Why doesn't he initiate texting?

[Anonymous]

He never initiates texts but answers right away if I do. Does he like me or just want to be polite?

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+1 y

The difference between female and male answers here is quite interesting

[Anonymous]

6 weeks dating, not make you his girlfriend yet. Not contacting daily to see how you are...
You are an option.
You should be datimg other guys till one makes you a priority.
No need to wonder what he is doing or whatever he has going on. All bs
Guys into u will drop the world for u, want to hear about your days...

[Asker]

I'm not his girlfriend by any means, I just need to chill out :)

[Opinion Owner]

By 6 weeks he is not contacting u.
You need to move on. Not chill out.
He is talking to another girl. And it's okay...
You talk to other guys till u meet mr right

[Asker]

I'm taking to him daily I just feel I initiate too much. If I don't he comes to me, we'll see

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He doesn't like you that much. guys who are interested will not only initiate texts but they will call you and see you in person if possible.

this guy is only replying to your texts. if you stop initiating you'll stop hearing from him. take the hint

[Asker]

Confusing part is if I quit contacting him he does contact me, usually with something trivial. I don't get it.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He just wants to keep you around as an option

[Asker]

I've read all those articles too but it doesn't seem to fit the mold

[Pinay_ako]

Depends on his answers too. If it's one word answers, he's not interested. He's just being polite. But if he engages on the conversation, yes he likes you maybe as a friend or more. Let him initiate too.

[Asker]

He initiates occasionally but I do more. Never one word answers so I guess that's good

[Pinay_ako]

Yes, there's some interest there. Try to make him initiate more though to gauge his interest level. If he does like you, he will initiate more when you start initiating less. He's the man let him take charge for a change. Good luck 😉

[Asker]

Thanks for your help! That's what I'm trying to do but I lose patience after a couple of days so I initiate. I need to work on that!

[PunkinPie]

Out of sight, or of mind. Once you remind him he's like, "Oh, hey you!"

[Asker]

That's kind of how I feel

[PunkinPie]

I've been there. I dumped him and he acted all hurt and offended. I wanted to laugh.

[Asker]

I need to just chill out, I'm over thinking i guess

[shadowdancercc]

Yeah, when I do that it's usually because I want to see her initiate it. It makes me feel good about myself. It should be more even though. It could also be that he's busy or doesn't think about texting as much. Some people dislike texting, particularly guys.

[Asker]

That's what I wonder, don't want to be annoying

[5x9BOB]

I believe that he may not want to seem too eager, but also I wonder if he continues a conversation via text once u initiate?

[Asker]

He does keep the conversation going, I just don't want to be annoying

[5x9BOB]

when I talk to a girl I would rather talk on the phone then text. it always seems like when a girl texts and I give a short answer to the text and maybe one question that she will continue texting like a regular conversation. I usually don't initiate a text unless I'm just making a statement or looking for a answer to a question. I wouldn't look too much into it

[Asker]

Thank you!

[leaveitalone]

He might just be shy or awkward, or not know how to start a conversation. If he maintains solid conversation and genuinely seems interest in what you've got to say I wouldn't worry about it, he at least enjoys talking to you.

[Asker]

I'm just worried he's answering just to be polite

[leaveitalone]

It really depends on his speech/tone when texting you. I would just continue to talk to him and see if the conversations change in nature. If he's texting to be polite, you'll find out in time.

[Asker]

I'm kind of getting that feeling but I'm really sensitive to that and seem to get worried about nothing

[pretty-kitty]

We can not answer this for you, we don't know him, you or the situation. Ask him what he is thinking.

[Asker]

I know he has a lot going on, but I don't want to make excuses. Best bet is probably to let him contact me when he has time or wants to, I don't want to be annoying.

[pretty-kitty]

Just don't overthink it, overthinking things makes it 10x harder on you. Just chill, if he likes you he will make an effort.. if he doesn't make the effort then move on.

[Asker]

You're right. Thank you

[pretty-kitty]

Good luck, hope it all works out for you 😊

[Anoukkadijk]

he probably likes you, but isn't confident enough to start a conversation OR he likes you, but his ego is in the way and he wants you to start

[Kota-the-Unhearted]

For me I don't like starting the conversation through texting because I never know it they're busy and I feel so bothersome doing so

[Pinay_ako]

so what if she wants you to? how is she going to know?

[ddy0974]

Does he know you like him? Might just think your friends.

[Asker]

We have been dating for about 6 weeks

[ddy0974]

Sounds to me like your just a trophy. Some one who is into you wouldn't have an issue with texting. My opinion though.

[Asker]

I need to relax and see what happens, I get all excited and I shouldn't

[BigCoupland]

Some people dislike texting in general because there is no voice queues to understand the importance or inflection of the words.

[Asker]

I've had this happen. I probably need to just settle down.

[Rocherd]

or if he is like me, texting isn't really the place for personal stuff.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

His ego is in the way. He wants you to show interest first.

[Asker]

Could be

[Pinay_ako]

if they are dating or together, ego is one hell of a deal breaker.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@Pinay_ako: Agree.

[Asker]

I don't think it's ego, he's a workaholic

[Pinay_ako]

workaholic is not an excuse if you are a priority. if there's a will, there is always a way.

[Asker]

@Pinay_ako As a business owner I disagree. Getting financially set is just as important than a romantic relationship, unless you are satisfied to be medicore

[Pinay_ako]

Oh wow. So are you saying if you are an owner of a multi million company, you won't make your family or significant other a priority? that you will not have any time allotted for them because you are too busy making money? Making family/spouse/so a priority is mediocre? That ego sure as hell is big and will break any relationship. Money over people. Making excuses for someone else who do not have the same investment as you in the relationship is denial. Hey whatever makes you happy. Good luck. :)

[Asker]

@Pinay_ako Everyone has different priorities. My goals are obviously different than yours, not making anyone right or wrong but definitely two different views.

[Anonymous]

Sound like your an "option." He's not 100% interested

[Danno17]

If he likes you he would ask you out.
And if he doesn't just ask him out and see his response... you will know then if he likes you or not

[Asker]

We have been out several times, I'm just taking about day to day taking

[Danno17]

Well in my opinion then you should not text him. Put the ball back in his court. If he hasn't texted you within 2 days then you will have your answer. I hope it works out for you... but you have to resist texting him. See it as a test.

[Asker]

That's exactly my plan!

[animus1988]

either doesn't want to seem desperate or isn't interested.

[fckboii]

He likes you but doesn't wanna seem needy.

[Asker]

You think?

[fckboii]

well there are other factors which may come into play. are you dating? for how long?

[Asker]

Yes, for about 6 weeks

[fckboii]

i personaly don't like to be texting often. this could be the case.

[Asker]

We text every couple of days I just don't want him to secretly not want to talk to me but feel the need to be polite, that's my biggest fear

[PunkinPie]

That's not your problem. If he just feels pressured to be polite then he needs to be upfront with you. Try not texting at all and see how long it takes for him to remember you exist.

[fckboii]

if only we were all just upfront haha.

[khiking]

he's just not a conversation starter

[Asker]

Not at all

[laila23]

he does not like you.

[Stormchaser48]

Could be either way.

[Anonymous]

doesn't want to talk