How can I stop people pleasing when I just hate conflict?

[Anonymous]

I don’t do it to purposely be a people pleaser I just don’t like conflict and want to avoid hard situations

[zayndan]

The answer is, by not doing what you normally would. It's going to feel uncomfortable, unatural, and perhaps you'll give in to people pleasing the first few times, because currently, that's the default setting of your brain. When the next moment comes, stop. Think. Think. Ask yourself, "what would a non- people pleaser do?" Or, "How would I ideally like to handle this situation?" And without thinking any further, without overthinking, and before you talk yourself out of it, just do it. Handle the situation in the way that would make your future self proud. In 2 weeks (well depends on how often u exercise this ability) it would feel natural, second nature and so normal. And you'll be proud of yourself.

[Capplica]

You cannot change the fact you're kind person that is in your nature to be neutral and kind to others.

But that doesn't mean you let people doormat you. You set boundaries for them and if they cross you let them know. If they keep doing it, you cut them off. Watch how they treat other people and how they talk to others because that is how they will treat you. And you avoid.

You give one or two chances and if they don't listen that's it.

[Anonymous]

I think there's no way to escape this
you have to adapt to the situation cause conflict have ways for rising from nothing
It often says be the nice person
or just avoid getting involved

[Nikki1989]

Is that why you are hiding behind an anonymous profile?

[Anonymous]

You have to learn to not care.