Yes. Quite a bit, actually. And usually it's made sense. I'm not sure if you mean "make a move" as in do some sort of thing where a guy treis to get some action... or if you just mean telling her I'm interested.
If I get a sesne that it would easily blow up in my face, I'm not stupid enough to hit on someone. Let's say, when I was working with someone. I've had a few work crushes that I could tell would not go well for me if I pursued it, even though I try to handle things in a "classy good guy" way.
Usually it's pretty offensive for a girl to find out I'm attracted to them. That's their issue, I know, but if that's how they see it, I'm not pursuing it just for the emotional baggage issues they'd have. If they scream or flip out when a guy asks them out for coffee, forget it... how would I survive something genuinely bad happening? How would they treat other people?
So, yes, I've hid my interest, and maybe there's the argument that that isn't "healthy" or I should never be that freaked out about asking a woman out... but then there's the argument that when I have seen red flags, it makes no sense to ask out that girl. In a way, it's smart. I don't have to ask out every attractive woman I see.
And I can tell you, as far as I know, I've never been anyone's crush, secret or otherwise (though, yes, the whole point of having a secret crush is that they don't know, but...). It might be nice, depending on who it was. I don't think I'll ever have that "I had SUCH a crush on you in high school" situation.
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I think you're better off being rejected once in a while than regret never knowing. Been there, had a crush on a girl, never said anything. In my eyes, she was a 10, fit, beautiful, shared common interests. We've been friends for over 10 years and we've always gotten along great. I never thought she would have feelings for me. I never thought I was her type. I thought we were nothing more than just great friends and what I had was a harmless infatuation. She became single last year and I thought of telling her, but I chickened out, afraid of ruining the friendship. A few months ago, we got drunk and she came clean about having a crush on me for years. She told me how for a while, I was on her mind every night before she went to bed and in her dreams constantly. Nothing happened that night because I was in the process of breaking up with my gf and cheating is not my thing. I was just waiting for the right time end my relationship. I told her I was ending it with my gf and that's when she told me everything. Unfortunately, by this point, she was in a new relationsihp and she decided to give it a chance. I should have said something last year when we were both single and I regret it. I know I shouldn't wish bad things for anyone but I hope they break up so I can have my shot. All these years, we had chances to be together and all lost because we both stayed quiet. So, go for it, no regrets!
Yes for sure! I've had so many crushes that I have never confessed! I've never been asked out and I'm 18 in two days so my confidence is at an all time low. Part of why I'm shy. One time this guy with a girlfriend that I was really really into told his friends he thought I was hot but that's the furthest thing I've gotten as far as requited love. And another time my other crush and I were making really deep eye contact with me and his friends patted him on the back and he smiled so I don't know if that meant anything but it never happened. Nothing happened after that he was so cute and outgoing so I don't know why he never talked to me I'm a lot shyer. He would just look at me and that was last year. Nothing like this has happened this year. :(
Omg yes it was something I regret bt at same time glad I did bc after I always tell the guy I like my feelings bc I never want to feel that what if feeling again its the worst I rather know than not know regardless of rejection bc for me I get a sense of closure. Now I don't approach guys bt im saying if they approach me and we know each other and I start to like them I will let them know. If I don't know them I drop hints like a meet me half way thing signaling for him to approach if he doesn't then I know two things either he isn't interested or is scared to approach and if he is I don't want him it helps me know if he has confidence which I love so for me it all works out :)
yeah. like... always. lol. but in my defense, the last serious-serious crush i had, i am like 85% sure he knew, so he could have easily done something if he was interested. which he apparently wasn't. that fuck. though in his defense, he was the shy sort :(
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All the time.
I wouldn't make a move if
- they were already in a relationship
- I got the impression they liked someone else
- they were in a firm group of friends and I wasn't 100% sure they liked me
- they had recently had a fling with one of my friends
- I thought they had a bad personality
- They were really close with a friend, and I didn't really know them personally (eg at a house party)
Basically there are a whole range of circumstances, of which I have listed a few, which would stop me from making a move.
But if you like a guy and THEY aren't making a move, it is more likely that they simply don't like you, rather than like you but have a reason for not making a move.Yes!
A girl named Danika.
