When in a social event I always feel like my two personalities fighting.. one says me go dance be extrovert and one no be quite what if they'll laugh?

[Heyyou19]

Yk i always see others enjoying happily bt I'm the one sitting alone in the corner.. I want to join them and my friends are calling me but still I can't. I always feels that on this event I won't feel shy but still I never feel myself I always judge myself for not being like others... I never fit in... Can u please explain why I'm like this and do someone experienced this nd how to feel better

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're experiencing some internal conflict and social anxiety, which is quite common. Many people struggle with feeling like they have two conflicting sides to their personality, especially in social situations where there may be pressure to be outgoing or conform to certain expectations.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique way of socializing, and there's no one "right" way to be in social settings. It's okay to feel shy or introverted at times, just as it's okay to feel outgoing and extroverted at other times. What matters most is being true to yourself and finding a balance that feels comfortable for you.

If you find yourself constantly judging yourself or feeling like you don't fit in, it might be helpful to explore why you feel that way. Are there specific thoughts or beliefs that contribute to these feelings? Therapy or talking to a trusted friend or mentor can be helpful in identifying and addressing these underlying issues.

Additionally, practicing self-compassion and challenging negative self-talk can be beneficial. Remind yourself that it's okay to be imperfect and that everyone has their own insecurities. Focus on your strengths and the things you enjoy, rather than comparing yourself to others.

Finally, try to take small steps outside of your comfort zone when you feel ready. This could mean initiating a conversation with someone new, joining a group activity, or simply spending more time in social settings to gradually build confidence. Remember, progress takes time, and it's okay to take things at your own pace.

[Heyyou19]

Thnq so muchh

[Nikki1989]

You have to pick a lane and stick to it.

[slatyb]

They won't laugh. And if they do, so what!