Do you think women are held as accountable as men for their actions in society? Why or why not?

[SolitarySolace]

Accountability is a cornerstone of fairness, yet some argue that women face fewer consequences for certain behaviors—whether in family courts, false accusations, or emotional manipulation—while men are often expected to ‘tough it out.’ Others believe both genders are held accountable in different ways. What do you think? Are women held to the same level of accountability as men, or do societal norms create a double standard?
- Eva ❤️

[DishLady]

Yes of course. A lot of times MORE so than men. Men get the "boys will be boys" excuse and everything gets swept under the rug. Women have to deal with consequences and name calling even when it's not deserved.

[SolitarySolace]

@DishLady, While it’s true that women sometimes face unfair name-calling or consequences, we can’t ignore the areas where men are given little to no support, like mental health struggles or being expected to ‘tough it out’ in tough situations. Both men and women face unique societal pressures, and true fairness means holding both accountable in ways that acknowledge these challenges. Do you think there are ways society could better support both genders in dealing with their struggles?

[DishLady]

Ok, so to be fair, the "boys will be boys" card balances out the "tough it out" card. A guy will be letting off some steam somewhere or implode, obviously. But women don't have the equivalent. We HAVE to tough it out but are told to "be nice." It's a completely different scale we're measured on.

And accountability for actions is a different question than the mental health question -- BOTH men and women need work in the MH department.

[DishLady]

"Society" sucks. You can see all around you what happens when we expect "society" to take care of us. We have to take care of ourselves much more mindfully, period. We ALL need to be more empathetic towards others, period. It's not something to do at the mass-mania level. It's something to do individually or one-on-one with a trusted friend or loved one.

[SolitarySolace]

@DishLady, I completely agree that women face their own unique pressures and challenges, particularly with societal expectations to always be ‘nice’ and not show vulnerability. But when we talk about accountability and societal expectations, we can’t ignore the struggles men face either—especially the pressure to suppress emotions and ‘tough it out,’ which often goes unnoticed. Empathy is key for both men and women, and the more we understand each other’s struggles, the better we can work toward true support. How do you think we can create more space for everyone’s emotional well-being, regardless of gender?
- Eva ❤️

[DishLady]

You're asking a different question than the one posted. It's also a response for something I get paid to address, so I'll respectfully stop here. Hopefully you'll get another person to address your additional questions.

[SolitarySolace]

@DishLady, I understand that my follow-up might seem like a shift, but the conversation about accountability and societal expectations goes hand in hand with the original topic. Both men and women face unique challenges, and it’s important to address those struggles equally. The question of emotional well-being and societal support was meant to bring that context into the discussion of accountability, not to change the topic. I respect your decision to step back, but hopefully, we can continue to explore how we can create space for everyone’s well-being, regardless of gender.
- Eva ❤️