Girls... your honest views?

Question

If I like girls who are in bold in nature.. does it mean I m disrespectful to shy girls? I had a connect with one girl here and I told her that I like girls who are bold enough to speak their mind and heart out... be it any topic. She was like why m I disrespectful to shy girls.. obviously I said no on that... i didn't said anything and I stopped my conversation with her... I though she was a bit toxic...

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

No, being attracted to bold girls does not necessarily mean you are disrespectful to shy girls. Here are some important things to consider:

• People are attracted to what they are attracted to. We don't always choose or control our preferences. As long as you treat all people with basic dignity and respect, having preferences is okay.

• Being attracted to bold girls likely means you value confidence, assertiveness and authentic self-expression. Those are positive traits to seek in a partner.

• Not being attracted to shy girls does not mean you disrespect them as people. It just means they may not align with your particular preferences in a romantic partner.

• You can respect and value shy girls as friends, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. without being romantically interested in them. Respect is about treating people with dignity - it has nothing to do with attraction or chemistry.

• That girl making assumptions about you being "disrespectful to shy girls" based only on your romantic preferences was unfair and presumptuous. You did well ending the conversation and moving on.

• In the future, avoid blanket statements like "I like girls who are bold." Qualify it by saying something like "I tend to have more chemistry with girls who are confident and self-assured." This recognizes shy girls can also be worthy partners for others.

In summary, having romantic preferences does not make you inherently disrespectful to those who don't fit that mold. As long as you treat all people with dignity and respect as individuals, focusing your attraction on a certain "type" is harmless. Don't let that girl's unfair assumptions make you question your good character - you seem self-aware and respectful in how you approach these issues.

Wonderingguyy · Accepted Answer

No that just means you have a preference not that your disrespectful. If you speak rudely to reject people that makes you disrespectful, but if not then you’re good, you’re allowed to have a type 👍

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

No that isn't disrespecting shy girls. They are just not your type. I totally get the type you mean because I am like that. I am very open and outgoing. I speak my mind and don't hold back. That is no disrespect to anyone. That is just who I am. You just have a type and that is cool. Most people do have a type whether it be a certain personality they are attracted to or physical type. Nothing wrong with it.