How important is hair in regards to your overall look? How much do you notice/pay attention to other people's hair?

[Anonymous]

As someone who has very challenging hair that I'm still trying to figure out, I've always wondered about this. My hair is a major insecurity of mine because it's curly and frizzy, seems like it's hard to get the amount of shine in it I'd like, and for whatever reason it goes almost stringy at times, especially if it's windy (and even more so if it's been straightened). If it's humid out, there is no possible way I'll have an even halfway decent hair day, and it will get even curlier than usual. I'm still trying new things to figure it out, but I am always super envious of most other women's hair (and also a lot of men's long hair), and feel like I often have the worst hair out of a group. Even straightened, I feel my hair doesn't look good.

How important is it to one's looks that it be as close to perfect as possible? Does so-so/boring/just passable hair ruin a person's overall look? If it looks a little ruffled?

What about length? Mine is stuck at bra strap length and refuses to grow any longer. Because it's curly, it usually looks just a few inches past shoulder length. I'd love for it to reach the middle of my back, but I'm not sure it will happen.

How about thickness? I know it sounds silly, but even as someone who has been told I have thick hair (though I don't feel like it is), I feel insecure when I see beautiful, super thick hair (especially if it's shiny and smooth, which mine isn't) because I know there's no way to make mine like that naturally (as in not a wig or extensions, since I'm very sensitive to wearing things on my head and can't even wear a ponytail for long, and likely can't afford ones that don't look obviously fake). I did briefly lose about half of the thickness at one point due to illness, and I feel like this gave me a ridiculous sense of self consciousness about it that hasn't gone away even though my hair has returned to normal.

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I feel that my hair ruins my ability to look put together and I'm really self conscious about it. I wonder how much of this is all in my head, or if it's something everyone else notices, too.

[alice55]

To me it's extremely important that's literally the first things I notice (with eyes), i'm really attracted to blonde hair and if a guy have blonde hair I find him attractive 9 time out of 10 even if his face is just average.

As for girls men are attracted by girls with long hairpin general, the longer the better and they prefer straight in my country.

[Kelley1]

Some hair colors attract more attention, especially red heads.

[Makeushiver]

Well whoever is in thenaccompanying. photo looks fantastic with her hair. I pay a lot of attention to hair since I
Like running my hands through it

[ritxi]

I pay attention girls hair. A girl can go from being unattractive to having some charm simply by having long, beautiful hair.

[AI Opinion]

Hair can indeed play a significant role in how we perceive ourselves, often influencing our confidence and overall look. It’s common to be self-conscious about challenging hair, especially when it’s curly and frizzy. Remember, though, that perfect hair isn't as crucial as you might think. So-so or even slightly ruffled hair can add a natural charm to your appearance and sometimes feels more approachable and authentic. Length, thickness, and shine vary naturally and what's most important is embracing personal style while feeling comfortable.

Experimenting with products specifically designed for curly hair might help in managing frizz and achieving the shine you desire. Remember to celebrate your hair's unique beauty, focusing on what's achievable and feels good for you. Confidence often enhances a look more than any hairstyle can.

[debbiedenise]

I can assure you that we women pay much attention to our hair than me do. My boyfriend says that we are never satisfied. If we have long hair, we want short. If we have short hair, we want long. If we have curly hair, we want straight. If we want straight hair, we want curly. Buy hey, a girl has a right to change her mind. Right?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Yes, hair is very important. The reason why salons are always fully booked! Haha.. 😄

[rachel776]

A LOT i would look ridiculous without hair 🤪

[Nikki1989]

It is important to a small degree. I spend a lot of time looking after it.

[kaucky1]

You could look your worst and still look your best