I want to live my 20s fully. What may I do?

[Luke03]

I just turned 20… i have very few friends and i can’t forget about a girl that’s been a classmate of mine for the previous years. I've been going to the gym for a lot of time, i'm tall... i'm building the body of my dreams.

Anyway, my biggest problem are my hair…
i’m a NW 3, so the recession is pretty noticeable. Went to a dermatologist twice, and he didn’t recommend me any product. I’m looking forward to having a hair transplant next year cause my face absolutely sucks and i just want to live.

Talking about girls... i have no issues to talk to them. Actually, a good amount of my acquaintances are girls. I've never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl... it kind of impacts my self esteem (surely not as much as my hair problem... but it surely does).

[Anonymous]

You don't have a hair problem you have a mental problem because the hair doesn't matter but the self esteem does.

So a transplant isn't going to help you, what you need to do is learn to love and accept yourself as you are.

Imagine you met the girl of your dreams and you were together for years and everything was great and then they developed alopecia and lost all their hair, would you leave them?

The correct answer to the question is 'no', so hair doesn't matter if anything its a boon for you because it automatically screens people who are going to reject you on the basis of your hair loss and you don't want those people anyway.

[Luke03]

hi there, thanks for the comment.

I changed my mind... for now, i'll just visit a trichologist and take every product he tells me to take (finasteride or minoxidil, probably).

If someone looks hideous without hair and looks ok with hair, than he'll do whatever he can to keep his hair because the fairy tale of "looks don't matter" is often false and physical attraction is always needed.

My answer to your question would be no... but that's a totally different case. It's like women who say "my husband is getting bald, but i'll still love him"... there's a huge difference between "my husband is getting bald" and "would you ever date a bald guy?". Especially, i'm a 20 yo guy, so i hardly believe i'd stand a chance considering all other guys have hair on their head.

[strateguy632]

bald people can find lovers too, and even actors who must be handsome, still think of bruce willis and more. let the hair fall, you are you

[Luke03]

might be a good reason not to fight hair loss... but only if i was elder and all this was common. I'm 20... looks matter the most at my age. Is it sad? Sure... but that's how it is

[DailyLife]

I do hair transplantation but trust me, hair transplantation is never as natural as your own hair.. We're just trying to capture what's perfect. I also wondered who told you to wait until next year for the hair transplant procedure.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Don’t get anyone pregnant.

[Luke03]

what?