The main reason people text and call each other is because of communication. The same reason you communicatw with someome to get to know them better the same way it is when you are in a relationship you have to communicate with the person if you feel something they are doing is wrong. If you both were in the texting/getting to know phase it would be different but you are in a relationship. You can't judt ignore them when they do something wrong you have to confront them, find a solution and then move on when everything is fine. He may be busy or maybe thats just him, but also bc you always initiate things he may think its fine and is getting used to it. My advice is for you to tell him that you feel crappy that you always have to initiate calls and would like some effort from him, amd your decision on whether to move on from him or let him start initiating things should be taken from what he says or does after you tell him
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So you've been dating for a month and he even has said I love you yet you only see once a week and when you remember? And don't talk at all through out the week? Sounds bizarre... even my friends with benefits talks more through out the week. That's why their friends. Seems to me he is just using you. But that's based on the information you've provided. It could be that in fact he don't want anything serious. Has he actually asked you out? Like... are you two definitely dating? Guys are dumb (apologies for the stereotype but it's true 😔😔) If you don't talk he won't know.
To be honest with you it’s a little weird, but you should talk to him IN PERSON about it. It sounds like a red flag, but he could be thinking what you’re thinking. You need to figure out where the relationship is going and where you stand with him. Don’t play games where you ignore him to see if he texts back. 1. that’s immature, 2. you’ll lose because he most likely won’t text and 3. you’ll never know if you two could have been something.
You could do that then what happens when he asks why your not hitting him up, or assume now your not into it, and turn around and freak out or who knows what else see someone else? I mean were dose it end? What about a simple I want more of your attention or a couple hints on i love talking to you we should hang out more or i never hear from you and I love hearing about your day. If he don't get it be blunt I want us to talk more. But also I personally love hearing from the other person but nothing is better then in person conversation. Maybe he would rather do that? But if you start playing games like I don't until he dose it can spin out on you.
You say been dating over a month did he ask you out? Honestly this sounds like F. Buddies with you being the one to call when you want it. Him not taking initiative is a sign that his Uhmm attention is somewhere else. Your idea to fall back til he makes a move is uncertain. The outcome is not always consistent but you know him best
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He might be just as confused as you are. You probably should both sit down and talk about what you both expect from the relationship and how you feel about things. Just get to be comfortable around one another
I've been in this situation myself with a woman. In all honesty I just wasn't that interested in a serious relationship with her...
Now on the flip side of that, she DID make it clear that if we were going to do ANYTHING together then she would need more contact, texts phonecall etc... Which I did for sometime... She was clear with me and I respected that.
There are no red flags here, just a lack of communication... You're not asking for what you need...The hell is it a "major red flag" for? What does that even mean? You know what real "major red flags" are? Like, he's verbally or physically abusive, or he uses serious drugs, or he has a lot of felonies on his criminal record. I'm amazed that you think "not texting" is a major red flag.
You two should talk but not a long 3hr girl talk. Guys like shit direct and to the point. Say, I like you and I want to know if you're down to be with me for real like really being my boyfriend. If he says yes then that's that. You have to let him know what you like and or expect and ask if him if he's ok with that. If it goes south from there then just go back to being friends with benefits.
Guys are more in the moment where ever they are at the focus is there. U go to work im staying home i may play a game ill get so locked into the game time passes buy not even realizing it and when u do you check to see how ur girl is doing but by then she already texted you first how and what are u doing lol
Don't call him and see if he will even remember to contact you
Cuz your friend is totally right that he might be using you for sexIs he trying to get to know you or it’s just purely sex?
Why don’t you try not to initiate the contact & see if he’s trying?i almost never take initiative to talk with ma girlfriend, but sometimes I give her attention. and I don't using her for sex. but all we talked is about daily activities
In a month he said he loves you you had sex a few times now he is distant... he doesn't seem serious to me just move on
I think it is a red flag. If he isn't taking his time of day for u then he isn't even worth ur time. I'm sure u can do better
Your friend is right he just wants sex. But you didn't seem to mind soo keep doing what you are doing without caring
He's probably still around for sex. But if that's how it started, then what's the problem.
Either he's shy or he's talking to someone else... Your call
Sounds like friends with benefits to me
You should take a pause from him.
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