Why do (some) white girls get so jealous when a white guy dates an Asian girl?

Question

My girlfriend is Asian and I've literally heard white girls I know tell me she only wants me because I'm white. What's with all the hate?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hmm. Going to use broad, and obviously very generalized, sometimes extreme descriptions, which will obviously have a lot of exceptions and not apply to most women. Not meant to be condemning/judgmental. Just to make a point.

In comparison to women in other parts of the world, Western women are less feminine. They spend more time working on careers and things like that (which is cool, but beside the point for the moment), plus they're taught that men are evil/enemies/suppressors/rapists--end result, they develop combative/competitive (ie, masculine) tendencies. (A bit tragic, really. You can have the career and advancement without having to make men enemies, but whatever, talking in broad, extreme strokes for now.)

Well, men are attracted to women, and women are feminine (theoretically, lol). So dating Western women is--well, kind of like dating a man. It's kind of like being gay, except your partner has a vagina. And there's a lot more drama than being with a gay dude. (plus a lot more legal/financial hassle)

So when a guy goes with a more feminine Asian girl--he's seen as some backward-thinking, patriarchy-affirming misogynist bastard who's setting back female advancement. Next is the insecurity. If he's dating an Asian, must mean White women aren't attractive enough (meaning she isn't), so rather than take a hit to her own value as a woman, time to paint the guy black and say he isn't attractive enough to get white girls, lol.

Couple that with some good old-fashioned racism, and there you go.

RedThread · Accepted Answer

Because people feel like they own other people of the same skin color. It's an entitlement complex and when people are reminded that they have far more competition than they realize it demoralizes them. You can see this primitive mentality in all forms of interracial relationships. Two human beings dating should never be a problem.

I also think it's a form of insecurity too.. "Hey this guy likes Asian girls that means he'd never like me.." As if human beings are so completely different from each other..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That doesn't necessarily mean they're jealous. I've had Asian friends and many of them have a serious thing for white guys. white guys in america also tend to have "a thing" for Asian women. there's a lot of fetishizing of Asian women and stereotyping that goes with that attraction as well, and some of that is used against white American women actually. However, its true, some white women are racist and maybe some are jealous. Just like many white men are jealous or racist. I'd argue that there's a racist perception of Asians in general, held by many white men and women.

This friend from high school is from the phillipines. She had this image as the ditzy girl, which didn't help her case. And throughout high school, there were rumors that she slept around, etc. I was always interested in knowing her on a deeper level because she was a recent immigrant. But it was hard to get her to move beyond a very shallow level of thinking... Anyway, I do remember some white girls said really nasty things to her and we would talk about it.

Seriously though, A LOT of Asian women strongly prefer or exclusively prefer white guys. That statement alone doesn't really convey jealousy. That doesn't mean they don't like their partner as an individual as well. I'm black so I have no stake in any of this lol

vmw2008 · Accepted Answer

It's the same hate that white girls get for dating black guys.

For 1) White man-Asian woman and White woman-black man are the two most common interracial pairings in America. Some people get territorial over their "own" race, and start to wonder why these pairings happen so often. They feel there must be something this other race has over them attraction-wise or it wouldn't be so common.

2) There are the stereotypes. Asian women get the "sweet, submissive, thin, makes a better wife" stereotype, which can make a lot of white women jealous that they won't be prized for commitment from said white man. Black men get the "muscular, dominant, good in bed, large penis" stereotype, which make a lot of white men jealous that they won't be prized for sex from said white woman.

jackyct · Accepted Answer

this is not only white women. it is something that affects women from any race. i'm white and i'm engaged to a korean guy. i get "the looks' all the time from the Asian girls around me. this is what comes with interracial dating.

i'd even say its worse when you're a white female dating interracial. (asian, black or hispanic) because other races still get jealous over the white hype. here in asia, if you're white, even the ugly ones, you can get ANY guy you want. the models, the rich, they'll all want you. just because of your ethnicy. Asian girls think the same way. they'll date white guys just because of their color and status. also because they, lets be honest, hate their own race.

doireallyneedone · Answer

Because Asian girls have some physical traits of beauty that white girls cannot match. The same of course can be said about the other way around. It is difficult for white girls to accept that because they are supposed to be the "ideal beauty" and probably brought up by media etc to feel that way. They have a certain set of standards for their guy, Asians may value different things. Therefore, an average white guy who can normally get average white girls is all of sudden getting attention from possibly above average Asian girls (who the average white girl cannot compete against). This increases the white guy's options and now gives him more power in the dating game and gives white girls more competition which they haven't had before.

