How can you tell if a girl likes you or if she is just friendly?

Question

I don't know how to read girls so I don't know how to tell.

december1990 · Accepted Answer

For one every girl is different. If a girl is usually super nice she's usually super nice to all people. Girls can also be nice to the less fortunate (not saying you are) but if somebody is alone by themselves they may walk up to them and talk to them because they don't want anybody to feel left out but that doesn't also mean she cant' start crushing on a dude if he was one of those lonely guys lol because she may like his quietness or personality. But anyways.. if a girls being nice.. she won't initiate the conversation for too long because she doesn't wanna give you the wrong impression. She won't ask you personal questions about your life they will just be centered around things like "school" or things that you both know. If a girls NOT interested she's not gonna let you be interested in her because girls don't like rejecting guys or giving them the wrong impression and they don't like dealing with drama either.

If a girl likes you.. She's gonna look at you in a flirtacious way, she's gonna smile, she's gonna find reasons to be with you and hang around you.. she may laugh at your corny jokes, she's gonna be extra nice to you.. she may start getting a high pitched voice and act all giggley... or she may just stare at you lol in a dream like fashion.. ALL GIRLS ARE DIFFERENT but if a girl likes you and you show some itnerest in her trust me she's gonna tell you.. woman TALK about their feelings and eventually she's gonna tell you she likes you if you talk to her... and show interest in her...

Or she could just be being friendly.. but usually girls don't go out of their way for guys just to be friendly lol... unless they are very nice to ALL people around them cause that's the way they were brought up.. usually girls are nice to guys when they are interested and that's why they ask questions lol

helpha · Accepted Answer

She acts happier around you. Observe how she acts around others---- does she act that way with you, or does she act happier and more giggly around you than others? Does she smile at you a lot? When you guys talk, does she touch you unnescessarily, like on the arm or shoulder or maybe even if she ruffles up your hair. Also, on the days she know she's going to see you, pay attention and see if she looks prettier on those days and more dressed up, because girls wear more risque outfits and get prettier looking around the guys they like. Another sign is is she compliments you, or goes out of her way to get into contact with you.

When girls are just being friendly, they're just nice. WHen a girl likes you, she'll tell you little facts about herself, be more curious about your life and facts about you, and they'll blush or get flustered around you.

Pretty much begin with observing how she acts with other people. If she acts a bit differently with you, then she likes you. She could also be a bit more shy around you than with others, that could be a good sign.

upood · Accepted Answer

Same way a guy would act if he were just being friendly? Bottom line is no flirting and constant talking about other boys means she's not interested in you. If you don't know her well, watch how she treats other guys, if she treats you differently then she may be interested and not just friendly. Some girls are always smiling and friendly so the real teller would be a change in behavior around you or maybe she keeps bringing up places she wants to go, hoping you'd suggest to go together. Does she tease you/ask you about other girls you may be with, she may be trying to find out if you're available. How much time does she spend around you. etc

kholland65 · Accepted Answer

With some girls it really is impossible to tell. I've seen girl go as far as cuddling, kissing, hanging out and texting a guy everyday, only to turn around stick him in the friend zone when he makes a move to date her.

I think one key thing with women more so than men, is that women crave more attention than men do, so many women are serial flirts because they need to constant gratification. Once they do this enough, it becomes ingrained into their behavior and soon they don't even realize they are doing it. It's just the normal way in which they interact with people. These are the types of girl that have 5 guys chasing them at any given time.

Honestly, like Belgie said, your best bet is simply to just outright make a move and ask her. Easier said than done I know, but sometimes its nice to just cut to the chase, either proceed with the relationship right away without wasting time wondering, or you can cut your loses and move on without wasting more time on a girl who isn't interested. The tough part with all of this is when the girl you are dealing with is more of a friend. I know I'm way more hesitant about making a move on a girl who is my friend because of the fear of making things potentially really awkward.

