Do you want to have children before or after marriage and why?

[Anonymous]

After marriage

Before marriage

[Lliam]

I never wanted any.
I had girlfriends from the time I was 16 and they were all on the pill.
I finally got married when I was 42 and my wife was 39. We had both lived full and fulfilling lives but didn't have kids and had never been married. We just celebrated our 29th anniversary recently and are glad we don't have any kids bothering us.

[SolitarySolace]

Neither. I don’t plan on ever having children nor do I plan on ever getting married. 🤷🏻‍♂️ But I encourage others to do both. I encourage others to get married first before having children because that way they are obligated to each other and their families and supportive of each other as well. And in the event of a divorce at least both parents would still be obligated to caring for their children even while separated.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I’d prefer after marriage.

Not because of tradition, but because I want the foundation to feel steady first.

When a relationship is already committed and aligned, raising a child feels less like a gamble and more like we’re building something together with both feet on the ground.

[Rei13]

After is preferable but now that I’m in my thirties before is okay too

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was younger, I would have been quite happy to have children, but it never happened. If I had children, I would want it only in the context of a good marriage.

[AviatorTom]

Unless you're not going to get married at all, it's best, for you, your partner, and the kids, to wait until after marriage to have kids.

[rebelsunshine]

Ideally after marriage because by then you'll have negotiated having children and set expectations for parenting them.
It will mark a new chapter in your already existing, (hopefully) healthy relationship going forward.

That said, I know happily married families in which the parents were living together and decided passively to get married by conceiving a child with each other. Abortion had never been an option for either of them, and they obviously knew the risk they were having by having unprotected sex regularly.

Active is better. It's only the manlier option for the man to take.

[Noredcarpet]

Never mattered. I do 100% understand those who want to be married before the baby comes, it is all up to them.

I think for me it has been a rebel side to me as I was expected to get married early and it was just a lot of this is what all girls, women want, dream of, and if you don't there is something wrong with you. As if I was not allowed to think or feel for myself.

[Anonymous]

After is a lot more preferable. If something happens, it happens. I would give the mother the absolute best try at forming a long lasting relationship, because the kid should be more important. I view having children as much more of a commitment than marriage.

[Kelley1]

After marriage. A singlel mother loses over half of her sexual market value. I would have to marry a simp.

[PeachyPie93]

I had mine after getting married but now I wouldn't mind 1 or 2 more regardless of marriage cuz I can take care of them alone anyways..

[4ngelic]

having kids before or without marriage i think is just risky

[4ngelic]

for me no ring, no kids

[Drumlin2001]

Already got 2 kids and not married yet. Not planning on having more kids whether or get married or not

[Flower7]

I don’t think anyone actually PREFERS to have children before marriage.

[Alex-Snow]

Definitely after marriage. But the way this country is going I do not know if I want to bring kids into this world

[kaucky1]

Years later I find out I got multi dick kids that are gifted but kept PRISONER used drained not right what they keep doing other pretend to be me act like fools

[Phoenix98]

After marriage I refuse to have a child out of wedlock.

[exitseven]

After marriage. Childrenn born into a 2 parent home have a better chance making it in America.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Better to have kids after the commitment and agreed upon terms are made

[loveyouoak]

Having children before marriage shouldn't be normalized.

[Simslover92]

Certainly after marriage.

[dudeinohio]

Kinda the traditional guy here. Was married before I had my kids.

[Anonymous]

After. Why would anyone want to have children before marriage?

[WhitneySnow]

After. Children need stability.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Fuck that, crazy cat lady, single until death 🖕

[Nikki1989]

We don't want any children.

[siezuresalad]

After marriage is proper

[Xalooo]

After marriage

[DTH57]

After. Had 4 son's.

[Twalli]

Neither