Do you guys like being approached by girls?

[jko77]

I’m planning on approaching my crush soon but don’t want to come across as a weirdo

Yes

No

[hahahmm]

Here's the thing: when you approach a guy he may say yes because it was easy but not because he really feels anything deeper. When a guy picks you on his own there's a stronger attraction and he's not going to forget about you as easily when a different girl shows up. So it's better to do things that make him think he picked you without you doing all the work. For example smiling at him and being near him but not really saying/doing anything more until after he starts talking to you.

Yeah, guys will say they like to be approached first but that's like asking if guys like to eat food. Yeah. Okay, and there's foods a guy would fight for... and foods a guy just eats cause it's free.

[hahahmm]

And when I say not "saying/doing" more I don't mean you can't speak at all. Just don't act desperate/needy/wanting any attention from him at all. Only say stuff you could just as easily say to any random guy who you're not even into.

[Rab1901]

Wow this is such a big brother/father type answer, and I love it. Most guys won't give all this info and just say of course guys like it because they are thinking about themselves and most guys don't want to work for it. I have 3 younger sisters and I wouldn't want them to just be easy girls. I'm not saying she should make it ridiculously difficult because that's another problem, but she has to play it smart and actually listen to the people who care about her and not the young guys who want to show off to their friends

[hahahmm]

@Rab1901 True. Also, the vast majority of guys don't take a girl/woman seriously just because she's attractive or available. It's all about deeper stuff. So if she ever wants more than "fun" she'd be wise not to do what the majority of females are up to these days.

[jko77]

Thank you! Well I only want to approach him to start a friendly conversation and initiate friendship. Not to ask him out or anything like that

[hahahmm]

@jko77 that's fine as long as you follow the rule of only talking to him about stuff you would talk to any random guy you're not even into about. Actually the type of woman who can do that is RARE and guys get very attracted to that type who has the confidence to do it. Most women don't have it in them.

[JSmith925]

Not only do I like it but I respect it. A polite and engaging approach from a woman tells me that she is comfortable with herself and interested in me. Any guy who would rebuff such an overture without giving it consideration is a fool. You never know what someone may have for you until you give them a chance.

[OneViewpoint]

I think these games of "subtle hints" that women play are childish and a manifestation of women's natural avoidance of risk and accountability. I think if anyone wants to strike up a conversation with me, or I with them, that person should just walk up stick out their hand and introduce themselves. Just "Hi I'm _____ I noticed you and thought I'd come over and say you look great tonight. Nice sense of style. What's your name? Are you a curling player?"

No grand agenda. Nothing read into it other than what was stated. On the one hand I'm not trying to get a woman I approach in bed that night. On the other hand, I'm not reading anything more into a woman who approaches me other than she's trying to have a conversation. I'm not gonna be rude. If I'm interested, the conversation may last 10 min. If I'm not, I'll be polite but steer the conversation to a stop after a brief exchange. Most women get that clue.

PS - Never explain what curling is. Even if he/she asks. Ignore the question and keep talking. Make them look it up. Voila, you're flirting.

[RichA322]

Absolutely. We totally like it. Because that way we immediately know that the women is interested.

Just be yourself, don't be arrogant or entitled and don't pretend you are a cheap ONS Girl.

A casual looking girl with jeans, without makeup and wearing hoodie will almost always get the guy she wants for a relationship.

So just be yourself and don't pretend you are super queen or anything. Just be yourself.

[glennos89]

Personally I really love it when a girl shows me she is interested in me.

I want to be with a girl that truly likes me for who I am. I don't wanne be with someone that chooses me because I was the best available option at that particular moment.

Really wish more girls would dare to make the first move on me. It shows me that she really likes me❤️

[RingOfFire]

It's a mixed thing. If you're going to do it, make sure that you're strong enough to handle whatever reaction he has. If he doesn't react well to it, don't let it upset you. It doesn't mean that you're not attractive or guys won't like you. It may mean that he's just not really into having a relationship right now or something else that has nothing to do with you.

As long as you're nice, he shouldn't see you as a weirdo. Just be casual and friendly and you should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it's less the woman approaching and more that guys would like her to display genuine interest. You have to understand the majority of women flirt with men they have absolutely no interest in. So a guy never knows if the woman who flirts with him has genuine interest or if this is just a game, just practice to her.

[mike5150]

I always liked it. Only happened a couple of times but it was pretty amazing. To be fair though both those lead to relationships that didn't last so there might be something there.

[Sunrising]

I'd love it if a female approached me ! I'm sure you'd find out immediately if he's interested, or maybe he's not as good as you thought !

[Sevenpointfive]

i think it's really flattering. but i don't. i want to be the approacher. if i can't do that then i don't deserve them.

[Cormac995]

Dear god yes! Always having to be the one to approach is fucking exhausting.

[HungTexan]

It’s a huge turn on to have a woman approach you. Go for it.

[Pohjolan]

Gals who don't do this may not know it but gals approach guys platonically also.

Its totally fine and even normal. It's not like it's making a move.

[Makeushiver]

Totally turned Ned on and thrilled by it. Ask and you shall find out

[HighlyQuestionable]

Absolutely! It is the most wonderfully refreshing thing when a girl or woman initiates a conversation, especially if she has a potential romantic interest. Just don't approach a man unless you are fairly certain you may like him.

[overlord337645]

I don't know i feel like it would be so much easier if they approached me but i also feel like im less likely to be attracted

[DrPepper12]

No we hate it. WTF? OF COURSE we like to be approached!!! Even by self proclaimed weirdos!

[LiamJHayden]

As long as she is not a psycho looking for someone random to off, yes.

[Djaay]

This is a very tricky question especially for younger men who are desperate for relations with women. The way the genders wars are going and those particular males of only average, , ofc the younger men are going to agree to this.. men of status or leadership... NO way. Femininity is the key word here the more a woman expresses her femininity the better chance of a higher value man. The more masculine trait expressed from the woman the more she's alone or attracts average and below type of guys.

[Staximus]

I like it because at least I know she's interested.

[Pohjolan]

Um you do not realise that women also approach guys they are not interested in?

[Staximus]

@Pohjolan not around here they don't, unless they want something

[Pohjolan]

@staximus
Where exactly is "here" ?

[Tarifa]

Yes, of course, it takes away part of the insecurity.

[IHateBeingaMan]

tons of guys do, but unfortuneately that will never be normalized or more common

[msc545]

I would much rather be approached than have to be the one who always does the approaching.

[genericname85]

depends. some super traditional/conservative men may not like it. but i'd say we do mostly like it in general.

[genericname85]

i mean given that the attraction is mutual. otherwise it can be weird but that's always the risk

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course, I like girls who take initiative.

[Djaay]

Me personally... NO. Expressing herself for me to see her is one thing , but straight up approach , no way.

[hello4433]

Approach him but don't look desperate. And just make the first move

[jko77]

Confidence is attractive, right?

[hello4433]

Yes, but not overconfidence. Like I said talk to him like you would with a friend. That much is enough

[jko77]

Okay I’m pretty sure I understand?

[hello4433]

That's good

[Nightmoon23]

Yes we love that but 75% of women don’t do that

[Jay-_-]

Yea overall most guys like being approached.

[Wise4myage]

Then just act very friendly.

[blackeagle007]

Can’t remember what that’s like

[RetroReviews]

Absolutely it's a nice feeling

[coolbreeze]

Yes...