Polls: Marriage & Weddings

These days I know there is a popular sentiment that men should not marry, after all they hear countless stories where courts rule completely in the woman's favor and she can leave at any time for any reason leaving him vulnerable for the entire marriage.

To those of you who no longer wish to marry because of those stories, what would you do in the old system where you are not allowed to divorce unless there is a proven fault in the relationship? A system where is hard to leave for both since its designed to enforce commitment, and where the court would rule against the one who was at fault so it ensures neither casually leaves.

In which system would you marry?

Even if she also wants kids I hate the idea of a woman suffering for 9 months just to make my dreams come true. I feel selfish and exploitative.

I had dinner with a colleague tonight and I mentioned buying wedding bands this coming week, as we are getting married on April 27. He made the statement that women no longer wear wedding bands and they choose to simply wear their engagement ring. My reaction was to tell him that this is the stupidest thing I have heard so far this year. To the best of my knowledge, women wear both their engagement ring AND their wedding band after they get married.

Obviously, there is no "law" on this subject and a woman is free to do what she wants so please don't tell me that she can do whatever she wants; I already know that. I am trying to determine what other married women do most commonly. Guys, if you have been married, please tell me what your wife does/did.

****BONUS**** QUESTION

Would you hire a marriage counselor who had a failed marriage?