What do guys find more attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm seventeen years old and have always had BAD body image issues. I think as women, we're all scared of our bodies at one point or another. I'm pretty athletic as of now; running 3 miles a day and hitting the gym every other day to stay tone. But I never find myself satisfied with myself. I'm 5'2 and was at 125lbs and was pretty "curvy". Unfortunately, I let the media and everything get to me, Now I'm at 111 lbs and missing my old body. I just want to be me again and embrace my body. I know the media presents that this "boy thin" figure is what is sexy now, and I'm really not digging it anymore. So my question is, What do guys REALLY find attractive.?

A curvy Beyonce? A fit Britney spears? or a thin Annalyn Mccord?

[Forgetable]

Hmm, where is the "none of the above" option? Though physical attraction is important to a degree, any reasonable guy isn't set on a "perfect" image without being a self-conceited prick themself, most of us prefer women that are fit, what is fit, fit isn't run way model thin to where we think we might snap you in half if were were to try to hold you in our arms, but fit isn't shehulk body builder frame either.

Fit in appearance should just simply mean you care about your body, you likely take care of yourself outside of just running and exercising (as in trying to eat healthfully and other things as well), you shouldn't have anything to worry about, most guys... people in general just want someone they feel as though cares about themselves enough to take care of their health and such, most guys don't even mind chunky girls, most guys I've ever known think Paris Hilton thin is sickly and unattractive. I think you're likely too interested in what the media representation of beauty, which isn't even true, numerous ads are actually modified to improve the features of the models used, not just for your age or for your gender, but as a person in general instead of looking to the media just worry about how YOU feel, a decent guy worth being with is going to care more about how you feel about yourself than how hard you try to make yourself look like what the media potrays as beautiful.

Besides, any respectable man (not to be confused with boys that haven't devloped a heart, and instead think with their other head), will be more interested in your personality and how you both interact and get along, and the happiness you create for each other than a shallow concept of a distorted and impossibly perfect image of what the media says young women should look like. Leg hair removal of women (though agreeably more attractive than the alternative) was initially a media push to sell more related products... try to bare that in mind next time you see an ad saying you should be rail thin, because they do not care about your health, they do not care about your self-image, they do not care if you are even happy, they will do what they can to make a sale, that is their primary concern, there will always be someone out there who will love you as you are as long as you love them back.

[Anonymous]

I'm telling you,everyone has his/her own someone,I love sports aswell,but I'm not so thin,I'm a bit "curvy" too,but my weight isn't even much. I love when the girls is herself,has no bad habits and doesn't seriously try to be liked to all boys,the more you look yourself,the better.

Men are usually looking at what's outside,they never check the inside,I for one love both. That's why some men are like serious asses and only check the outside,if she's pretty much fit and stunningly beautiful,they want it,but they don't know what personality she has,she might be totally perfect by personality,but is that even possible? I don't think so.

The girl should always be brave enough to look up to a boy,chat with him,even ask him out if she likes him. You should try it,maybe you will find your one who you will like,maybe even till your life's end,it's all possible.

[Anonymous]

Confidence is key. Once you have that, all that little stuff like what pops up on tv and what the lastest celb trend is or how much they weigh doesn't really seem to matter too much any more.

Trust me, I've been where you are, I was always athletic, playing two or three sports at a time, but those stupid height/weight tables got me. I'm 5'6 and 135 pounds. Like some one said before up there, you have to account for mussle, I went to the doctor and checked, turned out I'm only 15% body fat which is perfectly healthy. And by my bet, I'd guess you're somewhere in that catagory. Don't follow that crap on tv, becasue as much as we'd all like it to be true, it rarely happens; but if it does, it causes way to much pain to be worth it.

[gibrat15]

well, first of all, you should look at the positive results that your body makes you do, like running faster, find clothes faster. and its healthier. a person your height (as I am the same height) you should try things that you couldn't do with your old body. go shopping and look at the positive things that you now can do and are easier for you. try new styles that you loved before, if you did. by the way, a guy loves a girl that is and feels confident about her self. never give any mind about what you think guys might think or want. be yourself but just with a new body. and always think positive about yourself, and your life. never, never let guys mess with your head or get you down.