Anonymous · Answer

Well.. I am sorry. I don't intend to be racist. But I noticed that white girls in my school are so mean and can't accept other races in the school (to be exact, girls from other races).

One time, my Indian friend asked a white girl about the whereabout of the bookstore in our school, and the white girl looked at her up and down with a degrading look, and she walked by without answering her.

I am not Indian, but I also felt that white girls (except for 2) don't like to talk or associate with me at all. Once, I smiled at a white girl, but she glared at me with a killer look lol. Like if you can't smile then whatever.. but don't glare at me like that. I didn't kill your parents.

But to be honest, white guys in my school aren't like that at all. They are very nice and gentle with me. They don't make me feel different. It is not like I am saying that because I am a girl. It is true, even my friends from other races said so.

SomethingWicked · Answer

Some Asian women date white men as a social status. (Some, not all.) Some white women are jealous because they probably want your D. (Some not all.)
And some just don't give a crap.
If it's nit affecting your relationship, ignore them, if it is, just cut them out of your life.

CommieKiller · Answer

Asian women really make white women look inferior by comparison. They are good looking, smart, loyal, humble, and generally virtuous by nature. White women have staged a rebellion against virtue, and as a result are now being outsourced, which makes them terrified as their mating options become more limited if more wealthy white men start going for Asian women.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know why but I know the guys who date Asian girls around here are considered to not be able to pick up prettier woman.

Don't get me wrong some Asian woman are beautiful... but when you see an average short guy with an Asian girl who can barely speak English and is generally not good looking then it's like yeah ok he obviously can't pick up better woman and she obviously doesn't like Asian men and thinks better looking white men won't date her.

That's the brutal truth there.

Kshppatel · Answer

Because they're jealous and mad as fuck that an Asian girl got what they couldn't. They can't deal with rejection.

decemberxblue · Answer

It's very common for people to be territorial over the members of "their" race. When you consider tribes throughout human history other members WERE "ours." People were literally murdered over mating between groups.

Unfortunately, it's something that isn't going to change in our lifetime. You've just gotta remember the only approval that matters is your partners.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it can de due to jealousy. I mean some Asian girls only date White guys. I'm not white and I admit a lot of Asian girls make the ideal partner. They're submissive, pretty, smart etc. The thing is that they're overrated at times and I can see where those girls are coming from. But then again, if you're happy dating an Asian girl then don't mind everyone else.

misscoffeehead · Answer

Its so silly 😒 get the f over it right? Who cares who that guy is going out with, or who that chick is dating.. Its none of your business anyways.. 😐 Its so stupid man..

Anonymous · Answer

"I've literally heard white girls I know tell me she only wants me because I'm white."

Well, they could be right. A very large number of Asian girls (as well as other girls) prefer or exclusively date white men.

So odds are, she wants you cause you're white, but same goes for the white girls who are heckling you, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Because some white women find it hard to believe that men actually are attracted and desire other races besides them.

kangy · Answer

let them be, and u continue with your life haters gonna hate

lexih2146 · Answer

cause white girls be cray cray. lol i'm a white girl and personally i wouldn't get jealous. perhaps those white girls you know are arrogant?

Anonymous · Answer

I noticed that a lot. Black women do the same thing when a black man dates a white woman I don't know what it is.

abundantlyrich · Answer

They are used to being admired by everybody but its not always the case now.

rjroy3 · Answer

I've never heard or seen that happen before so I'm not sure.

Anonymous · Answer

As a white guy. My fav girls are Asians. I want to marry an Asian girl. I only ask out Asian girls now. Once you go Asian it's hard to go back to white girls.

RationalMale · Answer

It's an evolutionary impulse to be upset when a member if your group goes off and mates with a different group.

Anonymous · Answer

same reason why (some) white guys go apeshit when they see a white girl taking interest in a black guy

askaya · Answer

Because they are jealous. Common stereotype Asians are smart, and boys like smart girls. chances are one of them likes you

ButterflyXkisses · Answer

Asian girls... 😍😙😗

Deft_maiden · Answer

Hmmm I'd say it's a waste of energy. Lol

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