is garbage.

[hunterfan]

dont think there in anything you can do in legal terms, but I offer you a question in return.

do you really want to be affiliated with people who ditch you and aren't interested in you because you aren't with a guy who was making you miserable, but they would rather be hanging out with someone who is much less mature and with a d*** head?

If you ask me those are not friends.

[lothanks]

You have stockholm syndrome.

[JapanTomboy]

How is that when I have no feeling towards my ex whatsoever?