Do you want to have children? If not why not?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Oddly enough, I didn't want kids until I was past 35 and saw a good friend become pregnant and a parent. I had a lot in common with her and thought if she could do it, I could too. So a few years later I did.

But having children is not a requirement and if you don't want to do it, you should not. I have a few friends who haven't and they help we folk with kids and help our kids too. It's good to have those friends who can lend support because they aren't involved with their own kids.

Also, some people live through their kids, always a bad idea. You gotta foster them, then set them free. Let them do their things and wish them the best and support them in positive ways. Just like YOUR parents did for you, hopefully.

I had great parents who wanted my brother and me. I always felt included in our family, but also knew my parents were the nexus of our family and we were secondary to them. Their relationship was No. 1. We were never neglected, were well-loved, cared for, and learned positive discipline. That's 90 percent of what kids need. We also had excellent grandparents, a GIANT bonus and good educators in grammar and high school.

It takes that village and without it, child-rearing is a burden. But if you're well situated, you get good joy from it too!

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

I couldn't handle children even though I'm 35 I've had a thought life I want freedom thank god there's such a thing as contraception I love kids there great but a couldn't handle them in certain ways I'm not ready I don't think I ever want children

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

No.

I don't want to have to clean up messes, I hate bad smells, I don't want to suffer from irreplacable property damage to my stuff, I don't want to lose any sleep, I don't want a reduction to my free time, and I don't want to be in charge of anyone, pay for anyone else, or worry about anyone else doing stupid things.

There is also the possibility that they will be nothing like me and we won't get along, and normally I just shut those people out of my life, but you can't do that with your own child.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

No, never did, never will. Too much responsibility that I and my S. O. don't want. You should NEVER have kids if you don't know for damn sure you want them, and how they will consume your life for many years going forward. Kids are not a requirement for a good life, nor are they for everybody.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Most of my life, I really didn’t want kids. Being told that I was infertile and couldn’t have kids also reinforced that “no kids” mindset. But over the last couple years, my mentality on it has changed, and despite what I was told medically, I fell pregnant. It was definitely a shock and not intentional, but it couldn’t have happened at a better time. My partner & i can’t wait to meet our baby soon.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Nah. After years of babysitting nephews and cousins, I've determined I am only suitable for short term care as opposed to 24/7 responsibility as a parent and I don't want to be the kind of dad that makes the mom take care of the kids all the time.

I'm also Autistic and even though I'm low support needs, there's a good chance I'll pass it on to my children and they could be higher support needs which I don't think I am equipped to deal with. Plus, with the sensory issues and some potential trouble with emotional regulation isn't a good mix.

My other reason is that I plan on owning a 1940s-1970s home and have lots of expensive vintage furniture which not only will I want to keep it nice, there's bound to be Asbestos and stuff in a house like that which I don't need kids messing with that.

EmmaMary · Answer

@thegreenyogi  We're already blessed with having our two planned and extremely precious and cherished children... Thank you.

SolitarySolace · Answer

No, because a woman will just use the kids against me. I wouldn’t be able to afford to pay child support. I’d end up in jail. And the only way to have children other than adoption is to have sex and I’m both asexual and aromantic. Better not to have kids.

patrick994 · Answer

No, I wouldn't want to have children, too much responsibility, knowing that another being's life depends solely on me, it makes me uneasy to have them

Cutegirl06 · Answer

Yes, I would love to have kids someday. Only after I start my career.

exitseven · Answer

I already have 3 of them. I do not want anymore.

Rangers · Answer

No, nobody should have to suffer through living in this horrible world, and I can't care for myself, much less anyone else

Alex-Snow · Answer

I do but not at this time in my life (I'm 18) that is why I use birth control when having sex

Anonymous · Answer

Not anymore. Even if I found the right woman at this point (which isn't likely), I'm in my late 40's. That ship has kind of sailed.

Bobby88t · Answer

Yes we want 2 and after she wants castration for me

Anonymous · Answer

No, overpopulation and a littany of health conditions

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I do, 3-4 children ideally.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I already have three. We want to have more.

FenixG45 · Answer

I never wanted kids when I was younger. Then tried unsuccessfully 3 times. Now, I doubt it is in the cards. How about you?

Kelly6 · Answer

@thegreenyogi i have 3 kids and will have 3 more

Apple1996 · Answer

I always wanted kids and now I have 5 😊

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm open to the possibility

Simslover92 · Answer

Yes I want three.

ballweevil · Answer

no, because i won't be good father

RavVid · Answer

No thanks.

LavLavLuv · Answer

I do

shortster · Answer

Definitely

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Nope

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