Typically I do showers, but this evening I’m taking a bath instead. It’s perfect for self-care 😌 I’m missing bubbles or pretty petals with a glass of wine.
We always do both here in Japan and our bathrooms are designed that way, like this:
First shower and do body soap and shampoo and conditioner and wash everything. Then relax in hot bath.
I have to compromise with my wife a lot on this when we share. She calls me "Edoko" I like old-school Edo-style super hot bath at 45 degrees C (113 degrees F). She likes just kind of warm at 39 degrees C (100 degrees F).
But to me the relaxation is kind of painful. It should be painful to alleviate our pains.
I did a training for super hot baths when I was a boy when my father took me to onsen. At first it was so painful. There was a literal fire under the tab. Then like meditation, get in there and block out the pain. It is like electric parks all over our body. And nice feeling and our finger tips and feet get wrinkly almost instantly. I really love this type of gentle pain, like spicy food. I've been trying to negotiate with my wife when we share bath to go higher and higher but we're still at 41 degrees C. I like 45 degrees C.
Is it true that in Japan you keep the water in the tub for multiple people to use? And that's why you rinse thoroughly before getting in, so it doesn't dirty the bath water?
@WindAtMyBack Yes -- family way. Might be gross to people outside of Japanese but sometimes the whole family will share a hot bath. So we all shower together and wash very thoroughly before entering it so that we don't dirty the bath water. Same with onsen (public bath).
@WindAtMyBack Actually when I was a boy, my best friend's mom took bath with me. She was so sexy. I don't know if I was supposed to find women sexy at the time since I was like 4 years old, but she was so sexy! I saw almost everything except the hair blocked some parts.
But I always wanted to hang out at his house after and he was like, "Let's play video games!" Me: "Cool! But maybe we can take a bath with your mother!"
Lol. I was dating a Japanese woman last summer. She went back to Japan for visa reasons. I never got around to asking her about sharing the water.
She wants me to visit her in Japan. She wants me to go to the spa - but with a bunch of naked men - that's out of the comfort zone for us westerners. She insists that I do it if I really want to experience Japan. What you are talking about sounds like a lot more fun. :)
@WindAtMyBack I don't like onsen for that reason. When I was a boy in the 80s, there was a lot of coed onsen. So they didn't separate by the sexes this way. I go in and naked ladies everywhere! The naked men become invisible.
My wife wants me to do as well. I missed my teenage years in Japan and I don't want to take bath with a bunch of guys. That's like a gay bar but worse! What if I wear a swimming suit? Can I go to the ladies' section? You know. One can only dream.
I'll go for the food. Then go back to her place for the tub. She's very good looking, and so are her friends. She's a very good cook too. It's win-win. I'll probably go in the fall when prices start to drop.
I've been taking mostly baths for several years now. I'm retired and have the time. I make a ritual out of it. I'll usually bathe for at least a half hour, sometimes well over an hour. I'll have some music playing. I might have a glass of wine or mug of coffee. It's so relaxing and I feel much cleaner than taking a shower.
Sometimes I even fall asleep in the bath. No, I'm not worried about drowning, but it's hard to explain why - it just won't happen.
These days, I only take showers when I'm in a hurry. I try to time things so that's not necessary.
I would enjoy baths more if we had a bigger tub. Showers I always get to shower with at least one of my girlfriends, and it's very empowering for me because they're on their knees the whole time. Lmao.
Hehe right? It honestly makes me wanna do more… and take more better care of myself. I stay too busy and forget to nurture my body, mind, and soul at times.
I agreed, my life gets too chaotic haha. I just need to make more self-time honestly. Wbu? Haha same girl, we can be friends here and you can message me as well :)
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