Polls: Family & Friends

People seem to have this mentality that if they don't agree with you or like you, they just cut you out, whether that means to fire you from a job, distance themselves from you completely, and even alienate you from the family.

What the fuck is wrong with people? Why can't people just agree to disagree and form a compromise to conflicts?

It used to be that you had to do something egregious and completely out of line to be alienated or estranged. Now, it is something as simple as a disagreement about politics, an argument, or not liking features of one's personality.

When ever one girl has a baby soon her friends join or try and join in having kids. For guys seems more like they just have that desire for offspring or they don't. It does not come when one of their friends has a kid.

I'm not talking about celebrities or people you watched on TV or YouTube.

I'm talking about people you knew personally.

Growing up I didn't have any good role models until around 8 because I didn't know anyone outside of my family and my parents weren't (and aren't) very good models. Long story though. Around 8 I started getting socialized and had a few very distant role models. My first real role model (s) came into my life around 15. The next big role models in my life came around 18. I'm now 20.

So what about you? Did you have any good role models growing up?

I know a few perfectionists, and they're great. My best friend is actually a perfectionist. We're friends because even though he's a perfectionist and I can drive him crazy (and he can drive me crazy), we both respect each other and hold ourselves to the same standards that we hold everyone else.

Now to the main event, do you know any perfectionists who don't hold themsleves to the same standards?

I've known a few, and we've never been able to stay in contact for long. With the most recent episode of a friend like that, I pretty quickly noticed that he quite often pointed out flaws or mistakes made by others (even if not verbally) and rarely (if ever) noticed his own flaws. But he was a self-proclaimed perfectionist.

At first I thought "maybe he's hyperfocused and that's why he can't keep track of himself sometimes" and then I thought "no, maybe he's just lazy or doesn't actually care?" And then I realized. He wasn't a "perfectionist," he just thought he was perfect. Basically, he was a narcissist.

Would you agree that perfectionists who don't hold themselves to the same standards are narcissists?

I don't want any woman who has children with me to be burdened with a job too but a single income seems impossible to support a family

Hear this so much from girls who have a guy friend start to like them. It's obvious he likes her but when he is bold and admits it.

She just feels betrayed and the friendship is dead!

Yet a lot of girls slowly get feelings for Thier guy friends too but when they admit it they are welcomed usually.