[Lavenderdemon]

Honestly? I love myself the way I am, but I'm constantly having to boost my confidence because the media keeps telling me that I'm fat. However, I go to the gym, and I notice that I have a really high endurance level and I feel great about myself when my friends are huffing and puffing after a day at the pool and I'm still ready for more. Therefore, I love myself the way I am, and I love food too much to care about my weight. If I look healthy, and if I feel healthy, then I am beautiful. And I ignore anyone who tried to tell me different.

[s3tupMayne]

Ok this is one guy's take, coming from a gym-rat. My favorite bodies I have ever seen are Allison Stokke's and Jessica Biel's. I prefer the exact balance that Stokke and Biel have because that's sort of how I'm built. I do a lot of work in the gym and I have sort of a Beckham build. I have some power but you can tell from my body that I'm going to be very long and agile. And they sort of have the female equivalent of David Beckham's body, longer and more agile because that's the way they train. Stokke is a pole vaulter and Biel, well that's just how she does it I guess lol, but you can sort of tell that she doesn't train as hard on the weights in the gym as the curvier girls with bigger butts (think like Alicia Sacramone).

I know guys who are built stockier than me and they've got a bit more power in their bodies than I have in mine (as in, they've got a Taylor Lautner build). I don't think it's a coincidence that they like girls with more curve and more thickness than I do (not sure who is the best example, I only remember the girls I like best, not who they like best lol). Also, I'm very physically active and keep extremely trim. I know guys who are not as physically active as me and like girls who have a bit more fat on them.

I mean we can all agree on which bodies we think are good. It's basically people who become the best version of themselves they could be. I mean everybody is different, so the good bodies are really just the people who are at the top of their own game. To really get a good body, I think you sort of have to just try to shoot for some level of high athletic performance and you just go in whatever direction your body takes you. I mean I just went to the gym a lot and I could've ended up looking like Taylor Lautner or like a baseball slugger, but instead I ended up looking like this. Didn't really ask to be this way, not really mad either lol, just happened

It's sorta like when you ask me to picture a hot body in my mind, Biel and Stokke come to mind because they're sort of my equivalent. But if you put them some other girl whose body is pretty different (like maybe some skinny model like Miranda Kerr or something) in front of me I won't really be able to choose. It's different girls at the top of their own personal game. You can't really take apples over oranges.

I think the media is the same way. Really, the media doesn't have a favorite body type. Their favorite type is whatever hot celeb is making waves at the moment with their lives. The next time Beyonce has a hit single, she'll have the hottest body. Then when Britney has a hit single, then she'll have the hottest body for a little while. Then it'll be Jessica Biel when her next movie comes out. It's always changing. You just have to be yourself and try your best. Really, even though they're all different, they're all on the same level. Just do what you do and some hot guy will like it, whatever it may be lol.

[Xenophobia]

Shut out the media...and stop following celebrities...live your life for you...not anyone else as far as judgements are concerned.

Your here for you family and close friends...and if others don't approve, then they can sit on it and twist lol

Your ideal as of now...you need to completely shut the media out of your life, use your own mind, and take care of yourself...stop trying to be something your not, and embrace the skin your in.

You need to fix this mentality because many girls seem to think that they are never good enough...and it p*sses me. Why do you think plastic surgery is such a big industry...it's because girls with the same thought process as you fold under pressure of the media. You are in control of yourself...there may be some influence...but if your above the influence, it truly shows that you can think for yourself.

There is no real image that people find desirable because everyone has different tastes...keep in mind these celebrities live in fantasy lands, and could care less whether you live or die. Be Proud. Be Happy.. I feel like I'm repeating myself over and over again on this site...but I don't mind because I truly care.

Good Luck! -Xeno

[properplay]

that's really just something you should stop paying attention too. if it seems like you can't do that at first give it time, I'm not going to write a whole description on neuroscience, but in short your brain will adjust. just keep focusing your attention on other people and other things of interest instead of your own image. don't cover up when you dress just because your scared of being judged as physically unattractive, get used to the feel of it, laugh at any anxiety you feel, until you get to the point were you find it ridiculous that you ever felt the way you do now.

