Why are girls so shallow about height?

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Its like every time I go out to the mall, all of the young couples I see are girls with guys who are a foot taller than them. Obviously there is something about short guys that girls don't like. I'm 5'5 and girls treat me like I am invisible. It gets depressing. Maybe I'm just a big crybaby I don't know :/

Starrk · Accepted Answer

Some girls are shallow about height because of social pressure and societies expectation that the man MUST be taller then the women at all times. Every movie, tv show, commercial, the man is always taller then the women, so after reinforcing this generalization for decades, most people assume thats this is the way it must be at all times, when in actuality it doesn't.

But regardless of all that, from my experience girls don't really put to much emphasis on height, like you'll think they do. I'm only 5'6 barefoot and I have been approached by a pretty decent amount of girls, some even taller then me. Hell, my best friend is 6'2 and whenever me and him are talking, girls eyes always zoom in on me.

In my opinion, I believe its how you carry yourself. If you carry yourself like a guy who has low self esteem due to insecurities then chances are, that no girl would want you, because no girl wants a man with no confidence. If you carry yourself like a guy who is 100% comfortable in his skin to where he doesn't care what the world thinks about him, then you're much more likely to get more eyes drawn on you, since confidence is a very admirable trait. The 5'4 guy with a good attitude and a ton of confidence and charisma will always shine brighter then the guy who is 6'5 who has the confidence of a rabbit and charisma of a black hole. So height isn't everything.

parkway · Accepted Answer

You are right and correct in every thought you have. Now when you are finished with your pitty party one day you will see that the good book is correct. You are in the body that is perfect for the experiances you are to encounter. Life is a journey. Stop dwelling on it. The law of attraction states, the more you think of something the more it presents its self, so the more you dwell on being short the more it will be a problem. Attractive women have the same problem, they find one thing which is perfect and stir or pick it into a mental mess. Get over it. Be happy to be healthy and a host of other things in your life.

itsgucci · Accepted Answer

I think you are being a bit dramatic. Everyone just has a preference for heights. Typically girls care more about the height difference than guys, but that doesn't make us shallow. Girls typically like their guys to be taller. It makes them feel tiny, makes them feel safe, enables them to wear heels.. who the hell knows their specific reason. But its not just height. People date each other because they like each other. There's nothing wrong with you being 5'5", doesn't make you less of a man. it just means there's a smaller pool of girls, because there's not as many women that height and under. There's somebody out there for everyone. I'm 5'11, so I think I have to right to want to date a taller man. My height used to make me feel less feminine till I discovered the power of my long legs. I don't get pissed off when I see 6+ guys walking around with 5'2" girls. Thats such a petty thing and I know there are still good tall single guys out there. I would love to find someone 5-6 inches taller. Though most of my boyfriends have been around my height. And thats been fine. Just get over it and don't let your height insecurities define you. That'll mess up your chances more than anything else.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're hanging around a group of girls who are in general not so nice. Having said that though, the same reason guys tend to be 'shallow' about a girls height.

I would know, being around 5'10". Can't tell you the number of times I really liked a guy, but it never worked out because a lot of guys seem to have the idea that the grl has to be shorter than them. I think this height thing works both ways because of some silly societal ideals that should no longer be an issue.

Try to not view your height as a hindrance though. My boyfriend is an inch or 2 shorter than me. When we first got together, I was hesitant as I thought me being taller would automatically turn him off. As soon as he told me he actually loves how tall I am and the long legs that comes along with, the height difference no longer bothered me. Don't let your height stop you, and I'm sure girls will love your confidence. :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm not. I've dated several guys shorter than me. When it comes to height, I am not fussy about it. As long as he is good looking I am happy. I dated a guy who was 5'3 for six months, and we would have stayed together longer but he was offered a job in Calgary (I live in Ontario) that he couldn't turn down. I couldn't just pick up and leave. I actually still miss him to this day. Not all girls are shallow enough to care about height. As long as he is handsome and he isn't an asshole I will like him.

Lenalollipopsious · Accepted Answer

It's kinda stereotypical for guys to be taller than the girl. When the guy is taller it looks like he's older and that he can't protect the girl. Anyways there are different type of girls that mean their height preference in guys are different so don't worry too much because there are some girls out there who don't judge by height but other things.

SilversCovers · Answer

Women are shallow. That's it.
I am 5'5 myself and I gathered enough experience to be able to claim this.
Not just that I am Invisible, those that noticed me were utterly mean towards me for absolutely no good reason.

Some I got closer to, and we became friend. And even among them height inflation was noticeable. They openly talked to each other how they would never date a short guy. How he has to be 6'1 minimum and so on and so forth.

Then on dating apps. No matches. And if there is a match, then it's on tinder where they don't automatically see my height. Once we match and I text them, they unmatch. As they have seen my height by then.

Women are the pinnacle of shallowness.
Meanwhile men would even date a below average looking girl or any height for the sake of having a loving relationship.

Have you seen women with ugly men?
I did. They always bring up the fact that they do date ugly men so they aren't shallow. While completely forgetting that they are dating him entirely for his height.

Jesus Christ, I am 22 years old and I will die alone.

