Do you ever get too drunk?

[Loveleigh]

The guy i'm seeing has a big social life which revolves around having many parties to go to. His social circle loves to drink and everywhere we socialize requires a lot of shots that sometimes really sneak up. I love to drink myself but I don't love drunk me afterwards. I'm not a sloppy drinker (and many times I am very normal) but I feel guilty that someone has to watch over me to ensure I don't become that way. His friends love me because I'm pretty fun but it's after when my guy has to put up with it. My guy hasn't ever complained about it or said anything but I can't help the guilt afterwards and I guess today is one of those days.

@guys does this ever tarnish the way you look at your girl?
@girls if you've been in this position, how do you control yourself but still have/look fun?

[nachosaresexy]

From the way you explained it, you're obviously not a young chica having her first few shots with no reasonable way to gauge it. So... just pace yourself in those social situations, and a smart low key thing to do is order a shot and ice water, so that you can give yourself a break in between but the ice water should look like a drink anyway so it's not like you're some lame ass designated driver (we love y'all too!).

[nachosaresexy]

by the way, props for being self-aware to ask the question. Has your guy or anyone else ever questioned you about it after the fact? Like ya know, totally normal, but if you were hanging from a chandelier by your legs for the last shot of the night?

[Loveleigh]

haha yes! Especially because I have no peer pressure. It's too easy to say yes if you even get a say. lol for example, today we went with one of his friends who had a section and next thing I know, my guy made me realize we were 5 shots in as he takes my cocktail because they just hand them to you and say "go, you have to catch up to us". I didn't feel drunk at all in front of everyone but as we were leaving, it kicked in.

[nachosaresexy]

@Loveleigh totally unrelated but I have a question I'm curious to get your opinion about. Nothing weird or anything, but can I message you to try to explain?

[nachosaresexy]

So yeah, i'm a dude and dudes can drink beer because we're dudes and beer is a manly dude drink, but the point is... wait what... oh yeah, I can drink several beers over the course of the night and be *drunk* but not DRUNK but then you start mixing in shots and yeah... ask the bartender or someone near you to borrow a sharpie to start making marks on your arm to keep track.

[Loveleigh]

Once we went out as a group and literally everyone in the group got way too trashed. I'm talking about some people falling asleep on the floor and leaving a brand new bottle behind because everyone was too intoxicated. I remember I couldn't stand without falling so that's when he told me we had to go. He explained the next morning when I was mortified by my behavior that there's an unwritten rule in the group that when people get really drunk, no one looks down on each other but I never wanna be that person. He's great now about babysitting my limits but I wish he didn't have to in the first place.

[Loveleigh]

Followed you back. Feel free to message!

[nachosaresexy]

Haha it happens. Totally cliche but live & learn.

Plus it's situational... there's times where it's *appropriate* to just let loose and have fun (depending where you're at, who're you're with, etc.) and then there's other times you might keep it more in control, like saving your best break dancing moves for the next get together.

[slatyb]

I don’t drink like that and wouldn’t date a woman who did. I’ve rejected a couple when I realized they were alcoholics. Are you sure you want to get involved with that crowd? It doesn’t sound like much fun, but could lead to a lot of trouble.

[Loveleigh]

It seems to be a cultural thing as his family is the same way. Everyone is very welcoming and successful so it brings forth a sense of normalcy. I just wish I could just have a little more control of my limits to avoid this periodic feeling. It's very fun and nice to be social and you won't see me falling or dancing crazy but for someone who is very self aware, I hate reflecting and wondering if I acted childish. :(

[Anonymous]

My ex was ridiculous when she drank, I hated babysitting her basically.
I definitely couldn't trust her either, just a bad combination.

[Loveleigh]

trust as in she wasn't loyal?

[Opinion Owner]

When she drank she was just a piece of shit to honest.
Fighting with people, making other girls cry, flirting with other guys (Probably cheating).
She would get us kicked out of places, and people would like break stuff on my truck because she did something to some girl. She wouldn't come home sometimes, or she would try to drive drunk, and she was terrible at it. She would throw stuff at me.
She was just a pain in the ass.

[Loveleigh]

Yikes, that sounds horrible. I'm more of a very happy drunk so that makes me feel better lol you're definitely better off without that in your life

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.

[FunkyMonkee]

Impossible! I never drink!

[SofiaML]

Haha nope!

[nsafunbuddyATgm]

Fun💌🌹