Belgie · Accepted Answer

Most guys don't know how to read girls.

The "signals" a girl gives off, are also exactly the sorts of things one friend might do with another friend. So of course you can mistake it for just being friendly.

They all seem oblivious to the possibility that these signals will be misinterpreted, because really they all want the potential to deny it meant anything.

It's part and parcel of the whole 'women are too scared to make the first move' schtick.

Their signs have to be couched in plausible deniability, or else giving a sign would be making the first move.

So as a guy, your job is dead simple. Ignore signs. Don't even waste your time looking for them. Pursue the girls *you* want, and give them a limited time only. Don't allow them to p**** around and "think" about it. Don't keep past potential prospects in your social circle as "friends"

Make your move. If she says yes, great. If not, goodbye.

Don't waste your time with time-wasters.

Anonymous · Answer

oh boy, OK I'm a stripper so I know what I am talking about, truth is YOU CAN NEVER TELL

but here are some hints that may or may not pan out:

-is she only friendly with you? or others?

-is she a flirt? has she always flirted with you? or did it grow over time?

-why and when is she "friendly" is it when you are helping her? paying for her?

if all else fails, provoke her, friendly provocation gets a lot out. when she is being friendly say something like "wow you are so nice to me, you must really hate me!" see what she says. or say something stronger and wittier.

kirindust · Answer

If she acts differently with you, that could be a hint. For example, does she do certain things only with you?

It's much harder if the girl is generally friendly with everyone, however, to the guy she likes, she'll definitely go that extra mile for him.

Of course, a straight forward question to the girl will get the most direct answer.

nicenthic · Answer

If she agrees with you no matter how retarded your assertion may be. If she laughs at your dumb jokes that no one in their right mind would find funny. If she likes coming over to your place even though you walk around in your boxers and haven't cleaned your room in a year. Chances are she likes you.

Anonymous · Answer

well what I do is...stare. I can't stop looking at him...like I just cant. I also like being near him, I will try to go to his favorite starbucks around the corner in hopes of seeing him, I will stand closer to him, I will find excuses to touch him etc. I will also ask him questions to know him as much as possible, like whens your birthday, what's your fav color, where are you from, etc all these things 'just friend' type people don't care about, if a person is genuinely curious about random things about you, they have interest in you and like you so far and wanna know everything about u...i also do stupid things like trip, or giggle, or blush or act silly because I'm nervous.

skb94 · Answer

ok, so I read over some of the answers and honestly I think it depends on the guy. if you can make her feel comfortable, then really all you have to look for is how you make her feel when she's around you, touching, cuddling etc. but if she is nervous or tries to put on a front (hiding her feelings), you might have to look for signs like: playing with her hair, sneaking glances at you, staring at you when you're not looking at her etc. imo I don't think she'll act 'friendly' around you if she likes you.. hope I could be helpful.

libidoboost · Answer

she will have a genuine interest in how your doing and not just be chumming around with your. big difference! also, here's a good test. hang out wtih another girl an see if she wants to hang out with your more. then you know for sure!

make sure she's a good datable girl and not just any old girl though!

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jsm1966 · Answer

That can be confusing with both sexes. If I'm joking or talking in a cheerful manner with a man he sometimes thinks I want him. For me that's not the case. I'm friendly to everyone and some think I'm flirting.  I like talking and joking with anyone. If I'm interested in a romantic way I will let him know. It's best to ask.

LizTheWeirdKid · Answer

i guess you can tell the difference by the way she looks at you or acts around you.

if she likes you, she might blush or look down alot. or they try to make eye contact with you. and they'll stare at you when you aren't looking or they think you aren't looking. and they get all extra smiley and stuff.

but if she just likes you as a friend she'll probably just act like one of the guys. she won't stare at you and will talk to you like normal.

Anonymous · Answer

Great question. Congrats on getting all these responses!

