Questions: Family & Friends

So there's this big issue about my nan giving £50 to her son and £20 to his wife (or equivalent in gifts). Her argument is he's my son I'll always give him more.

My Aunty hates this she says she's his wife of nearly 25 years now. And that their money is their money, it's not his and hers it's theirs, so just say here's £70 to the both of you rather than specify, "this is for a, and this is for b" (words nan has spoken before). My aunty's other argument is her parents spend equally on the both of them, so why don't his mum do the same.

There has also been some drama about the fact my uncle calls his wife's parents mum and dad. Which many in our family finds weird - personally I'm not sure how I feel about that. I think it's odd, but then, I was never able to call my dad's partner my mum, and they've been together for 18 years now.

I understand both points of view: it's a bit demeaning to be called son and wife, but at the same time that is her son and she is the wife. Like I know if I were to get a husband, dad would spend more on me then he would him, he'd still get something nice, but he certainly wouldn't spend as much. And that doesn't bother me at all.