Polls: Guy's Behavior

Not that l'm looking for trouble
Guy I briefly talked to I felt disrespected me and only wanted to use me. I feel like he played me and I've been taking measures to expose him and blast him.. he also didn't tell me he was bi.. another layer of hurt and confusion..
He did admit that I come off a little unstable but I felt like he was gaslighting me and just ultimately made me feel bad but I didn't react until a year after we stopped talking.. l've done a lot to try and call him out on social media and even said things in post he was tagged in.
Despite my efforts he never said or did anything..
I've been crashing out for a couple months.. not excessively but enough.
I guess what I'm saying isn't technically a lie but I don't understand... I've accepted my fate

And also if he doesn’t want me sexually. I’d he lonely (despite having loads of good friends) or is there some other reason that a 47 year old man would want to spend time talking to me? What does he want guys? My company? He doesn’t push for sex or mention sexual stuff.

Ps, all types of hair are gorgeous!!

Now he’s asking me to DM him. Imagine hurting someone and then saying something cringeworthy. I can’t imagine calling a white guy “mayo king” Weird how some people make your ethnicity your whole identity!

Guy I was dating for a bit broke up but said we can be friends. When I told him I don’t want to be friends and was trying to resolve his misunderstanding so he can reconsider his decision to break up, he said few very unkind things to me and then at one point, he looked sad that I didn’t want to stay friends and told me he still talks to his other exes. Should I consider his friendship or just go no contact?

He said months ago that he doesn’t reciprocate my feelings, but recently started flirting back, then backing off, then flirting back…. It’s really messing with my head and I feel like I’m going insane… it needs to stop. Doesn’t help that he’ll cheer me up when I’m down either.
And he’ll respond well to my sexual flirting or carry on conversations about sex… and he’ll be clearly enjoying it, like smiling and blushing and he even once got hard around me…. I dunno… it’s just too much.

do I send him a message saying it’s best we don’t talk anymore? Do I just gradually pull away? What do I do?
also he’s much older than me. I should’ve stopped it a year ago. Weird thing is that he never followed me back on instagram, but he follows everyone else back… but he would sometimes comment on my Facebook posts..

I told him that I thought he closeted and I told him his soulmate is probably a trans or man.. he follows a trans woman’s explicit page (sexually)

I think a bit after I told him that he blocked me and followed another one… what does that mean? She also had some slight revealing clothes. Where you can see her print

He doesn’t know I know he follows them

He pursued me first (I’m a woman)… he’s 37.. he should be done exploring… does it mean he wants to be with a trans woman if he follows these girls and one lives in the same city?

I’m a naturally introverted and quiet person. But I do have my ‘zoomies’ moments. The guy I’m seeing is the same. But he’s non-responsive to my zoomies - meaning that he doesn’t reply to the messages I send whether they are specific or generic.

I have already checked in on him asking if everything is okay and if we are okay and he said we are all good…

- what kind of music you're listening to?
- how early you go to bed?
- remembering little things you've said or only mentioned once?
- noticing small changes?

I'm pretty sure some things I've never mentioned before, and that our mutual friend told him. Just generally explaining if he'll reply late or making time to talk even though he's with friends. He knows I'm very shy, but he always seems to ask open ended questions so I have to talk more

Why was it okay for him to disrespect my boundaries regarding sex… to make someone feel safe in the beginning just to be hurtful and bring up things that I didn’t want

I feel triggered by his actions because of things that happened in my past and my attachment issue… is that his issue entirely? No.. but what he did still felt so predatory and hurtful

He’s bold enough to do what he did why can’t he be bold enough to tell me he’s bi or that he’s into trans

Why isn’t he bold enough to go with his true attraction… he’s bold enough to hurt me why can’t I hurt him back?

He’s bold enough to insult me and say “ does your dad know that you post those pics “ then maybe I should be bold too and let his dad know what he likes?

He ruined my life and everything I worked so hard for because he couldn’t respect my boundaries and tried manipulation/ coercive methods to get what he wants. It’s not okay. It’s triggering and I hate that I’m still hanging on after a year feeling hurt and worthless

To be straight up and tell him I’m protecting my emotional and mental well being and wasn’t ready for anything and he pretended to care.. it’s wild