[Asker]

That helps

[Pestilence]

What we find sexy is a girl that is comfortable with her body and confident in the things she does. You can be those at any size. Get to the size you are comfortable with and stick to that. If you land a guy just based on looks that you don't enjoy having, you're setting the relationship up to fail from day one. What happens if you have kids and perhaps gravitate to your "comfortable weight" afterwards? Oh noez! Panic! Suddenly your man thinks you're "huge" when really you're just where you always should have been and he just has unrealistic expectations of you. If you're comfortable at 125, then aim for that and enjoy being there. For every guy that would complain about the curves, there are at least seven whom would love them.

[nawtyjay]

I find the girl whos pleased with her body the most attractive, because she has the confidence. Whether she's thin, curvy, short, tall, whatever the case is, for me its more attractive to embrace what you are, then constantly be wishing you were something else.

[mandingo1203]

Curvy curvy curvy. I like a girl that has some T & A. toned is sexy but only if you have the other goods too. women don't have to be thin to be sexy. even some plus size women are hott. fat is not sexy at all cause you look like you don't take care of yourself but skinny has the same outcome. so average is the best for me.

[dudeguy]

My personal preference is a curvy Beyonce. Also, it's a turn off to guys when a girl cares about her body too much. Most guys also agree that Too fat > Too skinny. It's good that you take care of yourself and you don't really have to change a lot, but try to keep some meat on your bones. 125lbs is more preferable to guys then 111lbs.

[davishere]

Don't give sh*t to what the media says, trust sources like online surveys. Of the many surveys I've taken or seen, a good percentage of the men prefer the curvy kind. Sesly, don tirture yourself, just because some sh*tty tv people say so. I've answered a few similar questions on this site, and for the last time : As long as you are not too thin or too fat, ur okay. And I personally would prefer a curvy Beyonce.

[bytesunfish]

I'd stop worrying about guys and focus on your own body image. Conforming to something else will be impossible and self destructive. Guys have different views of what body types look good. I dated a young woman who was five three at 135 and was gorgeous, as well as one that was five eight and 110, who was also pretty. Figure out what you want for yourself and your resulting self confidence will be the sexiest trait you could ever posses.

[somedude555]

5'2" and 125 lbs sounds good to me...

guys like women with a little substance there ya dig?

[Asker]

Aha I dig yaa:)

[Cartiphilus]

At 5'2" and 125lbs you probably looked about 10lbs overweight. Now you most likely look much better. To answer your question, for me a figure like Beyonce and a fit Britney is most ideal. However, Annalyn McCord could keep my attention.

[sa230e]

I wrote about it fairly extensively here link

You'll have to scroll down a bit.

[emzy-89]

i;d stop worrying about what guys think and just focus on yourself. just stay healthy, whatever that may be...that doesn't neccessarily mean thin, really think people are just as unhealthy as really fat ppl, and embrace your body and feel confident about it. confidence is way sexier than anything to a man.

[Animus]

I go for the curvy girls - but not "chubby!" I consider a girl "curvy" if she has these nice curves, but she is NOT skinny or fat at the same time. Maybe this helped you?

[elaina]

im having the same problem. if your missing your old body then get back to what you want to be. be comfortable with who you are and what you look like. guys who can't handle some curves aren't really men. curves are beautiful and being that way is fine. guys like curves. over the past year I rwally started embracing my curves and guys really like the way I look. I have 32 double d's and a pretty nice butt and I'm thick. I love it and they love it :)

[bgee89]

It took me a while to realize that guys love women who love themselves. When you think you're sexy you become more confident in how you walk, how you flirt, and how comfortable you are when a man touches you. True story. No matter what my weight, I have found with that attitude that exudes "sexy" I have never had a problem finding men. :)

[an0namoose]

I am attracted to a girl that looks healthy. She shouldn't be overweight or underweight. Think 18-35% body fat. Don't use those stupid height to weight tables either. You have to account for muscle mass.

[Anikaj]

I love a girl with meat on her, curves are the sh**

[candyhearts123]

i'm 5,3 and I'm 110. I used to be 125 to even though I had curves when I was that weight I was still comfortable with my body, with your hieght 111lbs is a healthy weight for ur hieght, so unles you wanna stop going to the gym and eat a ton to get that weight back, then all you can really do is learn to love ur body for what it is :)

[tigerguy]

curvy

the media are a bunch of wanker most of the times when they do something like that