Usually, a girl likes you if she is overly attentive to you, but in some cases it's when you see that a girl EXPECTS attentiveness from you and you can't figure out why the expectation is there. It's because she likes you. If she was just trying to be your pal, she'd go about her business and meet up with you randomly whenever you have the opportunity to meet, just like you would with any other friend.

Yriuqni · Answer

If she likes you then she would feel jealous when you stay with other girls .. or laugh with them more than you do with her..  If she is cool with it , then she is just being friendly Easy as that :)

Anonymous · Answer

You really have to get to know the girl individually to be able to tell because what one girl does to flirt another does to just be sociable.  You have to learn the girl.

upood · Answer

The way she treats you opposed to everyone else. Also how much she's trying to be alone with you or suggest seeing you one one one etc. A friendly person will talk about the weather etc but someone into you will want to know you and get close to you.

Yeahhbro · Answer

The only true way to know this is if you kiss her and she doesn't pull back. Forget about all of this reading body lenguage trust me, there are so many women that I though liked me, when in fact they didn't.

shumailkazimi · Answer

i probably dnt have any method to judge whether a girl likes or not but I always keep a constant conclusion that she is just trying to be frndly this helps in keeping aside the disbelief that could have been generated in my mind

souka · Answer

ok here is a question there is a huge deferent between flirting and frendly right ? OK she flirts she is in to you if she is frendly that puts thing clear I hope I helped you I hope you nkow the deference between flirting and frendly

ashleynatasha · Answer

the same way you like a girl when you are interested is the same way we act..we text u,call u,try to make time for you :) its all the same way!

Maryanna1234 · Answer

Best way is to just try to talk to her. I'm a friendly person but I get really shy around the guy I like so I give the wrong signs not the right ones because of my shyness

Anonymous · Answer

Actually, it's really hard to tell. Most girls are really OK with just being your friend, but guys on the other hand think you are teasing them and don't see friendship as a possibility, instead they would rather sleep with you.

Anonymous · Answer

If she seems very aware of your presence and fairly attentive to you (your actions, words, etc.), then she likes you. If she finds reasons to be near you or jump into a conversation with or about you, then she likes you.

koalayes · Answer

straightforward guys are always welcome. Good luck.

XGoddessChildX · Answer

She physically touches you more, wants to spend time with you lots, that's what I do when I dig a guy.

Dchow116 · Answer

Girls that are touch you in playful manner is a good sign, but be careful to misinterpret. Some girls are just touchy with a lot of people.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, if I look at a guy as just a friend I call him man a lot, and I'm completely comfortable around him. But if I like him, I'm shy at first, and I say his name a lot. "Hey John" Whatcha doin' John?" "How was your day John" and I smile at him a lot.

Soler12 · Answer

Body language, tones of voic whe you two speak, eye contact... Learn this NOW!

Anonymous · Answer

Just assume she's being friendly because 95% of the time they are being friendly. Also fi you treat her like a freind first 95% of the time she'll probably will fall for you some where along the line.

fexyjessie · Answer

pay attention to how she acts with her other guy friends and if you notice that she's being one way with you and a different way with he other friends olds are she likes u

skb94 · Answer

basically, if she shows any emotion directed towards you..

VanessaFerris · Answer

Well, you could try to flirt a little with her, just don't make it too much (cuz she'll freak out) and tell from her reaction.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's single, she'll probably like you. Otherwise, move on

Thischick10 · Answer

When girls like you sometimes they will just show it. They will tell you anything and talk to you everyday.

Alex2 · Answer

I think its mainly how she looks at you, talks to you, or she will possibly do anything for you...just my opinion though.

7gnat · Answer

If a girl has her hands down your pants that may mean more than friendly

moviedude714 · Answer

sometimes we just have to find out ourselves

doctat · Answer

Just ask her!

loveforlife · Answer

it means I want to stick my d*** in your mourh

crimbolemur · Answer

ask her out.

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