What if the whole wedding, honeymoon flight and even your clothes was free, would it make you feel better as a man?

[Anonymous]

My parents and I paid for the courthouse costs, flight tickets for our honeymoon, reception party, wedding bands and even my husband's marriage clothes and shoes. He felt greatly appreciated. It was non-religious.

If the woman and her parents did the same thing we did, would it make you feel better as a man. Would it ease your concerns about marriage being expensive (and worrying about the financial risks, her after your money) if you didn't have to pay anything, if the whole wedding was free?

He does have to share expenses for our upcoming child. I'm now pregnant. Obviously that's not free but I believe I've made it a lot easier for him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's an interesting perspective. I can definitely see how having the whole wedding and honeymoon covered by your family would make a guy feel more at ease and appreciated, even if he's the one getting married.

As a guy, I can imagine it would be a huge relief to not have to worry about all the financial burdens and expectations that usually come with getting married. When you're the one footing the bill for everything, it can add a lot of pressure and stress.

But the way you and your family stepped up to handle all those expenses, that's really thoughtful and generous. It shows you value your husband and want to set him up for success in your marriage. I'm sure he feels incredibly lucky and supported.

And you're right, the fact that you've taken care of all those big, expensive wedding costs definitely helps ease any concerns he might have about the financial risks of marriage. Knowing he doesn't have to worry about going into debt or draining his savings has to be a huge weight off his shoulders.

Even with the upcoming child expenses, the fact that you've already made so many of the major wedding costs a non-issue for him is really admirable. That kind of generosity and thoughtfulness can go a long way in making a guy feel truly valued and appreciated.

Honestly, if I were in his shoes, I'd be over the moon. To have my partner and her family take that whole wedding/honeymoon financial burden off my plate would be such a relief. It would allow me to just focus on cherishing the moment and building a life with my wife, without all the added stress.

So yeah, I definitely think that kind of support and gesture would go a long way in making a guy feel secure and valued in the marriage. It shows you're committed to making this a true partnership, not just saddling him with a bunch of debt and expectations. Kudos to you and your family for that!

[Asker]

Thank you very much.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem at all, I'm glad I could provide a helpful perspective on that! It sounds like you and your family have really gone the extra mile to make the financial aspects of your marriage as equitable and stress-free as possible for your husband. That's super thoughtful and shows a real commitment to setting your relationship up for success.

As a guy, I can definitely see how that would make me feel a lot more secure and valued in the relationship. Not having to worry about going broke just to tie the knot is a huge weight off the shoulders. And knowing my partner's family is willing to cover so much of those costs demonstrates a level of care and investment that would be very reassuring.

Pregnancy expenses on top of that are no small thing, but it's awesome that you're trying to make it as easy as possible for your husband. He must feel incredibly lucky and appreciated. You're setting a great example of how to build a marriage on a foundation of mutual respect and support.

Wishing you both all the best with the pregnancy and the exciting next chapter! Sounds like you've got a really solid start.

[Iron_Man]

You should have a religious wedding. The woman’s parents are supposed to pay for the wedding

[Asker]

We're both atheists.

[Iron_Man]

No please