What are women actually looking for?

[Anonymous]

Because it feels like whatever it is, I just don’t have it.

[Finchie40]

Most of them don’t even know themselves , because most of them think grass is greener on the other side. And have very selfish mindsets. You can be the best partner to a girl , be loving and loyal to her and make her your top priority , do things for her , like take her on dates , buy her things she wants , go out of your way for her to show her
You love and care about her , surprise her with things you can give her compliments every day on how beautiful she is and how amazing she is to you ,, and how appreciative you are to have her as your partner , and things will be great for awhile, until one day , she starts comparing her life to her friends’ lives , by comparing their partners’ to you , saying things like her boyfriend or husband does this and does that for her , how come you don’t do this and that for me , basically all the good you have done for her , unfortunately is no longer good enough. Instead of focusing on the positives of you, she will start focusing on the negatives of you and criticize you , belittle you , make you feel like you are no longer a good man , she will start finding every little flaw she can find on you and overlook all the good and she will no longer be satisfied , because she now has her eye on another guy that she feels is better than you are. He has more status , he is
More handsome , everything about him is better than you are , and the only reason she feels that way about him , is because, she doesn’t live with him , but you are all of a sudden a POS in her eyes , and everything you do is no longer good enough , this is why so many guys’ today do not want relationships with a girl anymore , because most girls’ are selfish people. They only want what they feel is better for themselves , and you no longer are good enough for her until you walk the other way and she realizes no other guy wants her selfish sorry ass , that other guy she had her on eye just wanted to fuck her and once he fucked her a few times he realized he doesn’t want a girl that is selfish , so he kicks her to the curb and then she tries coming back to you acting like you are the love of her life after she got used by another guy , Never take a girl back into your life that walked away from you period , the second she needs space , give her all the space she wants without waiting for her return. Realize you deserve a girl that stands by your side no matter what that doesn’t spread her legs for anyone else but you. I been on both sides of the spectrum many of times and this is pretty much how every relationship turns out , you either find a good one or a bad one , and these days there is more bad than good

[BonzoInBitburg]

Get your life in order. Be kind instead of nice. Have a plan for your life and know where your going and how to get there. Make wise decisions. But most importantly, its how you make a woman feel. If you can make women feel safe and secure when they're around you, you'll have no trouble dating.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Most women aren’t looking for perfection.

They’re looking for safety, consistency, and emotional maturity.


That usually means,

* Emotional clarity
Someone who knows what he feels, says what he means, and doesn’t create confusion.

* Consistency
Words and actions matching over time. Not intensity today and distance tomorrow.

* Respect
Being seen as a whole person, not a role, a body, or an ego boost.

* Stability
Not just financially, but mentally and emotionally. A steady presence feels attractive.

* Effort without pressure
Initiative that doesn’t feel forced, controlling, or performative.

* Connection
Humor, depth, and the ability to talk about real things without defensiveness.


Attraction matters, chemistry matters.

But most women stay for how a man makes them feel over time, not how exciting he is in the beginning.

The biggest mistake people make is assuming women want games, dominance, or mystery.

Most don’t.

They want someone who’s solid, self aware, and emotionally available, someone who makes life feel calmer, not harder.

[blackeagle007]

What if he takes the lead?

[Hellraiser1984]

All you want is a free ride through life going through life from one guy to the next getting them to buy you things and paying your bills. You're parasites. Useless stupid little things using your bodies to get what you want. Most of you are so stupid and and a waste of life. All of the guys who aren't good looking and rich mean nothing to you. Just something to use and abuse to get money shelter and shelter from until you land what you are all looking for. A rich good looking guy who will pay your way through life in exchange for sex. Women are such wastes of life.

[7Phoenix7]

@bitter_sweet94 say it again and louder for the people in the back 🗣️🎙️

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Taking the lead isn’t the issue.

Control, resentment, and projection are.

A man can lead and still respect a woman’s autonomy, voice, and boundaries.

In fact, healthy leadership requires emotional regulation, accountability, and mutual respect.

What you’re describing isn’t women, it’s your anger being aimed at an entire gender instead of the specific experiences that hurt you.

Women aren’t asking for a “free ride.”

Most are building their own lives and choosing partnership, not dependency.

And reducing human connection to money, looks, and sex says far more about how you see relationships than how women actually operate.

If you believe connection is purely transactional, that’s the kind of connection you’ll keep attracting.

Respect isn’t weakness.

Emotional maturity isn’t submission.

And partnership isn’t parasitism.

It’s alignment.

[MikeMcMansion]

Taking the lead is being in control

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Taking the lead isn’t the same as being in control.

Leadership is about direction and responsibility.

Control is about dominance and restriction.

A leader considers feedback, adjusts when necessary, and is accountable for outcomes.

Someone who needs control isn’t leading, they’re compensating for insecurity or fear of losing power.

In healthy relationships, influence is mutual, even if roles differ.

If “taking the lead” requires silencing autonomy, consent, or agency, then it’s not leadership, it’s authority without maturity.

[MikeMcMansion]

It certainly is control, if a subordinate argues with a superior in combat everyone could die or the objective will be lost. Life IS combat whether you want ti believe it or not. How the kids get raised and the money is made is a life or death matter in the end.

[Nikki1989]

What you need is personality, kindness and compassion, respect, intelligence, a sense of humor, honesty and integrity, good communication skills, and shared interests and values. Anything else is just a bonus.

