Ladies & Gentz, have you ever been emotionally manipulated into staying in a relationship by your partner attempting to self-harm?

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Have you ever been in a relationship that' started to go downhill, so you decide to leave and get some space but your partner threatens or attempts/ self harms themselves so you don't leave?

If so what did you do?

Yes

Hell No

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Fortunately no. I don't date people that mentally unstable, and now that I've dated two men who couldn't manage their mental health, I will not date people who do not actively manage their mental health (meaning regular therapy, regular doctor's appointments, medication, and established coping mechanisms).

As someone who does all those things to manage my own mental health, it's what I expect of someone else if they also struggle with some kind of condition.

Also, I'd need to get out of a relationship like that as soon as possible. I will report the person to social workers, their own friends and family, and maybe even police if they're actively threatening an attempt right then.

Suicide isn't something I joke about. I have almost lost several friends to it growing up. I hated when "emo" kids would pretend they were going to kill themselves just to make friends, and that's only gotten more abhorrent to me now that I'm an adult.

If they really do want to kill themselves because our relationship is breaking down, staying in it is the worst thing for both of us.

That other person needs serious therapy and help. As much as we're in love, a break up is not something that should drive someone to suicide. They need professional help for that - and I can't provide that.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me in my last relationship… I went out for a drive bc I needed some space to chill out after a massive argument, he spam called me all while telling me that he’s gonna unalive himself… I ended up going back to check up on him but he just started another argument and berated me. I didn’t react. Eventually he realized how dumb he was being and he calmed down lol so dramatic

[TheVigilantOne]

Oh lord yes, I had this with my ex, when we were together I knew after about a few months it wasn’t working as I learnt she was a narcissist I wanted out and rightfully so, so I said to her “look this isn’t going to work I have a constant bad feeling about you and I want out” to which she said “if you ever leave me I’ll k**l myself” so I stayed she threatened to have someone beat me up and have my house set on fire with me in it if I left her, well 5 months ago I left her, I took a chance as I just didn’t care is she k** led herself or not as I couldn’t stand the abuse anymore she hasn’t ki**ed herself as she’s now harassing me daily the police are involved as well, but yeah she’s whacko and needs locking up.

[ConspiracyTheorist]

Shit I was manipulated by wife today at work, we were fighting and I didn't want to work with her and she said if we change partners she is going home, but yes I left my wife a couple months ago and she was crying so bad about how she wanted me so bad still and I said really you want me to take you back out of pity? And she said yes so we did.

[Pinay_ako]

That is vile and abuse! Run as fast as you can and don’t ever look back!!!

[Guy13]

I backed out over six months even though she pressed me sexually, fulfilled fantasies that I didn’t even know I had. I saw the writing in wall…even if she had a 💍 on her hand. It was very very very hard but after the second threat just to bring me in a sort of behavior right thing, I was out…. I mean it took awhile and two times. I loved her…

[TheLittleInnocent]

Yea I was realizing I was happy in the relationship for a number of reasons so I told him I wanted to break up. He got all upset and said he couldn't be without me and threatened to kill himself. I was besides myself on what to do so I stuck it out for a bit. I was even less happy because he kept holding the suicide thing over my head. I then decided to just block him on everything and avoid him. Haven't seen him since

[Alex8736]

Usually when they threaten to self harm is when they feel like you are onto their lies and manipulation but the ones who talk about self harm are testing how much of an empath you are and if you give in then the toxic situation will escalate. I learned the hard way 1st hand. The legal terminology for people like that is "sociopathic predators" and have no conscience on how it affects others so my advice is block any form of contact

[petitedollbabee]

Yeah but their self harm didn’t make me stay, it made me run away from that relationship even faster. It’s one thing guilt tripping and manipulating someone to stay, but when you bring self harm into the picture, that’s when I GTFO.

[melanieeeB]

No, but I had a friendship where she indirectly always threatened with self harm and one day I just left and didn't care anymore if she did hurt herself or not, if she did, it wasn't my fault

[TacticalLizard]

Yes She Threatened to Kill herself if I didn’t stay in The relationship with her I told her Go do it then see if I care Later that Night I got a call from her Mother that She Overdosed herself on Pills and Is in the Hospital 🏥

[Agape93]

Similar. Tried to leave, but was met with gaslighting and violence when I tried.

[AndrésC64]

Not exactly. I did break up with a girl and have her call me I think it was the next day to tell me that she was in a mental hospital.

[TroyDT]

No, and if one ever did I would care enough to get her the help she so clearly needed. but I would still dump her.

[Googlemyahoo]

I usually detect the cuckoo for cocopuffs before committing & steer clear

[Fuentes]

Yes I did deal with that and I still left and their still alive

[OddBeMe]

No. But if you dont pick me for MHO I will cut myself.

[FckY0u998]

and i'm sure you made it go down hill purposely

[Andres77]

Run even faster!