Why don't people understand when you say you don't remember what happened to you?

[soulbabe]

Like my mom is mentally abusive and people ask what she said to me yesterday or the other day but they don't understand when I say I don't remember. I have been through a lot of shit so when she yells at me my brain just shuts off like I'm not there if I think hard I can pull bits and pieces but not a full story. And it's not like I'm not listening cuz I am responding and paying attention but it's like my brain has already entered like an automatic repression of the memory and people think I just don't want to tell them

[ChrisMaster69]

I’ve been through similar, and yes it’s hard to remember.

there is a warning though, your brain does not shut it out, it takes it in and stores it.

Spookily the picture chose is very close to the one in my dreams.

mine is more Victorian mansion, nice browns.

the rooms along the corridor are the same.

Anyhow, have you been for professional counselling, all the stuff you are going through is building a lot of potential future problems and leakage.

[soulbabe]

Nah I'm good I'm pretty good at forgetting and have trust issues so I don't like shinks

[ChrisMaster69]

@soulbabe fair enough, however been though that and more and still have the physical and mental scars.

Just be careful, some stuff does bite without us noticing

[OddBeMe]

as fellow mom suffer just treat her like a mental patient.

[soulbabe]

That would not be good for my health at all

[OddBeMe]

Don’t knock it yet. Just wall your emotions off with her.

[soulbabe]

Look mom starts yelling and I stand there like a unresponsive statue till she stops

[OddBeMe]

All you can control is your emotions. Whether it’s mom, a shitty boss etc. learn to turn off emotion.

[Anonymous]

I completely understand what you mean, your brain actually suppresses traumatic events , and kinda wraps a blanket around the trauma so that you don't remember it , unless you go for therapy and they help you to retap into those events , remember and overcome it. I'm very sorry to hear about your situation I know what it feels like to have someone like that in you're life especially when it's someone so close , just stay strong and try to keep a positive mindset. 💕

[soulbabe]

Oh that's not even a 1/4 of the shit in my life I have physically abused mentally abuse sexually assaulted someone has attempted to kidnap me twice had three stalkers had half my family either lie to me steal from me or talk behind my back along with being socially isolated had not one but two alcoholic parents who were also drug addicts till I was 11.

[soulbabe]

But I handle it fairly well because I'm good at repression.

[veronicagirl973]

that happens to me a lot sadly. and it's frustrating to say the least. my theripist has told me that it is normal to forget pieces of your past due to somekind of childhood trauma.

[soulbabe]

Lol my childhood is trauma

[Charliefretz329]

I completely understand you