Does she likes me? What should I do?

[m0rango6266]

I've been talking to a girl for a few months now, she followed me on instagram and i followed her back. We are talking like once every two weeks, and i can say that she is kinda shy.

Since then i noted some things:

• She always reply to me very fast, and never avoided answering a message.
• As we started chatting more frenquently, she's talking much more than before, not only "answering" the things i say and even saying things about her life and asking things about mine
• She watches LITERALLY every stories of mine (and fast), and already liked a bunch of them and replied to a couple.

But there are somethings still holding me back:

• She never started a conversation.
• She doesn't give a like to some posts i was 100% she was going to (maybe i'm exaggerating about this one).
• Two weeks ago during a conversation, i said that she could send me anything funny whenever she wanted, but still nothing.

I know, all of that could be because she's probably a very reserved and shy person like i said. But i want you guys opinion and ideas. Does she probably likes me? Should i talk to her more frequently? You can ask me whatever as well.

About asking her out, i feel like i'm not ready yet and she's not too. So for now we've been chatting mostly about things we like and starting to talk about personal things.

Sorry if my English is not perfect!

[AmandaYVR]

Don't know. You've made a very equal case for both (interested/not interested).

She sounds curious enough to check out you and your activity, but not into you enough to message you, and I'm afraid the latter seems the more significant.

My guess is that this is not about her not wanting to appear "desperate" (some girls' word and assessment, definitely not mine) because you are showing interest and so she doesn't have to feel like this is a one-sided scenario.

I agree with you and your replies to others. This is not a time to ask her out. And with most girls, they are less likely to say yes to being asked out, or a guy being what they deem as too enthusiastic too early on. Most feel pressure in that case. And there is a concern of safety when girls don't know guys. They have to have at least a certain amount of comfort and trust in them to agree to be alone with them (rape etc. is not common, but it will also be a concern to some degree).

You sound nice, organized in your thinking, and your English is perfect. You're great boyfriend material.

I don't think there's much more you can do, though. Probably just keep going with your interactions as you have been. I would not hold my breath that she's either really into you now, or going to become really into you later. She has access to you, but is not reaching out to interact with you. Liking videos is a step down from having conversations one-on-one (in whatever form). Unless she initiates, she could be just killing time, socializing in a general way. I'm not saying an alternative interpretation is not possible, but it's less likely, probably. But then again, I've been completely surprised by people, had no idea of their deeper feelings. Sometimes people are just mysterious, and we need to leave room for that interpretation as well.

Good luck. May whatever you want to happen, happen.

[m0rango6266]

thanks for your kind words, i will keep trying! I'm thinking more about this last massage i sent her about she being free to send me cool things too, I just don't know if i should wait a little longer so she can find something nice to send me, because it looks like she enjoys talking to me.

[Tharithi]

For Girls it’s about how invested the dude is. Why do u like her

[m0rango6266]

mostly because i like her hobbies and life style

[Tharithi]

What u like about her

[Fireguy17]

How about this, actually talk to her and ask her.
Direct communication while now a days is really old school it is such an amazing tool.
You can accomplish so much more in a short phone call than you can in a weeks' worth of typing back and forth.
They both have their places, but with direct communication face to face, face time/video chat on a computer, or an actual phone call can let you hear the person's reaction to you, it is easy to ask them anything, and you can easily gauge their reaction to a question and get an immediate answer, and even ask follow up questions when needed.
Try it, you might enjoy it.

[m0rango6266]

i don't think that is appropriate right now, but thanks for your opinion

[Fireguy17]

I understand.
Since I'm older and predate computers that is the only option we had was to actually talk to someone.
I'm just used to doing that.
You'll figure it out.

[Anonymous]

You initiate conversations with her lot and ask her out early because she will lose interest if you do late. Make relationship official soon if you are sure about her feelings

[laly520]

just ask her

[m0rango6266]

ask what? start the conversation with "do you like me?"
i don't think so

[In_Trance]

No.
You're a time killer at best

[m0rango6266]

thanks for nothing