How can I stop being so nervous around people and open up more?

[Anonymous]

I think I'm like because i used to get bullied by random strangers on the street. Now, I'm afraid to be myself around anyone. I've been called ugly by random people before and I could never forget about it. Any tips?

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+1 y

Thank you for your kind comments. I've also been called very pretty by random strangers but I always believe the ugly part

[Hayordrah]

Honestly, you just have to stop caring about things like that. I don't know how old you are but if you're young, it'll just take time. Your circle will grow smaller and it'll be a lot less toxic. You need to realise real friends and partners stick around because they like you for who you are. You're you and being anyone else would make you a sheep to society, rather than unique. Self confidence not only looks good to others but it feels good too. Going out with friends and only caring about how you look takes away the attention that you're out and having fun with friends. It takes time and practice to overcome self-consciousness and anxiety but it is possible and it feels very rewarding.

[A_Bell]

Practice at it. It's the same for every skill. Always practice a little above your comfort zone, that the best way to improve, but don't go too far. Going too far is like having your hand bitten and you'll never want to pet that "dog" again.

When you get comfortable with the new normal shoot for more challenging situations gradually. The key is to stop only doing what's comfortable.

[Anonymous]

I was bullied as well !
Confidence is the most important factor in my opinion. Bullies will always go for the weakest therefore try being confident and not to seen weak. Working out definitely helps boosting your confidence and gaining some muscles to defend yourself. If your more confident you will also less likely get nervous arround other people !

[Anonymous]

You might be beautiful and the guys hate and ransoms hate you from jealousy. It happened to me in high school and was later told by several of the girls that they found me attractive and a snob because I never asked them out. Just be yourself ignore the haters and if you meet someone amazing then keep them

[Zeppelinrocks]

The thing is that confidence boosts your attractiveness no matter what you look like. That, added to a great personality, makes a great person to get to know. You’re always going to feel distance between yourself and others until you finally give in and act like your true self, so you might as well start now. The people that matter won’t mind, and the people that mind won’t matter.

[jshm2]

You're just suffering anxiety of some sort and should get some psychological help.

[Texasguy99]

Confidence is key. And even if you don’t have it right now you have to fake it until it’s real.
And I’m guessing you are not ugly at all.

[Anonymous]

The illuminati have a saying: "Why should lions care about the opinions of sheep?"

[7771999]

Why would you get bullied by total strangers?

[Asker]

I don't know, that's just what people do

[7771999]

That's awful

[Anonymous]

What do you look like?

[jahaims]

By not caring about what trash thinks

[Lostguuy]

Valium!

[Lostguuy]

I’ll bet you are gorgeous