What is it with these excessive boundaries? Why can't people just agree to disagree?

[ForevrLonely29]

People seem to have this mentality that if they don't agree with you or like you, they just cut you out, whether that means to fire you from a job, distance themselves from you completely, and even alienate you from the family.

What the fuck is wrong with people? Why can't people just agree to disagree and form a compromise to conflicts?

It used to be that you had to do something egregious and completely out of line to be alienated or estranged. Now, it is something as simple as a disagreement about politics, an argument, or not liking features of one's personality.

I agree

I disagree

[GOLDFISH_smile]

A disagreement of politics could easily be enough to get cut off if the politics involve shit like human rights & their opinion is "egregious and completely out of line."

Same with an argument. You can argue about literally anything, including saying something egregious & out of line.

Why do u think politics or argument can't be good reason to end a relationship? What do YOU mean when you say "something egregious and completely out of line" that can't include political or something said/done during an argument?

I agree some people take little things or mistakes way too serious, or cut off just for being different, but the things u list don't seem little or accidental..

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Firing you for disliking you is illegal in several states, so I wouldn’t call that the norm. Otherwise I don’t think there’s an issue with just staying away from people you’d rather not spend time with, that’s fairly healthy. And in today’s divisive political climate, it’s better to stay out of it than try to convince the other into that middle ground.

[ForevrLonely29]

It is called at-will employment. Yes, it is a thing. Wisconsin is an at-will employment state.

An employer can rid you for any reason as long as it doesn't violate federal law.

And no, it is not anyone's business to hold a friendship or family over someone's head due to political affiliation.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, but not all states are at-will employment. My state is the same way, allowing people to be fired or quit a job without any repercussions provided it doesn’t violate federal law

[mobiusforniner]

Setting limits is part of being an adult. It shows what you will or will not tolerate. If someone does or says something that is hurtful, I give them the benefit of the doubt and tell them not to do it again. If they continue to do it, not honoring MY own limitation is letting them mistreat me. Which is not okay.

you likely have a problem with boundaries because you want to do or say something that your general surrounding peers have collectively found repulsive. But you label the boundaries as being the problem, which shows me you lack an awareness of how you integrate with your surroundings and an inability to self reflect on the cause and effect of your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Narcissism. The social media age has created an army of narcissists. It used to be before the rise of the internet that people had to interact with eachother. Through this people learned socialization. And if you were an a**hole then you quickly found yourself alone. But now people rather then learn how to do this would rather live in a faux world of their own creation seeking to surround themselves with sycophants.

This manifests itself in everything from our politics to how we recieve information.

[jojouzumaki]

Firing you from a job just because they don’t agree with you is absolutely absurd.


Some people understand how to respect boundaries and knows how to compromised.


When we talk about cutting people off, the one who walked away has to deal with grief it’s not what that person wanted but it was necessary for the person well-being. For me that’s logical.

[ForevrLonely29]

The excuse is "you are not a good cultural fit" or some bullshit like that. HR told me prior to my firing there was 2 issues: professionalism and not asking questions correctly. She said I improved on professionalism, so what does that leave? Not asking questions correctly? So I was fired because of that?

[jojouzumaki]

If I may, what she meant about cultural fit was “the company has its OWN goals and core values” which the employee must fit/aligned on that.

This is the reason why you were fired based on the information you had shared.

I suggest you learn from the mistake and move on and be a better you.

[ForevrLonely29]

I wasn't given the cultural fit excuse. That is an example of a bullish reason that is sometimes used.
I told you those 2 reasons.
I completed my work on time to satisfaction. I received positive feedback from both the internal teams and clients.

[jojouzumaki]

What exactly the offenses are?

[Anonymous]

Yep. It's really strange that people can't seem to hold two opposing views in their head, or accept that others have different views to themselves. This used to be the norm not long ago.

[ForevrLonely29]

My family is completely broken apart, and a lot of it relates to political ideologies. I notice the leftists who claim "tolerance" are the most intolerant themselves. I just love family, and I am sad about the direction everything has went.

[RingOfFire]

With personal issues there is often room for compromise. But with some political issues there is no room for compromise. When you believe the other side is destroying the world, how can you compromise with that? Okay I can still be your friend if you're only going to destroy half the world? It just doesn't work.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

That's rich coming from the guy who always posts about wanting to separate himself from other races and poor people because of perceived fears about them.

[ForevrLonely29]

Says the woman who believes it is ok to have both a husband and a wife... your evilness disgusts me.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

So, again, you gave excessive boundaries and can't just agree to disagree.

Hypocrit...

[ForevrLonely29]

I am still conversing with you on this thread, aren't I?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I wish you wouldn't though.

[jshm2]

Seems you can't see the woods for the trees, kiddo. They ARE respectfully as possible disagreeing with you - and cutting you off. You seem to be one of those drama types that gets fucking roasted for overstepping all the time.

Grow up.

[paledreams]

I disagree man - life's peachy and bliss in island relaxed nations like here in old Australia maybe you need to move to Hawaii or a nice Carribbean

[paledreams]

You sound like island time would suit you better. Island countries rule

[ForevrLonely29]

Your culture may be different. Here in the US, everything is fucked. People are mean and greedy. Look at 2 Timothy 3:1-5. Everything read in those verses sound awfully familiar.

[paledreams]

Have you considered Hawaii? Or California?

[paledreams]

Or even Alaska - minus bears. Scary scary bears 🐻🐻🐻

[paledreams]

You could even move to the US Virgin Islands to enjoy paradise aka a smaller relaxed lifestyle 🏝️

[ForevrLonely29]

California is WAY too leftist and corrupt. Hawaii is incredibly expensive. Actually, California is too.

[paledreams]

Maybe that's the Crux of the issue sir - either you're not the right gel for your surroundings and perhaps all you need is to find your gel in terms of "what city/state suits your personality" that's reflected in whatever state or other country. Like I mean you know. Try to find somewhere you find comfortable and that matches your outlook - the same way anyone I'd imagine in America moves from state to state if politics or culture matter - local culture. Aka left state versus right state. Or seek professional guidance

[paledreams]

Anyways, no advice

[Staximus]

My friend's wife is like that. She thinks she doesn't have to tolerate anybody, including him. I told him not to marry her and now he's 110% fucked.

[DrPepper12]

Louder for the people in the cheap seats...

[dreamstar72]

I’m right you’re wrong which is why they don’t agree

[LiamJHayden]

I get it, but that is on the other person and I would not want to be around someone like that.

[Anonymous]

I totally disagree with you. I'm not going to interact with you anymore.

Just kidding, I completely agree with you. It seem like the concept of compromise is lost on people today.

[OddBeMe]

I guess there could be a downside of instant gratification of only meeting people like you. I just get along with people not like me. Strange.

[noohair]

This is the world we live in. I am right and you are evil.

[elaphe]

I think a lot of it can be blamed on the ubiquitousness of social media.

[MrGSpotHer]

Why do you want to be disagreeable so much