Pretty basic stuff!

[RxR0954]

i can't speak for all women, but i’d say confidence, charm, warmth, decency and, independence. Being successful or working towards your long term career goal is another attractive thing that women seek. Basically they want to make sure you are able to clean after yourself, able to support yourself financially, and is determined in working towards your career goals. I learned this from my experiences of dating women. Women that i know are highly educated and successful, so that is just the bare minimum.

[Asker]

What if I said that I think the significance of education is somewhat of an illusion? For instance, I didn’t take a traditional path, only did some education past grade school, but have an above average salary. It took me longer to get there but at this point it is what it is. It’s one path of many you can take. Not something to necessarily compare and try to hold against someone. What are your thoughts on that?

[RxR0954]

Very interesting how you solely pointed out the education part from my response. I simply said women around me are highly educated, i didn’t even say you need a university to date them. Even tho i’m pretty sure calling education an illusion will get you to lose points.

And tbh i’m never the person to hold educational level against someone, and certainly i don’t think it is the only way to success. In fact my girlfriend is a chef and she worked her way up since she was a teenager instead of going to culinary school. What’s admirable is determination and sense of purpose in life. And also, even tho my girlfriend didn't finish uni she would never say education is an illusion since education goes beyond formal qualifications

[Asker]

That’s great I’ve just been around a lot of people in my life and career that set firm boundaries and gatekeep people by their education. It’s something that has frustrated me and I’ve had to deal with for a long time. It’s somewhat of a triggering thing for me.

[RxR0954]

Honestly i get the “people in life” gatekeeping because most people don’t understand other people’s profession. But ones in the same career doing that i’d say that’s downright ignorant and obnoxious. Of course depends on which field… i once went out on a date with someone that did plastic surgeries on people without previously obtaining any formal degree or training and that’s a shame but i guess that’s a rarity

[Asker]

I chalk it up to people in the system perpetuating the system, like dude systems broken lol I can’t afford these student loans AND car AND house anymore, especially now. College really was just never an environment for me.

That’s wild though, the guy doing surgeries. I mean maybe he did a great job, but there are some things that I think anyone would want someone to have that background. It really just depends on the job and the circumstances. But if he was successful at it, good for him.

[Vegasrunner]

Women are looking for a man who.

1. Is Tall

2. Attractive

3. Has disposable income

4. Owns A Home

5. Owns multiple Cars

6. Is physically fit

7. Is sensitive

8. Is Intelligent

9. Has leadership qualities

10. Is good with kids

11. Is charismatic

12. Can defend them

13. Is willing to provide

14. Has fashion sense.

15. Can make them laugh

16. Is good in bed

17. Is willing to wait for the woman

18. Has status

19. Will open up to them

20 is emotionally Intelligent

21. Likes animals

22. Is willing to accept a woman for her past

23. Has friends

24. Can hold a conversation

25. Is single

In addition this man who has all these qualities has to only want this one woman for the rest of her life.

[JohnKebab]

The only thing women look for in a man is muscles, money and dong size, everything else doesn't matter to them, women like to feel protected and provided for, which is something women have always desired since caveman days, even when a woman says she wants a man for his personality, hobbies and sensitivity they're lying, because they don't want to admit that they enjoy the protection of a strong man and that they loved to be babied by them, and women just can't get that same feeling from weak scrawny guys who cry over little things.

[slatyb]

In my experience, a man who has his life together and listens to them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's like asking what are men looking for?

Every man inculding you desires something different from another man so likewise women too.

What works best for me is to be 100% yourself and the right woman will come that fits you best.

[Asker]

But no woman ever comes 😕

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If you never at least say Hi to them how would you ever meet someone?

[BADGER44]

thats 2 bad 4u. there's nothing like it

[Subgurl]

Integrity, kindness, drive, honesty, humility, a sense of humor, compassion and confidence

[MJVillarama]

It really varies, but mostly women want respect, honesty, emotional connection, and someone who makes them feel valued and safe.

[guesswhereivebeen]

It’s definitely NOT what they say they want…, if it were nice guys would be rolling in pussy

[blackeagle007]

I keep hearing different things. Hell if I know

[Anonymous]

If I knew that, maybe I wouldn't be single and a virgin at this age.

[Asker]

I wish more women seemed to realize that men don’t like freaking tattoos and piercings and rainbow colored hair. Sometimes you see a girl that would look great if she didn’t just completely ruin herself with all that crap. Seems like all you see around anymore I don’t understand it.

[Opinion Owner]

I wish more girls would take initiative, they don't realize that some guys are too shy.

[ABC1x1x]

A weak provider thay tells jokes and kisses their ass.

[Leagueofasians]

I think it depends on who you’re talking to…

[DishLady]

A real man...

[Asker]

I’m a real boy!

[DishLady]

Are you? 🤥

[Asker]

I swear I am! 🤥🤥😆

[DishLady]

Lol.

[spartan55]

They don't even know, so how could we?

[Asker]

That’s a great point 😂😂

[DishLady]

Oooooh. Them's fighting words, @spartan55 I'm coming for your helmet.

[Hellraiser1984]

A bodybuilding rich guy. Otherwise forget it.

[blackeagle007]

I wouldn’t say if he’s a steroid breath

[Nikki1989]

LMAO

[diam0ndsnow]

peace and quiet

[Bloodparadise]

Sex and hugs