I work in the building trades. Anytime a couple or group of us tradesmen were talking & Danikas name came up almost everyone said "she hot"
I had a chance on a Valentine's day. I went into the office of the building (where Danika worked) to get some keys for certain vaults. Anyway it was a Friday & Valentine's day. I said Happy Friday . She said thanks you too. I said ehh I didn't get a paycheck or a Valentine's card. She said she didn't get a Valentine's card but she got paid. I thought about sending her a card & some candy or flowers (through the freight elevator operator)
But I didn't. I thought she was out of my league.
After a while she left for a different position. I ran into her on the street & noticed she was wearing a diamond ring. I took her hand & said "WOW lucky guy!" She honestly responded, well you never asked.Yes. This happened with two girls. Girl 1 I met in elementary school and I had a crush on her ever since. Through the years I watched as she dated different guys. Finally after freshman year of highschool she was moving to Arizona and I told her how I felt and she said she was sorry. Few months later I find out she is seeing this guy in Arizona and she is pregnant at 16.
Girl 2 was in college, last year. We met at my friends party and even though it seemed like she was gonna friendzone me we hit it off. Every time my friend and I would go to the bar she would be dancing with another guy and at the end of the night she would dance with me. I didn't know what to think. Then one night I saw her from a distance and decided to say "hi" but I overheard her talking to her friends about how ugly I was and that I would never have a shot with any attractive girl and that she was only using me. Nobody knows this but thats the moment that I really started to see how ugly I really am.That's like the story of my life ever since I attempted and it failed cause one of my asshole friends told the chick before I was ready. Then she got all shy and everything got messed up. I haven't told them or acted on it in years its probably why i'm still a virgin and single to be honest.
So many times. BUT NEVER AGAIN! IT SUCKS! all the 'what might have been' feels. Better to try and accept the occasional defeats than to try not.
Yeah when I was a kid but when I got to high school I made a move on a girl that I was just captivated by, unfortunately things ended badly when I let her know but I am glad it didn't workout because it gives me something to work for and that is one day to find someone better I deserve it after what I have been through. ..
Yep. Then she moved away, reconnected with me over Facebook, we talked on the phone, and when you thought it was going so well, she started talking about her boyfriend. It gets worse, she even conference him in our conversation and then talk dirty to him. I got so drunk after that.
yes. funny thing is I had a crush on her and knew that she liked me back... I found it rather unbelievable but numerous friends told me over years that she was really into me. still I never made a move
Yep. Multiple times. One girl I remember especially, we spent a lot of great time together, I mean it seemed we were together all the time & I know she liked me, but I just never did anything about it. I always regret it.
Yeah, I was really attracted to someone.. Quite recently but I never made a move I said hi and smiled she did the same.. I knew she wanted me to come and start a convo but I walked away.. It was at the gym..
Yes, I do.. did. I don't think I've ever been someone else's crush. I always hide my interest. It's stupid I know. But I do that since that one time I didn't and got hurt. Self preservation I guess...
Personally I like a girl who enjoys being fit and works to be fit. If a girl is maybe not the skinniest in the world I'm not against it but if they're overweight and just eat McDonald's everyday and then complain about their weight then I don't have the time for them. Either work hard in the gym, eat healthy or both but they can't just expect to be skinny and healthy
Yes, but never again. I'm done regretting my lack of action. From now on, whenever I like a guy, I'll muster up the guts to ask him out. The worst thing they can possibly do is reject you riiiiiight-riiiiiight-o?
definitely, yes lol sometimes you can't because of circumstance or if I know that it could never lead to anything more (like a relationship) then I wouldn't bother telling them.
countless times, especially as a kid, i was worried about rejection and what other kids would think about my crush
I haven't had a crush in a while though...Yes, I did
I never made a move because she had a boyfriend, then when they broke up I tried to make a move but she told me that she is sick of men and not ready for anyone.
One week later she got a boyfriend, so she crushed my heart, and now she is marriedToo many times... But if you think about it, if you both really like each other you really don't "need to make a move" it will just happen naturally.
I've crushed on a lot of people I didn't even talk to. Most of those crushes were temporary things and I wasn't actually that into them.
Due to my morbid fear of rejection, combined with my insecurity about my looks abd height, I have never made a move in my life.
Yea but its usually when I'm a situation were the circumstances won't allow it. Such as I have no clue if they like me or they are already in a relationship.
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