Polls

Do you usually kiss your date the first time

Let’s say she’s pretty, sexy, fun and adventurous. Cooks, cleans and is amazing in bed but has mostly boy hobbies. Like she’s a black belt in judo, a brown belt in BJJ, a competitive shooter, former D1 athlete, better at video games than you, can fix her own car, build her own furniture and has a masters degree in mechanical engineering.

So here's a little riddle. Why, after I leave restaurants, do my pants almost always smell like perfume? Do you know? 'Cause I don't. (But I have a guess.)

I go out to restaurants, and I would say easily eight times out of ten, when I get home, change my clothes, and decide whether they are going to get temporarily aired out (I hang my clothes on a drying rack when I get home) and then later re-hung or folded to wear again, or put in the laundry hamper, I notice that my pants always pick up the smells of what was on the fabric seats or booth benches. Yeah, it's gross. It's always only on the... ass, the seat. Sorry if that's a bit TMI, but there ya go.

Do you ever notice this, smell this? Wanna' play a fun/not so fun game? Smell your pants when you get home. (Almost all my pants end up in the hamper, even if I only wore them for a couple of hours that evening at the restaurant and that's it.)

If it's a cheap place, it might smell like fried food (it's the oils that are so potent.) That's gross, but it makes sense.

If it's a nicer place, it'll smell like women's perfume, and occasionally men's cologne.

Have you seen anyone else spray themselves at a table? Do you do this? Or do the people you dine with do this? I really want to know what y'all are doing out there.

And no, it is not cleaner that the restaurant uses. It's definitely perfume. And it sticks in clothing because of the oils in perfumes, as opposed to disinfectants, body washes, etc.

I'm leaving the Anon option on this one, 'cause I really want your honest answers, thanks!

What is the meaning behind that?

• Is that being a friendly and platonic genuine gesture?
• Would you say that to just any woman you know or to a female friend
• or because you are attracted to them and want to get to know them more or because you wanna be more than a shoulder to cry on for her?

Would you date a woman who is a PhD student yes or nah?

#FeelFreeToList #BabyFever

Background

A few people in my closer relative are diagnosed with personality disorders that are connected to lack of empathy. So now keep that in mind.

My morals:

I strongly believe hurting others is wrong. And I am for punnishing people who do that. I do not believe people change. And I have no empathy for people who do evil actions even if they are trying to change. That's why I'm afraid if I have kids I'd murder them or something if they did something really wrong..

With that being said I only judge people for their actions the same I would judge cancer. I see no difference in a grown person raping a child being killed and someone killing cancer.. they are both alive stuff that do harm.

My traits:

I never felt like I was human.. I mean I feel more like I'm just taking space in a room.. like a gas. I never felt the need to have a partner because I can always hire a cleaner/chef etc.. I believe human kind are evil as a base and everyone are secretly out to get me in the end.

I tend to laugh if someone dies.. in joyful way. Although I cognitivly understand it's horrible and I cognitivly feel bad for that person and their family I never expeience it emotionally. Same way I can be cognitivly stressed but not emotionally..

I can turn on and off my empathy however I want.. and whenever I want. If I focus on my cognitive empathy enough my emotional empathy can grow..

Also one of my parents told me as a toddler I would never cry when they left for work... I don't know if that means anything.

I think I have a very strong cognitive empathy (more than the avarage person) but almost no emotional empathy.. unless I turn it on.

Disclaimer!

I do want to meet the one for me and have kids in the future (problaby). I dont really see the point of life other than success and proving people wrong. That's why I think I be the type to end it all once I reach what I want. But I'm not depressed I just see everything neutral..

He ate all of what I made. Then we cuddled, laughed and watched the office and and gave him head scratches.

I chatted this this guy 2 months ago for 2 weeks, my schedule was really busy so i couldnt really date him. I didn't really ghost him i just wasn't as interested at the time because i was busy with a new job and moving places, also i didn't have the time to date. Then we drifted apart. I was the last message where I could have responded but just left it. So we didn't end on bad terms. I'm sort of in a place now where I have time, and I did have a connection with them, again just no time to take the whole thing seriously.

Is it weird if I reach out again?

ref : Young Sheldon

Trying to decide if it’s a red flag or not.

27F, I may sound entitled but from my gut feeling and experiences in life, I know how these things play out on the apps. That’s my only avenue bc I don’t have a social life, I use them very very casually. This has happened a few times where I ask if the guy wants to message on social media bc I don’t check the apps often, they or I give my account info, we add each other & I wait for them to message me. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. From what I noticed in my life even if I take initiative & it usually doesn’t work out, it goes a bit further if the guy makes the first move

TL; DR: If you initiate moving from the dating apps to social media, is it entitled to expect the guy to message on social media at that point?

This is based on a argument I had with my sibling over a video game. I was basically told I would be fed to the zombies instead lol. Choose your pick.

He's white I'm black. Every time I ask him why he dates bw he never has a true answer for that question. He says he doesn't date white women because "I can't relate to them" I call bs. Everytime I tell him he dates my race because he can't get the white girl he wants he gets emotional and starts screaming telling me he wants to break up. Is it true.