Why is she mad at me?

[Anonymous]

I have this ladyfriend that got divorced about a year ago. When we'd have a group of friends that got together for social situations she'd stop and say hi to me. We'd exchange a few words and then she's go off and talk to another guy. A few times she's come to the parties with another guy. And she'd come up and say a few words to me then go back to her guy. So one day she stopped talking to me all together. Which is pretty much our dealings the whole time I had known her. Even before she had married.

So anyways fast forward a year I'm dating this girl and she finds out and comes up and blasts me for never asking her out. I told her I would have but she'd never showed any real interest in me. At least no more than any other guy. Why did she do this? If she wanted to go out with me why didn't she show a clear sign? Do you think she wanted to go out with me? Or do you think she just wanted to be asked.

[KathrynTaylor]

sounds a bit wussy on your part not to ask her out. But equally wussy on her part not to share her feelings with you. People wonder why I don’t date.

[Asker]

😄😄😄wussy! My thoughts exactly. Like I say I'd known her for years. She never gave any real inclination before. Why would now be different. And was she just mad that I didn't ask her out? I had just as many reasons to NOT ask her out as to ask her. I still don't know if I should have. Because I still don't know if she even wanted to or if she's just angry because in some twisted way she thinks i rejected her.
I agree on the not dating sentiment. 😄😄😄

[KathrynTaylor]

Me too. Anyway, you’ve got someone else now and learnt not to be wussy. You’ve cut your teeth on each other.

[Asker]

True. And I'm happy. I just was kind of surprised by her snapping on me like that.

[KathrynTaylor]

Yeah, who wouldn’t be? She sounds unstable.

[slatyb]

Who knows? "She finds out and comes up and blasts me for never asking her out" -- you didn't miss anything.

[Asker]

I kind of lean towards that to. Now she shows the I passign? Why because I'm dating another girl. Could just as easily be sour grapes on her part.

[Asker]

Passion*

[slatyb]

Could very well be -- as if she wants your attention but doesn't really want you. Be happy you never got involved with her.

[Anonymous]

She probably gave you 1,000 signs, but you being a guy with a logical brain, completely missed all of them.
Now she's mad that you didn't pick up on that time she "accidentally" touched your arm, and ended up with another girl