Is it normal to feel like this years after being raped/molested?

[Anonymous]

It happened when I was 8. I never talked about it until I was finally reunited with my mom in a different country. I thought I had gotten through it. Then in my teens, I started noticing the actor Chris Pratt resembled my mom's ex husband's brother, the man who had done that to me. I always felt weird watching shows he was on. I tried to avoid them. With God's help, I was able to heal from it. Im curious if r@pe or molestati0n has had a similar way in your life years after it happened?

[Hellraiser1984]

In a way. One of my fathers make cousins and his wife molested me when I was 10. I only told my parents about it when I was 30. I can't have sex because of it. It's too hard. I hate guys with red hair if I see one all those feelings come up. It's hard to move past it sometimes. I have PTSD. I also can't deal with anyone touching my neck. He strangled me while he did it. Therapy only does so much.

[Asker]

My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry you were a victim of their vile actions. Do you mind if I message you?

[Hellraiser1984]

I'm fine with that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, unfortunately rape or molestation and young ages can mess with your sexuality as you develop into an adult. My ex was molested by her brother repeatedly when she was only 5 and he was only 8. I do not know how he even knew to do stuff like that at a young age, he would even bribe her with candy to allow access to her private parts. For years after she was confused and hyper sexual.

[Asker]

I am almost sure her brother was molested too. Some become withdrawn but in others it can ignite sexual curiosity at a much younger age.

[Opinion Owner]

I was thinking that, or he was able to access porn due to their irresponsible parents, and got the idea from that?

[Asker]

Very possible if they are porn addicts

[Opinion Owner]

She did become porn addicted in her teens. She was confused about it for quite a while and didn’t seem to know it was wrong, and became aroused thinking of it without knowing what was happening. Somewhat similar to your situation I think

[Asker]

For me it drove to just like girls for the longest time and only look at lesbian porn. I felt no desire to watch heterosexual. Thanks to God, I am attracted to guys now and no longer watch porn.

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting, my ex ended up as bisexual too. But it was almost like she felt like a pervert for liking girls and didn’t act on it. I pray she can find God like you did and recover

[Asker]

He can be found. She just needs to be willing, repent and He will restore her.

[Opinion Owner]

I hope she is one day willing. Thank you for the kind words

[Vevv123]

I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s really unfortunate how people can be so sick. And yes, usually things that remind you of them make you feel uncomfortable. It can also be a blur and then later on when things remind you, you tend to evade those things just go forget. Good that you were able to heal.

[northerngal]

This is way beyond my pay grade... thankfully I have no experience with this but I am very glad you are healing after this experience.

[MemeSupreme]

yes and it's very fucking annoying when it happens bc it cam trigger the fuck out of me

i have avoided popular shows/movies and certain people bc of it which is hard to find excuses for to friends. seriously it's like a mental punch to the face that IMMEDIATELY pisses me off

[Asker]

Sorry that is happening to you. It's like no one understands and then friends wonder why you're acting weird. Only thing that worked for me was God and time.

[masterSir]

No, I embraced it, loved it and am now a big pervert because of it. Thanks mom.