Why did she say to put my head in her lap?

[Anonymous]

Last night, a girl I like, told me I should put my head in her lap. I didn't (for a reason I don't need to say) butttt, why did she want me to do this?

[Stuff_and_stuff]

Like @SeptemberLights said she probably wanted to play with your hair or run her fingers through it or something. She was trying to flirt with you I guess but probably her approach was too forward if you know what I mean

[Asker]

I don't?

[Stuff_and_stuff]

Hrmm... like she just asked you. "Hey. Put your head in my lap!"

[Asker]

OK, so, like, it wasn't out of the blue. She was sort of leading in to it, I think. I was looking at her and she did the same, I finally said, I don't want to sit, because I'm ADD about sitting for a long time, she said "so stand" I said I don't want to stand because I'm tired, so after that she said "lay down" so then I said "I don't want to lay down in this type of area". Then she said "put your head in my lap". After she said that, and I almost did, I got threatened by her guy friend to not do it because he's supposedly really protective. She also for some odd reason looked at him and said "oh wow, he's going to do it". I don't understand why she did that

[Stuff_and_stuff]

She probably likes you from what it sounds like

[misscoffeehead]

Guys do it to dont they.. Whats the reason for guys asking you.. To do that?

[Asker]

I'd imagine the same reason women do it

[misscoffeehead]

Playing with hair? Hmm yeah makes sense

[Asker]

I have short hair though, like, short

[misscoffeehead]

maybe it was just to get you closer to her. I probably won't ask a guy to do that. If i wanted to be "close" with someone i would wrap my arms around the guys waist (and that usually works) or lay low a bit have my head rested on a guys shoulder.

[SeptemberLights]

easy, she wants to play with your hair so i guess thats flirting

[Asker]

I have short hair. Like, really short hair

[LaikaFreefall]

I wonder if the reason might be important to the answer to this question...

[Asker]

No, it's not

[LaikaFreefall]

lol. Okay. Well, maybe she wanted to be all snuggle-y w/ you?

[Asker]

Why?

[LaikaFreefall]

Um, well if that is in fact why she said you could put your head in her lap, that would be indicative of her feeling some kind of affection for you. Not necessarily anything of a romantic nature (thought it could be), but certainly both comfort and closeness.

[LaikaFreefall]

All of this is assuming we're talking about the pants-on variety of head in a woman's lap. lol.

[Asker]

She was in a dress, I was in pants

[Asker]

By the way, the reason I didn't do it was because I know another guy likes her and he basically threatened that if I did it, he'd beat me up. She never said she wouldn't have wanted it... I just wanted to respect him. Do you think that turned her off?

[LaikaFreefall]

Yes, but your head would have been on her skirt, right? not UNDER it? lol. It's the same thing.

[Asker]

Also, last night, I think she sort of kind of hinted at going on a date. I'm not sure. We had to put our dog down in March (developed stomach cancer, decided to put her out of her misery). I just now told her about this and she said "have you been looking for a new dog?" I said "kind of sort of not really" and she said "well, I could help you find a new one, I love dogs". Obviously she's just being a friend, but, if she didn't LIKE me, would she have offered this sort of thing (whether I take it or not)

[LaikaFreefall]

No, I think you're okay there. Probably she'd still have felt the same way about you, w/e that may have been.

[Asker]

It would have been on her bare leg. She was wearing a short bodycon

[Asker]

She wouldn't have a shot with this guy, his age. I still wanted to respect him though, maybe it IS his age, that made me want to respect him, rather than his strength

[LaikaFreefall]

She might have offered, if she was just being a friend... However, I think it's probably a little more likely she does have some feelings for you.

How, who is this other guy who likes her? b/c if it's not a friend, it's not family, then you have just as much right to ask her out as he does... friends and especially brothers a usually a bit more complicated.

[Asker]

It's def. a friend... but he's much older, that's what I was getting at

And, why do you think she has feelings, if she was doing that sort of thing?

[LaikaFreefall]

Honestly, it's mostly just a feeling I have. But I also think that probably, since that's a bit more of an intimate type of thing, that she must have intimate feelings for you. Again, not romantic, per se. But probably fairly deep. And romantic is an option, for sure, so... I'm just connecting the logic dots.

[LaikaFreefall]

Also, what about respecting her? If you don't think they could ever work out, so she has to miss out on the relationship she wants b/c some other guy she doesn't really care about that way wants her? I dunno, man. It seems like the better option would be to, tactfully, go about asking her out on a date. Maybe let the guy know ahead of time. Something like that. Say, look I really like her, I think she likes me, I want to ask her out. It means a lot to me if you could be cool with this.

[Asker]

I've actually asked her out before. She said yes, but it never happened

[Asker]

I just was curious if her asking me about my dog, was her way of saying, I want to go out with you, especially to a place like that

[LaikaFreefall]

No, I think if anything her asking you about your dog is her way of saying "I care about your feelings. your life is important to me" Which, not to be a broken record, could be either romantic or purely friendly. But I get the strong impression she likes you romantically.

[Asker]

Maybe she was looking for a way to show me her interest, in her own way, almost as if women have to ask you out first

[LaikaFreefall]

Something like that, yes. That's what I think.

[zombiebabe]

she wanted you to give her oral

[Asker]

lol. no, if it meant that, it wasn't meant for that environment. We were in public

[zombiebabe]

oh ok lol.. then she just wanted to cuddle you

[Asker]

Why?

[zombiebabe]

just like this

[Asker]

What?

[zombiebabe]

she just wanted you to put your head on her lap... maybe she wanted to put her hands in your hair

[Asker]

I have short hair, like, short

[zombiebabe]

i don't know she did it just like this... people can sometimes do things without no real reasons