I'm kind of shocked that someone who dresses so free is concerned with what people think. but umm, to answer the question, the vast majority of guys do prefer the more natural girls. then again, the vast majority of girls don't dress edgy;punk. it's unique.
You shouldn't have to change your style, it's you. Unless you started dressing that way to attract a certain kind, in which case, I think you should do some soul searching and find out who you are and portray that in your style ;) Your friend is right, you do scare off the normal guys because combat boots screams something along the lines of "hard. mean. NOT easy. I'm not gonna get laid. if I even survive" haha. seriously. Plus like I mentioned, most guys prefer their girls to be a bit more nude-faced, and I assume with your look you've got the make-up to match
So bottom line, don't change who you are to ever attract someone. Because if you change it, and attract someone, they're not really attracted to YOU. they're attracted to this style you're falsely portraying. Be true to yourself, a guy who's equally edgy will find you and think you're perfect
First impressions do count BUT as long as you have a smile on your face and look approachable then there's no reason why you should be intimidating to men.
I also used to be in to the whole "punk" thing as a teen and wore docs all the time, never did it put off men who were worth knowing.
Ask yourself, do you judge men on what they wear? Do they portray a certain image? Is it off-putting? Is it right that I'm put off?
Me, I don't care what people wear. As long as they're clean it's fine with me.
You just need to weigh up what you prefer - the way you dress or a man who judges you on that.
I'm with you on that. I wear what I like, and anyone who writes me off entirely based on what I'm wearing, isn't worth wasting time on anyway. I'm friends with plenty of guys, some that dress similar to what you've described, and some that don't. None of them seem too put off by that style. But I can think of plenty who would be. But as I said, I don't waste time on those kind of people because caring how a person looks is too high on their list of priorities. I'm actually wearing almost exactly what you described right now, except my Docs are in the closet at the moment and I'm wearing heels instead, haha.
you shouldn't change what you wear and what you feel most comfortable wearing to find a guy. if you want a guy to like you for you, keep on rocking what you got going on. every guy is attracted to different things. if you have a certain style it might just take a bit longer to find that guy that digs that style. (PS you don't want to look like the other "barbie" girls, having a style that's a little different will catch the eyes of a guy)
I dated a punk that was 25 years younger than me. I bought her a pair of Doc Martens. She wanted the white ones that had Johnny Rotten on them
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If you feel comfortable with how you dress then you should be fine. Changing your style for a guy is like changing your personality, because how you dress has a lot to do with how you feel (atleast for me). I think being yourself is the best way to find the guy you want.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a girl wearing docs. If that's what you want to wear, wear them. If a guy is that turned off by your personal style, he's not worth your time anyway--the way you dress reflects your personality.
Hey if the "normal" guys are not able to see what is behind your shoes, then they're simply not worth it ! Keep wearing them as a jerk-filter :) !
My childhood sweetheart always wore her chunky black steel toe capped Doc Martens with a long suns, moons and stars gypsy style skirt whenever she went out anywhere and I loved it!!
alot of guys like the barbie look but I'm not a barbie if you want to get guys to ask you out then change but if you don't want to then you'll find
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