Jbunch · Answer

I've seen a lot of questions regarding height and double standards lately. Unfortunately height isn't something you can easily change, but girls go for what they think is attractive. I mean, it's not really shallow to pursue someone you think is attractive, it's shallow to keep dating them because they are attractive even if you don't like them.

Sorry man, it's just a matter of tastes. I don't want to tell you to compensate for your height, but confidence is always an attractive trait. *hint hint*

Tractorbeam · Answer

This is an eye opener. The average woman will still find a 5'6" man just as attractive as a 6' man, PROVIDED the 5'6" man earns $183,000 per year more than the taller man. See reference 11, in this link.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lookism#cite_note-11

The average woman is somewhere around 5'4" and is not asking $90,000 or more per year compensation for her lack of height.
If you did earn $183,000 more per year than the next man, you'd tell all women to go to hell and you'd spend it on yourself.

PinkiePie4400 · Answer

I personally prefer guys on the short side... if they are too tall it scares me, its like they could easily unintentionally hurt me. That's just me though.

existing_not_living · Answer

You're just a big crybaby. I will admit that I usually date guys 5'11" and up, but that does not mean that I would not be open to dating guys that are not that tall. I'm 5'1", so to me a lot of people are tall. I would date a guy even if he were shorter than me because if I liked him then his height wouldn't be a problem.

beesod · Answer

Because contrary to what you may think, they enjoy being looked down upon.

But seriously the good thing about being a short guy is there are always going to be girls shorter than you! :) besides most people aren't that shallow I see smaller guys with taller women quite often.

Pippopiero · Answer

This is 100% correct. Girls/women like taller men and whoever argue the opposite can simply Google the scientific studies on the matter. Reasons could be multiple, from shallow, wanting the "petite" experience, to some prehistoric association of height with strength (instead of muscle strangely) or good nutrition (not anymore true in the developed world), etc. However, all of that doesn't matter, what matter is that you learn to live your life with passion outside of the dating sphere. Eat well, exercise, become confident and proficient in your business. This should eventually attract women that don't just use a ruler for their preference in men. And if all of that fails at least you will have become 10x more of a man than a tall boy who just got born with long limbs.

Anonymous · Answer

My boyfriend is 5 in taller than I am, but I guess I never really thought about it. I started dating him because he was polite, respectful, funny, intellectual and cute, in his own quirky way. I didn't really equate his height into it.
And then I have an aunt who's an entire foot taller than her husband. You're right, it is a little shallow to pick potential partners based off of height, but at the same time, I myself would feel awkward with someone shorter.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Some gals prefer guys that are taller than them, some are fine with a guy whatever the height as @kaylaS91 said. Just work on accepting and liking who you are.

I'm 5'4" and seem to attract gals that are my height or taller (I actually "prefer" women that are my height or taller). This was before realizing some things. Simple answer is this, go for the gal who you find physically attractive and don't care what other people think.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not going to lie, it's a disadvantage, but not the end of the world. There are definitely girls who date short guys. I'm 5'3" and dated a guy exactly my height once. He was a great guy. So, don't get too bummed out. Stay confident, work on improving things in your control, and you should be alright.

art84 · Answer

Most women want men that are taller than them. I know my brother's ex wasn't into short guys and she was like 5'10 and my brother was like 6'2. Some girls can be into short guys if they don't care about height at all. I myself am 5'7 and have been approached by lots of girls. Now if I was shorter it could be a problem as I would look like a midget.

Anonymous · Answer

It's just the one thing that most girls won't compromise with. For guys it's weight, it's not entirely the same, since you can't grow taller, but we can lose weight. It's just how it is. There are lots of girl who are smaller than 5'5, and many who would date someone smaller too.

Sportgirl · Answer

I'm not one to speak since my boyfriend is a foot taller then me (I like guys who are taller then me I can't explain it) but I'm 5'4" so almost everyone is taller then me. Going out on a limb her but it might be a dominance thing.

BZerpy · Answer

As a girl once told me: "there's nothing wrong with you, you just have to try a lot harder to get the girls".

Krushhbrownies · Answer

dickbutt thats why

WhiteRaven · Answer

Girls like taller guys coz they feel more secure around them, and protected.. or so i've been told

Anonymous · Answer

My 3 exes are 6'0, 6'1, and 6'2. My current boyfriend is 5'6. I'm in love with him way more than all my exes. So yeah I'm not shallow about height.

StickStickity13 · Answer

I maybe biased but I don't think it's shallow, it's biological. It's sort of like why do guys find girls with nice legs and ass so attractive, it's genetics.

Anonymous · Answer

It would be the same as a guy being shallow about a girl's width. We all like what we like and it's no one else's business.

Mar1na · Answer

the reason why you see tall guys with shorter girls is because guys are normaly taller than girls.

Anonymous · Answer

I know some real ladies men who are short. A good body, dressing maturely and being fun to be around can go far. Don't give up!

Anonymous · Answer

I've been with 2 guys that are shorter than me. I'm so sick of guys complaining about this.

littlemissblondie15 · Answer

well, im 5"10... and i hate how tall i am, so a taller guy makes me feel shorter and i would never date a guy shorter than me cause it would feel weird

Anonymous · Answer

Guys have their quirks when it comes to attraction as well. Its just life. Short guys date too

harrison102 · Answer

dont get me talking about girls and shallow they are girls are very shallow more then guys

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