Polls: Guy's Behavior

I've had the worst experience with my love life with the worst Men i my life one became toxic th other one became a player and the other one just wanted a fuck buddy (Never slept with any of them by the way) but its like im letting the wrong people in my life

For instance if it’s a stranger you lock eyes with in public etc.

I felt like I had a strong connection with him because me and him would literally agree on everything and I felt like we were almost the same person with very similar points of view on everything, I should’ve seen that as a bit of a red flag too tbh. And the fact we are both autistic, and had very similar special interests.
Everyone says how amazing he is, but he’s leading me on (because I really really fancied him and he could tell), used me for sex once, then gaslights and manipulated me. All his answers are always vague. It’s like he’s either very blunt and cutting… or extremely vague and won’t give a direct answer. Also during sex he refused to use lube or condoms and I stupidly went with it, I’m worried he might’ve possibly done that to give me an sti (but he seemed pretty clean down there). He was also very selfish and I was on top the entire time. The afterwards he says he feels bad and that he’s crossed the line and that we both need to put a line there and not cross it again… but the next lesson starts flirting with me again… then I told him that I won’t be getting lessons for a while because I need to focus on coursework… so I’ve left it at that.
The whole time I felt like I was nothing to him, even though I was giving him everything pretty much and I was feeding his ego.
strange thing is, he got divorced AND left the Uni job (he taught me at uni too) at the same time and said it’s because the principle offered him no work after an argument happened and put it down to the principle being petty. He also said how he has a terrible temper and got a disciplinary after bursting into a rage at another staff member… so this is really suspicious. I also felt like he was opening up to me by telling me all this stuff… but really I was paying for lessons and he was using me as a therapist or thought he could take advantage. Also he’s very good at what he does, but seems to over inflate it and lies about how many gigs he’s done etc.

Why would a guy who’s like many inches shorter than me seem to be attracted and wants my attention (he’s a coworker) I don’t get why a man wants a woman who makes him feel like he’s her underage child due to height?

I have been noticing this guy around work. He works in a different department to me and sometimes when we made eye contact, he would smile and hold his gaze. I would always be the first one to break eye contact. I eventually said hi to him and after that, he ignored me and avoided looking at me, like actually turning his head in the opposite direction.

Recently, he has started saying hi to me (he is the first one to say it) and I plucked up the courage to have a proper conversation with him, where I introduced myself.

The whole time, he had a big smile on his face and was fidgeting and moving closer towards me. He asked where I work and I told him which department and what time I finish. He said twice that he would have to come and check out my area.

The same day, my colleagues said they saw him walking past our office (10 mins after I left) and glaring into the office the whole time. And I’ve never seen him near our office.

Today, we said hi twice and the second time, he gave me a big smile when he saw me. When I was sat down in the canteen, I could see his reflection in the window and it looked like he was looking at me/in my direction.

I’m just wondering whether I should get over this guy. But I have very strong feelings for him, so it’s very difficult. I get the feeling that he doesn’t want to pursue or just isn’t pursuing for whatever reason.

He’s my guitar teacher and taught me a bit at uni… we had sex 2 weeks ago and then afterwards he said he feels bad and like he crossed a line and said he didn’t want to cross it again. But he still blushes around me, looks at my chest and goes red in the face and giggles/chuckles then looks down, and seems a bit flirty still. He did seem very surprised that I had sex with him. He was like “omg kez!” When I went to suck his dick that time.

Mind you he had already seen my pictures… he discovered that he didn’t want to be with me because he felt I’d be crazier (he sleeps with trans women tho or will)… so he probably doesn’t know his sexuality…

He primarily wanted sex even though I had already let him know I wasn’t in the headspace for sex..

But anyway I’m a grown woman almost 30.. I didn’t appreciate him bringing my father into the conversation.. he doesn’t know him

Are my pictures bad?

He seems to really enjoy chatting with me and joking around with me, and seems very relaxed like he can say what he’s really thinking and knows I’m not judging him.
I get the feeling that he wants to get to know me better before having sex again or doing anything else physical. He also seems more relaxed around me after we had sex. I’ve noticed we mirror eachother and it’s like we are in synch with eachother, facial expressions etc. and we even have the same opinions on most things. This is odd because I thought guys usually just want sex?
I can tell he’s still very physically attracted to me because I adjusted my boob and he smiled and blushed and looked pretty turned on.

I’ve been seeing this cute guy around at work.
He works in a different department to me but I see him on breaks, he sits with other people from his department. He is normally deeply immersed in his phone. I’ve noticed a few times that he will gaze at me and when I look at him, he will smile at me while holding eye contact. I’m always the one to look away first (because I am super shy).

A couple of weeks ago, we were walking towards each other in the corridor. He did his usual gaze and smiled at me, then I said “hiya, you alright?” As I passed by. He smiled even more and looked down. A week or so after that, I walked past him while he was eating his lunch and I looked down at him and smiled.

Since then, I’ve noticed we don’t really have those interactions anymore. When I see him, he usually looks in every other direction apart from mine, even when he walks right past me. I have seen him occasionally glance at me when he is in the distance.
We did have another occurrence when we walked towards each other. He smiled and said hiya very quietly and walked off. Today, I was stood behind him at the water fountain waiting for my turn. He turned around, said “sorry” really quickly and walked off. I think he may have left real quick but I was too shy to look at him.

Please help me because I’m starting to feel like I’m repulsive and that he is uninterested.

Do you ask them for advice if you've done something really taboo?

Do you tell them about every naughty thing you get up to

Do you tell them about every woman you've fancied or hooked up with, even if it was wrong?

What else do you tell them?

How come a guy's friends start paying more attention to me and showing more positive interest or joking around more with me, whilst before they didn't pay much attention to me?

Why are his friends looking me up and down like they might suddenly be attracted to me also?

My dad and I got in a huge fight today because for my whole life all he has ever done is criticize women so harshly and their appearance. He was very hard on me as a young girl and wouldn’t allow me to do anything while my brothers were allowed to do everything. He always calls women Whores and bitches and idiots. And we were watching Netflix show and the son told the dad not to call women bitches and he called the son gay so we got into a fight. But now at my age I just want to know do most men have this same mentality? And do married men really still look at other women and talk about them sexually with other men?