Have you ever assumed someone didn’t like you but found out they are just shy in love & move slowly? Or were you the love-slug?

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I move real slow and it’s caused misunderstandings in the past. Just curious if anyone experienced something similar?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

With every woman I've ever met I think. Or I'm just the world's worst judge of character. I can't have feelings for any woman if I don't feel them from her. Women are Notorious for wanting to be chased. And I have to really like her to do that.

The last woman I took a liking to showed interest in me, but she'd waffle. And she did this for about a year. Finally she just stopped talking to me completely. My personal opinion is she just liked the attention. And I think that's pretty much most women. I think most like the thought of a relationship, the feelings they get from a relationship. But most don't really want to do what's necessary to have a successful relationship.

I don't worry about it because if I care about someone I never stop caring about them. This woman is in a relationship with another guy. And I still care about her. I can separate those from romantic feelings for someone. And I think this is problematic for most people I'm not shy, I'm just VERY controlled with my emotions. As I've said before there's a part of me that NO ONE will ever reach. That will always be mine. And I think that's a problem for some. People want not for you to love them, but hopelessly love them. And that will never be with me.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I don't recall pursuing any girl hard if it didn't seem like she had an interest in me.

In 9th and early 10 grade, there were a few instances when girls sent me very clear signals and I wanted to go out with them, but I never did anything about it. I guess I was shy and awkward. Plus, at that age, we lived with our parents and I didn't have a car or much money, so there wasn't a way to actually take them out. By the time I thought about them enough and decided to make a move, it was too late.

Once I turned 16 and got a car, things were different. A good place for dates was the drive-in movie theater.

NotTacocaT6969 · Accepted Answer

One of my friends started to act interested in me.

I low-key asked him out twice when I was single, he blew me off both times and I decided I wouldn’t waste my time with a third attempt. Clearly he’s not interested.

I started dating a guy and my friend who had seemingly rejected me kind of fell apart.

He was suddenly weird about hugging me and he barely said a word…normally he was very talkative.

I was worried about him and asked him what was wrong. He wouldn’t answer.

I just kind of grabbed him and hugged him the way we always used to hug. After a few seconds, he hugged me back so tight it almost hurt.

He went half way back to normal after that.

I think this means I fucked up and read signs of rejection from him that weren’t actually there…

77five · Accepted Answer

I never experienced a guy liking me romantically or sexually but there have been instances where someone somewhat close to the guy told me he was into me. But I would have never have thought that since those guys weren't shy by any means and a lot of them were quite hostile towards me. All of them were guys that slept with anyone so I don't know why they were cold or didn't pursue anything with me if they were into me. I didn't like those guys at all but still, I wonder why I was a no-go for them.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I am a slug 🐌. 🤣 If I sense someone doesn’t like me even if I like him or crushing on him, I just slowly avoid him and move on.

Part2603 · Answer

Might have happened to me (with disastrous consequences) quite recently.

You know, I could spit game theory and tell you to play it close to the vest, to always match your partner's level as closely as possible...

But I think that it's just an unavoidable part of life that some partners you meet will have different speeds.

I think the thing to do is to have presence of mind to just be as comfortable with that difference as you can be. Just because one person hasn't fully come around to the exact point that the other is, doesn't mean that it's doomed, or there's an incompatibility, or fundamental lack of understanding or communication.

Jump then fall. Otherwise, what the fuck are you even doing?

Dranana · Answer

There was this guy friend I had from shs. We weren't really close friends. Just my friends friend. We used to talk when we were about to complete high school. When I started University, I got his no# from s friend cos lemme tell you folks. I was crushing on this guy. So I got his no# and we started reminiscing about the past. And then , the unexpected happened. He told me had a crush on me long before I even became friends with him. He was watching me on the sidelines. And told me also that I looked like the kinda girl who was hard to approach. I was devastated. Because bro, I liked him and all this while, he liked me back? I was pissed I didn't get to know him earlier and realise he liked me. It still hurts though. We still friends though but not like we used to be. This sucks

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend literall thought I was going to move in and kiss her for about 3 months before I actually did. We weren't dating at that point. I only asked her out the day after we made out. I know the exact place I was when she said yes. It's not there anymore, but I can give a rough estimation of where it was (It was a park pathway that was repalced, I know where it was because there was a crack there, since it was replaced I don't know exactly where the crack was).

melanieeeB · Answer

Mostly I notice someone, think to myself cause of their behavior or something about them that he must not like me and I'm not interested in pursuing someone where I assume he doesn't like me and so I move on.
And afterwards, someday, through someone else, it comes out that they did like me but it's already too late cause I don't have patience for shy people at all

Fuentes · Answer

I'm a man I don't always read the signs and sometimes I don't care too know or figure it out but I already have a good idea if a chick comes up to me and starts talking to me or saying hi constantly more then any other would. But I do assume a lot of chick's are just being nice especially in this climate.

Alex8736 · Answer

Sometimes moving too slow can be a disadvantage where someone else might come along and be very forward and opportunity can be lost which happened to me before and one of my friends told me that "if you hesitate you masturbate" 😇

TallAnon · Answer

Hmm, I've only seen the colleagues I've been working with for the past 3 years a handful of times and as we all know, chatting doesn't paint the best picture of someone. Esepcially when the only reason you have to reach out to people is when there's trouble. (Need assistance, information, etc.)
So I've definitely thought some of them disliked me, some might, but most probably don't care. So then if I do get an optimistic message once in a while, it puts things into perspective.

dustybiker · Answer

I never had time with that. They were a good match for someone else. I need more passion.

Heolurt · Answer

Nope, everytime I thought someone might like me and everytime I knew they didn't like me, yielded the same result, they didn't like me. It's how I knew to give up.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i walk away. no eye contact. no feelings hurt

Shy_Steve · Answer

We all know us Guys can get feelings earlier than a Woman can and we know it can make us seem desperate, That's usually because we don't have that many People show interest in us.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

This has happened to me before because for months I thought that one of my guy friends was secretly in love with me and he was giving me signs that he liked me but I was in denial and thought he was just being nice anyway fast forward to July of this year he texted me and told me that he liked me and he's been my boyfriend for a little over two months now

Juxtapose · Answer

I always assume people are uninterested until they very clearly tell me otherwise 🤷‍♂️

exitseven · Answer

I used to be painfully shy with girls. Even when I knew they were into me I still could not get up the courage to ask her out.

Anonymous · Answer

I find it comfortable to believe girls are not into me. And i was told the opposite. Yet when i reach out they ignore me. And it's always me writing first.

I assume these girls are not that much into me after all. Either that or they are not ready for love at this time. But then again, i find it much more comfortable to believe the former. 😌😌 I'm sure that they won't ignore a man, that they are into strong enough.

d3n0939 · Answer

Maniputors and toxic, narc ones have the same trait.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I just assume that everyone doesn’t like me because why?

JSmuve · Answer

omg, love slug! I've never heard this term before but I'm definitely stealing it

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hmm. Interesting question. 🤔. I don't know! This may have happened before. But I never found out! 🤷

NathanDavis · Answer

I was usually the slug... lmao

Zolly99999 · Answer

Yes it happened to me in the past...

Guardian45 · Answer

Sometimes, I don't move so fast. Nervous, I guess

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I could been that slug ❤️

Jennz6 · Answer

I am not shy now but I am very submissive

Anonymous · Answer

I've experienced both. 🙃

jimmy2 · Answer

No worries just let them know

Debbie14217 · Answer

no i haven't

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