If a friend doesn't initiate texts/calls at all or very much, would you say that's a bad friendship?

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Usually when dating that tends to mean they aren't all that into you. but what if its just friends? would you say this is bad and they should  initiate  texts or calls more often? or is it not something one should worry about with a friend?

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Are you talking about me 🤔? 🤣 no. It doesn’t make them a bad friend. Our friends have lives to live and we don’t necessarily know each and every bit of their life and what they’re going through and what they got going on. But as long as when you guys get together or communicate, the camaraderie is there and there’s respect. You don’t even have to see them or be with them every day or once a year or every 5 years or never saw them at all, but as long as you maintain your friendship, that’s all that counts. We have to be understanding.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

I guess it depends on the friendship...
Like I have friends where it's normal that we talk to each other every few months and with two, we agreed that they would reach out to me when they're back in the city.. so I text them rarely and even if I do I can wait for weeks to get a reply lol

Then there are friends with whom I talk frequently and there it's both sided, if they would never reach out to me, I would assume it's more an acquaintance-friend

Anonymous · Answer

The frequency of communication can vary in friendships, and it's not necessarily an indicator of a bad friendship if a friend doesn't initiate texts or calls very often. Some people are naturally less communicative or prefer to spend time alone, while others may have busy schedules or other commitments that limit their availability.

However, if you feel like the lack of communication is negatively impacting your friendship or causing you to feel disconnected, it may be helpful to bring it up with your friend and express your concerns. By communicating openly and honestly, you may be able to find a solution that works for both of you, such as scheduling regular check-ins or finding new ways to connect and spend time together.

Ultimately, it's important to remember that friendships are complex and multifaceted, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. What works for one friendship may not work for another, and it's important to prioritize open communication, mutual respect, and understanding in all of your relationships.

Bekaaaaaaaahhhh · Answer

No because they could be busy or have something personal going on but if it’s long term ongoing I’d start to consider if they are worthy of my time, it’s better to judge it based on what it’s like when you are together face to face, do they make you laugh are they a good listener, do you have things in common, do they remember things you tell them. Don’t place too much importance on texting although I know it does speak volumes as most of us are always on our phones nowdays and it takes seconds to send a text.

Walt832 · Answer

Lol. I run a business soooo. Trust me I saw the text but I travel so much on the road. All I have to do is remember I need to text whenever I can. there's been 2-3 days gap I'll respond or even emails. Speaking about an email is been 4 days i haven't responded gonna get on it.

I have friend she has been a friend for really long as* time since 2012 to present. She mostly starts a text if not I rarely do. She understands how heavily I work. I sometimes think about it 😂 cuz we have so much in common just one small problem she has a kid. I am really not ready to have that responsibility. Is what makes me retrieve.

I know how my mind works. The two sided. "She is the ideal but hey remember she has a kid so be careful not to make a commitment".

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Life marching on happens to all of us, and it's tough keeping in touch with all the people you've known since you were younger. It depends on the people also. Some people are introverted and less likely to reach out first, especially if a lot of time has gone by. I've also got friends that I'll go months without seeing, then we'll hang out like it was just yesterday and no time has passed. So it really comes down to individual personalities. Group texts are very helpful in situations like these as well.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Friends will. ore than likely still be civil with you if they don't initiate or if you call to check on them. It can feel one sided, but at the end of the day, things change. Everyone is at different points of life and focus on other things.

The friendship may have run its course, but it doesn't mean it can't be rekindled or civil check in or discussion from time to time.

rosemilk · Answer

no i wouldn't honestly. some people have adhd and it's hard to remember to respond or remember you have other people in your life than just who you see every day. some people get overwhelmed and don't want to respond or start up small talk. some people get busy. they forget. they have too much going on in life. they're depressed.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think it depends on the person. I have friends that I don't talk to for a while but we are still good friends. Everyone has their own lives and sometimes they get really tied up. We know that if one of us needs a helping hand we'll all be there for each other.

menina · Answer

It's nice if they initiate a conversation, or text you just to know how you are doing. Or if they call you. But that doesn't make them a bad friend. Unless they ignore you or they're not there for you when you need them

Screenwriter · Answer

As long as this is the ordinary balance in the relationship, there's nothing wrong. As long as both friends accept things as they are, it's not a problem. Only when one side is unhappy is there a problem.

DizzyDesii · Answer

My former friends felt i was a bad friend because i ignored their calls, texts, visits, etc. Probably... but my thing is, if i’m not dating you then you shouldn't expect daily, weekly nor monthly communication from me

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I don’t initiate a lot of the conversations because I have anxiety. But if they need me I’m there.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

That relationship would be a tough one for sure.

MemeSupreme · Answer

everyone is different, but i think as long as you just communicate how you are with friends to the person or specifically texting/phone calls, then it is fine.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

That is what I call sided friendship, which means if I stop calling or texting the friendship dies a natural death.

Orion76 · Answer

Absolutely not I have phone anxiety and also feel like I’m imposing or have nothing to talk about and busy I hardly ever initiate calls but I don’t mind them and I try to be there if someone needs me.

douride2 · Answer

I don't have any issues with not keeping in touch through text all the time.

Paris13 · Answer

Even as a Family Member who Does This-----You are NOT a Top Priority. Keep it Light now. xx

xJayleenx · Answer

This seems to be the case most times with people in my opinion it’s better for both to initiate texts but sometimes it has to be you. It seems like most people are so preoccupied with their own lives though.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Well, I've ended friendships due to lack of communication as I'd be the only one making an effort at all for the entire friendship. It made me think I wasn't worth their time.

fonduegirl · Answer

It does. You can never be too busy to reply at least once a day.

Pink2000 · Answer

No. I very rarely initiate calls or texts.. I also don’t respond. I’m really bad at it.

Guardian45 · Answer

Friendship is a two-way street. If one person is ALWAYS texting or calling, then that's NOT a friendship.

Softlife808 · Answer

It should be an equal trade off

Wise4myage · Answer

It doesn't sound like any sort of friendship.

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